DH and I have been together 5 years and have 2 DSC kids from our previous marriages. His are 12 and 10 and mine are 7 and 5. I really love DH but, being totally honest (and knowing I am going to get blasted), I struggle with living with his kids who are here 50% of the time. Compared to some of the threads here, things are really not that bad and DCs are nice kids but there are multiple things that annoy me, DSS being one of them. He is quite clingy and demanding, and often sulky if not getting 100% of DH's attention, and DH treats him like a 2 year old which I find so annoying. I try to grin and bear it but end up feeling mean and resentful. It's also really hard to deal with the change in pace/atmosphere when DSC are here. They of course become DH's sole focus and his main aim is to spend as much time with them as possible so my DCs of course take a back seat which I know DS finds hard to deal with sometimes, especially as he does not have a close relationship with his own dad. I don't think the resentment I feel is helped by the fact that DH and DSC have been living at mine for free for the last two months as DH has not yet sold his flat. He buys food but does not pay towards bills or the cleaner or anything else which grates a little. I told myself to give it 6 months before I ask him for a contribution by which point he should have sold his place but still, it feels like I am paying to put a roof over everyone's head. Getting to the point where i feel I need to make a decision. I am not sure I will ever be happy with the situation as it is now. Should I just grin and bear it and see it as a cost of being with DH? Or if I cannot embrace the role of stepmother should I end the relationship or suggest we live separately? It would be extremely difficult to do that but I sometimes feel that the only solution is to live apart.