Do-gooding clique thread

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Thanks for the name dozie

I am afraid why that as much as I enjoyed talking to you yesterday and found you to be an amazingly strong person I will no longer engage with you regarding Tapper

Morning

Just stop the insults - they won't halt the thread or stop us talking, and as someone in a difficult situation trying to shut down a support network, I'm surprised by your actions.

Morning Perp

Really you all SAW the post at that time of night before mumsnet deleted it.
She is on the verge of a breakdown - that doesnt take a mind reader anyone with a hint of empathy can see that.

My life will not exactly be changed whether you engage with me ir not - I couldn't actually care less - I care for the opinions of 4 other people, 3 of them are 6 and under and all of them show more empathy.

You can see people replying to it before nightwatch hid it why, so clearly it was seen

Plenty of people have tried to be nice and helpful on previous threads and received abusive responses. Nobody needs to be pleasant in the face of abuse.

As I said why I would love to carry on chatting with you but I will not engage with you regarding Tapper not that I don't want to engage with you at all.
If she needs support then she of course can TALK to us or she can start her own thread or she can seek help in rl. Either way this thread is not about just one person and I think it is unfair that somebody who does not wish to act appropriately should receive so much attention from twats.

Well said Floss

It's a modest hope. Fingers crossed

FFS Why!

Why are you so very determined to paint her as a victim. You simply CANNOT apply your situation to every other stepmother's, much as you'd like to.

There's support and then there's blind defence.

If anyone and I do mean anyone wants advice and support I will gladly supply it to the best of my ability.

If someone spews vitriol at me or at a collective I won't just meekly take it on the off chance that she's awfully upset.

Furthermore, you might want to re-read her list of grievances. The things that you think are happening to her are not happening.

She even said herself that her problem is that she doesn't want them there full stop.

After this, I'm not going to talk about it either.

Am I missing something here? Someone comes on and calls posters twats, no one really says much, then another poster comes on and calls everyone bullies and tells them they should hang their head in shame for........not really saying much to being called a twat?

I am not working until later so in between my exciting life of laundry and washing up I will hang around

Random thing but I always believed a twat was a pregnant fish or was that some stupid comment that has no truth behind it that I have made up

Snort @ hang their head in shame for........not really saying much to being called a twat?

In the most recent posts she has been accused of abusing her scs and of not being an adult and thats without scrolling back.

Carry on - and if she does breakdown or worse I hope you remember this sadly I fear you wont.

With that I am off to a theme park with my children and wonderful husband.

Tapper do something kind to yourself - everyday - mumsnet isnt worth it - xxx

Have a lovely day. I am sure we will be seeing you when you get back

I'm taking the dog for a long walk guys. I hate it when the 'detached from reality' space-cadet conversations start before breakfast.

See you all later.

If anyone is mentally unwell enough to sadly reach the point of a breakdown (and unfortunately you're probably close to the truth) then it won't be because of my not liking being called a twat on an internet chat forum.

That's rather shaky ground you're on there, why.

Smacks of blaming the family and friends for the suicide of a loved one...not quite as intense but on the same lines, no?

I have only had one coffee Arse

Ok I will try. Maybe when you have defended somebody who then even though there has been hours of other discussion and silly hats;.' proceeds to call people twats with no obvious or immediate reason it kind blows the 'poor poster she is the innocent one' out of the water. You then have to defend your actions so the easiest way is to blame those who were on the receiving end of the verbal attack. It is deflection in it's crudest form.

I'm going to walk my dog too, your post has guilted me into addressing the fact that he's been gazing at me hopefully for half an hour while I peruse my iPad.

I love the word peruse to Nicki for word of the day

Collective attack as a form of defence - interesting. I feel I have touched a nerve as none of you are naive enough to think this is based on one comment.

FGS there's only one poster attacking round here and that's YOU! We are responding to what you're saying, you just don't like the responses which personally I think are quite measured and sensible. You need to learn to tell the difference between being attacked and being disagreed with.