When will they stop arguing?

[FoofLeakage]

I've been with OH for almost a year. OH and his ex separated spring 2015. Their divorce has been long and full of mutual sniping, bickering, court cases (occupation order, child access, non-molestation orders). They slag each other off.

It's stressful to watch.

She files court cases against him monthly, and she calls the police on him for the slightest thing (e.g. bumping into each other in the street).

I feel like an accessory to some bizarre sitcom.

Veteran stepmums out there, tell me, when can I expect this to calm down? I split with my ex a year ago and we are now completely neutral towards each other. When spend so much time, energy and bitterness on someone from the past?

[FoofLeakage]

So did he not park by her house for the entire year before you came along? Why did he start doing it when you came along?

He did it the whole time, but she only developed a problem with it once she knew I was on the scene.


What was the point of this thread?

To genuinely ask "When will they stop arguing?" as I have no experience of feuds lasting this long. I wonder if I will suddenly start acting bitter if exH gets a partner?

[JenLindleyShitMom]

This is all very odd. I wish you well OP.

[WannaBe]

So this bloke wanted you to wear his ex's clothes when you first got together, and you're more concerned about their arguments?


The man is clearly obsessed. No wonder she doesn't want him anywhere near her or the kids. And you sound as if you're enjoying the drama. Seriously, wearing the ex's clothes? Moving into her house, relate after less than a year? Just what exactly is it about this bloke that makes it impossible for you to want to see through him when everyone else clearly can?

[stitchglitched]

Yep I agree with Wannabe about you liking the drama. You had the other thread where you wrote the most manipulative dramatic emails because he wanted to see his daughter before you after being away for 10 days. Then he is wanting you to try on her clothes and texting her to ask when she is going to come home, at the same time as trying to get you pregnant despite the fact that you actively avoid time with your other kids. The whole thing is one big mess and none of the kids deserve to be in the middle.

[Lunar1]

Bloody hell ive just realised who you are. Have fun at relate!

[Youdontevenknowme101]

Have been with my partner 5 years. He split with his ex 9 nearly 10 years ago and she is still so bitter. Still constantly in court, she still phones police on him for everything, emails abuse daily and uses children as weapons.

Sometimes you just have to accept that things won't change and be the best you can be for both your partner and the children involved.

[jojo2916]

Poor you that's hard I couldn't cope with my dp talking to his ex all the time, a broken marriage is hard and of course should be the last resort but they have split now so he needs to let go communicate only through solicitors or texts re arranging the dc. I would need him to do that to stay in a relationship with me. They've had a year before you even met him to talk about their marriage etc tell him to move on or he'll lose you, obviously up to you what you do that's just what I would do.