AIBU

[Fianceechickie]

Aibu to wonder why women who aren't step mums... are even reading the step parenting threads let alone feel qualified to comment and give advice to women who are and who are struggling in very difficult situations? So much condemnation and lack of empathy. You can barely get through a whole thread without reading such comments. Makes me so cross. Anyone know if there's a Facebook support/discussion group original similar place to get non judgmental support from other step mums? If not I think I might start one!

I'm not a step-mum but my children have a (lovely) step-mum and DH is their step-dad. He finds it really hard, so while I'm not a step-parent myself I'm a mum in the middle of a step-parenting family network.
Do I qualify? There's times I'd like to post.

Rach cakes I think anyone who has experience of the step life be it as a child mother, father, ex etc actually has an opinion and can present a different view/ thoughts etc.

I wish mine had had a better experience. I think his next partner is going to have a hard time whether people think it is justified or not. Mine are jaundiced and at 9 and 6 have a hardness and cynicism that is sad to see in such young children.

Agree RachCakes anyone with experience should post.

I think some StepMums and stepdads would sigh a huge sigh of relief to hear from a positive parent.

It's tough, really tough at times :)

I'm sorry your husband is having a tough time, I would also say that if you wanted to post to help him or to help you understand what he is going through you would get lots of support.

lookluv your story is so upsetting, heartbreaking for your DC I hope that their father does find a nice lady who is patient and kind as they really have (as have you by the sounds of it) been through enough

Didnt notice a step parent page. I am one and thanks for bringing to my attention

I agree that there seem to be a lot of posters who can't wait to tell an OP what a disgrace they are, and that I do not believe their motivation is actually giving advice or helping out the DSC in question they are apparently so outraged on behalf of, but rather just to feel self righteous. But increasingly I see this all over mumsnet, with any OP who is less than perfect. Less and less actual support and advice, more and more collective outrage.

I think posts that are just a couple of lines of telling someone struggling how awful they are do no good, especially when dozens of other posters then follow suit. It means that some posters who do give advice but in a blunt, direct way are not taken on board.