I hate my step kids!

[Tappergirl]

They live with us full time, are parasites, and have ruined my relationship with my husband. Now though, I blame it on him for being spineless and taking every spat as my fault. I dont want to walk away but I can not see another option :-(

People like you piss me off.

My dad died when I was a baby. My stepdad and my mum brought me up. He was amazing (until we got older and he wasn't the best to my mum) my mum ended up depressed and I had to bring my brothers up.

When I was older my brothers had to move in with me and my boyfriend, in our two bedroom apartment because they had nowhere else to go. We struggled, had lack of space, whatever

Me nor my DP treated them with such hate as you are exhibiting. We were only in our early twenties yet my partner showed more compassion than you. And I mention age since you tried to put me down earlier because of it

So do carry on complaining about how hard you have it and about these 'evil' teenagers that are basically doing fuck all wrong.

Tapper tbf it is you that is addressing everyone else so you are inviting replies. We had moved on and were discussing other things.

If you wish to be left alone then hide the thread. It is the easiest way.

Go away and get on with your hysterical bonding then.

There is a nasty minority of SM subculture that needs examining/ exposing.

There is a reason why i linked to that blog. Brdgrl and others brought up the "miniwife" thing and tried to dress it up as some properly rubberstamped thing because a book had been written about it. So i googled it and found that, far from being a proper thing it's actually coined from a position of hatred and vitriol. I posted it to show it for what it really is.

truffle thankyou for posting it, it opened my eyes to this horrible sub culture that is going on. Truly horrific.

In 2 weeks time you'll be back telling us your DH is a cock, you hate your SC and everything is wrong with the world but none of it is your fault.

More than likely that will be under a name change.

Absolutely truffle -thanks for linking it - this 'miniwife' thing is even more toxic than I realised.

I am pleased you did truffle as much as I hated to read it.

That blog is vile. It makes me feel physically sick that women treat children like that. I would not treat an animal so badly, let a lome a child.

I am glad that my DC are too old to be abused by a step-parent now, but in all honesty ai believe if a woman was treating them like that DH would chuck her out. Children should always come before partners.

I've just realised how awful this must be to read as a parent with joint custody, with an ex who has a partner

I can't imagine anyone being so completely void of empathy. Would these women be so awful about another child ? I'm sure they would not be so it can only be rooted in jealousy and insecurity. Tragic.

~ Has expectations that she will be the center of her father's attention or she will punish him by pouting, whining, or ignoring him.

~ New female in the father's life tends to feel "left out," "awkward," or "intrusive" when going out with the father and his mini-wife.

~ Mini-wife will try to compete with stepmother.

~ Mini-wife will feel less like his child and more like "the other woman" in the stepmother's mind.

~ Mini-wife will insist on sitting and walking next to her father at all times.

~ Mini-wife can become inordinately obsessed with her father, calling several times a day or becoming overly needy.

~ Mini-wife may insist on private dates with dad.

~ Mini-wife dwells on the past and wants to talk about times with her dad before her stepmother came into the relationship.

~Mini-wife tattles to her dad on her stepmother.

~Mini-wife tries to circumvent her stepmom's authority by going "over her head" to daddyyyy.

~Mini-wife tends to act and talk "babyish" when around her dad.

~Mini-wife blames everything bad in her life on her stepmother.

Just a psychobabble word for grown women being pathologically jealous of vulnerable little girls

"In the stepmother's mind" being operative. It is so easy to imagine a confused 6/7/8 year old clinging to her dad and regressing as a strange new woman scowls and bristles.

I have to stop reading this stuff.

I've known about this crap for ages but couldn't really make it known without looking a twat if I started a thread about it not to mention the stress from arguing about it. It's why I have kept butting heads with certain posters.

This thread has turned into quite a revelation hasn't it.

Who knew that grown women felt this way about little girls and boys.

The coven would have shouted you down Nicki

This actually scares me. If I ever split up from my DP, had a child that had to go to him 50% or more of the time - I'd be very worried if another woman came into his life and thought these horrid things. I shouldn't have to worry. I should be able to put trust in another woman to have enough compassion as a human being to treat them fairly.

Well if my sole useful contribution to MN is shining a light on this vile concept then i am happy.

Well I for one am not going to be shot down by any coven that advocates such vile ideas & thoughts

I think this thread has been quite the eye opener.

My coven is lovely let's not ruin the word coven by associating it with the likes of that blog ha

It's another reason to have DC with a man you really trust, that's for sure.

Everytime I saw the usual suspects use the phrase 'mini-wife' I flinched, but not enough.

I wonder how many hits I'd get if I searched the site for the phrase?

You have all made this thread into what it is, despicable!

Is 'coven' used in modern wicca?

Oops sorry