I've read these boards - lurking - for a few weeks. I have two DSCs - a boy and girl aged 12 and 14. I married my DH 4 years ago. Whilst my DSS is fine, he accepts us and was excited when me and DH had a child, DSD has always resented me.
She's 14 now and I want to just have a good talk with her. I want to let her know that her resentment of me is affecting the whole household and that she needs to change her attitude.
I've noticed on these boards that the general advice is that the step children are not to blame and the step parent either did something wrong or is not trying hard enough, or is 'over stepping the line'.
I think I am a fairly OK step parent to both my DSCs. I've never had a go at them. I have always tried to be mindful of how they are feeling. I get it, it's tough having your parents divorce. It's tough seeing a new baby. It's tough sharing your Dad. I get it!
I've been through it myself with my own parents. But surely, at some point, you've got to get over yourself. My DSD is given so much attention, pandered to etc by me and DH but it's getting too much. A future with a glaring teenager is just not going to work.