Holidays and step children

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Do your step children come on every holiday with you ? What's fair?
My DH has 2 children (my step children ages 12 and 10) we have 2 together (ages nearly 4 and 2). We are going on holiday for the first time as a 6 next year. It's been really difficult finding accommodation for 6 and somewhere with activities for all kids. Even travel agent said accommodation for 6 is hard to find. Until now we've just done days out, overnight stays here and there, and a couple of caravan holidays in UK. I can see the elder 2 getting a bit bored of this now. (Understandably). After next year we'll be tied to school holidays, some of the prices are during school holidays. I don't think we could afford school holidays every year for 6. We will also be tied to a minimal choice of good accommodation for 6 and less choice of destination. Im also thinking its a bit unfair that our younger 2 will miss out. Do you ever alternate holidays when SC come? Does anyone know of good places that cater for 6. I think it definitely works out better if we're all inclusive too.

I love all these people stating all these rules.

You can't do this, you have to do that.

You can do what you like and what works best for your family. There is no rule that all kids need to go on every holiday.

It all depends on what relationship you all have and how the sc feel about it.

My Dsis has 4 DC. They generally go for apartment type accomodation.

It would be a 3 bed apartment where 2 DC share a room.

Portugal and Turkey are good all inclusive locations. There are others I'm sure.

It all depends on what relationship you all have and how the sc feel about it.

Indeed, but I just can’t imagine any 10/12 year olds who have a good relationship with their dad would feel ok about him taking their two younger siblings abroad but not them.

Indeed, but I just can’t imagine any 10/12 year olds who have a good relationship with their dad would feel ok about him taking their two younger siblings abroad but not them.

The children may prefer a holiday with just their dad so they're not competing for attention from younger half siblings and step mum. They may prefer a holiday that involves age tailored activities. They may not be that close with dad and would rather not be away from their mum for a week.

There are a lot of factors that may mean non resident children don't want to go on holiday with the nrp, or there may be a compromise/altnernative that makes the children happier.

I think it depends on how much they get on and how well you are accepted as SM. Enforcing holidays always together when there is tension that never gets better is not a good idea.

(I’m never going away with my step kids ever again!)

I have a similar predicament as in I am 7m pregnant with my first. DP has a DSS. His ExP has a baby with her new partner. We are having DSS when they take their new baby on holiday this year as it's in school time. However, when I suggested to my single mother friend that next year Id like a holiday with DSS and one just me, DP & DD she said I was evil!

If we went away, It would be when we weren't due to have DSS anyway but am I really being evil?

@Italianshark only on MN would you be considered evil it seems !! (Lighthearted). If you can afford 2 holidays as one will have to be in term time DSS then imo why shouldn't you benefit from one out of term time, especially as his mum is just taking the baby and leaving her son at home.