Anyone else had enough?! Join me for a glass of virtual prosecco!

[happygirl87]

Sometimes I find being a step-mother all too much! Can't even be bothered to go into it - just pass the ! Anyone else?!

FFS!!!!! Was told the kids would all be treated to a take out tonight, something all three like. Now DH said he's gonna get his two a take out ds won't eat and give ds cheese on toast!!!' He took the sc out for a nandos on Monday, so it's not like they haven't already had a treat (without ds). So now the get two treats and ds gets none!!! Wtf is wrong with him?

I'd be very mad at that WGAF, and I'd tell him to pop by the take away DS likes as well.

No way that is really out of order. Sorry I missed how old is your ds? He will start noticing the different treatment.
We had similar with the toys, dss putting my ds cars away and telling him not to touch them until next time he's here. If it was his own stuff I wouldn't mind even though ds shares everything of his. But to try to control which of ds own toys he can play with including cars he had only just got for his birthday I will not stand for. Only regret not going on abit more and finding out why dh thinks it's ok. It's like living in a mystical universe at times. When you're just like wtaf?

I told him it's not on, ds is three, he likes the pita, salad and grilled chicken with hummus so made DH order one.

Now DH is showing a 14 yr old how to wipe a table...

And he's been told "what the hell" in a stroppy voice by a 9yr old sd when asked to help!! Is that normal? If I'd said that to my dad I'd have got a clip!

Honestly, EOW I think I'm going to change, I'm going to be positive but then shit like this happenes and I can't look at any of them. I have a glass in hand now (even though I wasn't going to drink). And the irony is I had DH telling me in a loud voice in ear shot of the kids that I was "being pathetic" because I said I though the food situation wasn't fair.

I could happily not see the lot of them again.....

Sorry for all the recent rants

Right! That is it! I've just heard ds say "hey! That's my book!"...and DH said "so what, give it to sd, she'd like to read it"....I laughed at the irony and he's made a snide remark. Can't do this any more

I'm sat here shaking I'm so angry, but now isn't the time or place. I can't have our son treated like this. Treat me like shit, fine. But not my son

Oh WhoGives you sound like you have had a terrible evening all round
Your DH clearly hasn't taken anything you said onboard. The dinner thing I agree with you about too he should have been taking all 3 out or none. Especially if he has already taken the other two earlier in the week.
Was the snide remark about the book also in front of the DSC just to undermine you even more. The your being pathetic remark in front of them would have made me angry too. Your not being pathetic at all your being a good mother protecting your DS.
Hope he makes this up to you tomorrow.

I honestly feel I could cry, he is causing so much resentment. I wanted to go snatch the book back but tbh, it's not sd fault, I want to go else where with ds tomorrow, let them all get on with it. On Monday, I want him to go

The book remark was just to me, but as he walked out he I'm hard to be around and the kids may have heard that. We made a rule a while ago, I asked one thing. For sd to be in bed by 9:30.....she's still up. He will I cant be bothered anymore. I asked one thing.

That was meant to be *well I can't

WhoGives I'm quite sure I would be crying by now if I was you. It really is so hard being a step parent.
My father had a rule in our house even when I was a teenager that we had to be 'out of his face' by 9pm every night. That ment in our rooms and not seen again. I'll be asking for the same thing when DSD is older.

Is your DP letting her stay up because he is in a huff with you?

You and your DS should definitely go somewhere nice together tomorrow and have a good time. What does DS like to do when you go out?

Off to cry x

sorry to hear that

Woken up still angry, trying to find a place to go this weekend. Feel more positive thiugh :)

WGAF, I hope you've found somewhere nice to take your DS this weekend, because it sounds like hell at your place! I would be constantly in tears if my child was continually sidelined by his own DF!
I think you probably know in your heart that the time has come to think very seriously about your future, this is never going to be a good environment for your boy!!!

Not our dss weekend, but we asked to have him tonight and tomorrow as neighbours have parties we're all invited to.

Exw asks dp if he can take him to his club at two, so yes, dp agrees to that although it makes our day tricky and she's actually far nearer where he needs to go.
Then last night phones about nine pm, can she bring him here nine am as she has a haircut which she presumably just found out about at nine pm on a Friday and so he needs to come here.
Dp knows I won't be pleased as have a cold, am wiped out, we have a lot to get done today and I wanted to get a lie in. So he says can she make it nine thirty? No, apparently not.
They turned up at twenty to ten.

Does my head in. IT'S NOT EVEN OUR WEEKEND!

Dsd(12) is here this weekend. All fine last night, her and my dd (10) played on the Wii and all good. This morning dsd threw up all over the living room carpet, hall and toilet floor. Dp and I cleaned everything up and sent her to clean herself up. I got dsd a glass of water and told her to sip only. Then I suggested after she threw up again that maybe she should go to bed and sleep it off. She said she was fine.

I took my dd to the shops (maths homework on shopping items) and when we got back dsd was asleep on the sofa, dp in one chair leaving one seat free. So dd and I went upstairs. I can't sit in the armchair because of my back. So now I'm back downstairs and I still can't get on the sofa, because dsd is comfortable and shouldn't have to move because she's ill. And he's cooking her food, despite insisting on 24 hours without whenever anyone else throws up.

He's being a Disney fuckwit. And she left a soaking wet towel lying on dds bedroom floor and there are clothes just chucked down from last night and today. But I'm not allowed to say a fucking word as she will get stressed (her mum's words) and just expected to accept it. So fucking pissed off.

Offs Coffee, that's a hard deal to cope with! Why is it always the child that doesn't live in the family home that gets to be number one priority?! Do they have special dispensation to be little monsters, just because they don't live there 24/7?! Sorry if that's not acceptable....but it's what I've experienced!

Whogives deep breaths.....

I would have cried too. And tried very hard not to go nuts with them, esp DP.

Just realised your DSCs are teenagers - what the hell is wrong with them - why are they snatching toys and books from and being mean to a toddler? Would your husband allow them to do that to other young family members or young children of friends?

At 14 it would not have occurred to me to want to 'play' with a toddler's toys unless it was to amuse the toddler for a little while. Why are they not doing age-appropriate things?

The food thing, the book thing but mostly the snide loud remark thing would lead me to be having some really serious talks with DP. He's being an arse about this. What is he like the rest of the time when DSC are not there?

coffee How annoying. If she's ill, go to bed. Do they do this sort of thing a lot?

I think most of us have to put up with the non resident dc being treated as if they can do no wrong, regardless of age, behaviour etc. Frustrating. Then I have dsds mum to deal with because obviously her child is as special sensitive snowflake who needs to be treated differently as otherwise she won't be able to come and see dad anymore.

Emotional blackmail but unfortunately exactly what works on the non resident parent which allows them to turn a blind eye.

Can't believe teens wanting to play with toddler toys either! Why can't their dad see that's unacceptable behaviour towards a toddler? Oh yes, Disney dad.

Well it's not about the actual toys is it, it's about them having exactly what they want....which is obviously far more important !!!

Things slightly better here. We've been out, after dropping teen at work, with dsd and my dd. They are now upstairs playing a game. The problem I feel is that dsd is here so infrequently that it's a huge adjustment for all of us and now things start to settle, she's going home tonight. She hasn't had her laptop here, which she's normally glued to, as her mum took it off her for some misdemeanor at home. This really helped as otherwise she's just on it all the time. She's actually been part of the family as she's not had a screen to escape to.

Don't know when we will have her here again, probably one weekend before Xmas and then 2-3 days after Xmas but only if it doesn't clash with her mum's endless arrangements. Dp finds it hard when he finds out dsd has been with family friends just along the road on weekends he could have had her. Then when she is here, we get the request to sleep at her friends house. So difficult. Maybe her mum shouldn't have moved her away to live in the back of beyond.