I've asked MNHQ...

[ChinaCupsandSaucers]

.....if we can have a little 'note' at the top of the Stepparenting board, with a list of acronyms that cause offence - to ensure that posters get support and threads aren't sidetracked by inadvertent use of common phrases that are less welcome here on MN;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/site_stuff/1811572-Board-notes

The only person you're showing up is yourself.

There is a poster on here called TheCuntingPigeon.

And AnyFucker, of course.

It's a site that permits swearing. People swear. There are sweary threads.
Suggesting that profanity inevitably dilutes a persons point is a bit daft.

Reported me! Oh noes!

Have you actually read much of Mumsnet, Petal?

What about stepdads being called dad?
What about stepgrans being called grandma?

My mum and dad get called grandma and grandad by my brother's ex's daughter, no relation.

Is that ok or offensive?

I may be offended if they were called cunts, but perhaps I shouldn't be.

@Reality

What the fuck?

Why have I been deleted?

To be clear;

We don't delete posts that contain swearing,

We do delete posts that are PAs.

MNHQ.

Can you delete posts with passive aggresive smilies?

G'wan. You know you really want to..

Petal - I think you have acidentally ended up on the wrong website. Netmums >>>>>>>>>>>>>>

What part of my post was a PA? I said that people usingthe term were fucknuggets. As in, generally people, not anyone specific. Is that not allowed now?

@Reality

What part of my post was a PA? I said that people usingthe term were fucknuggets. As in, generally people, not anyone specific. Is that not allowed now?

It's a bit like saying all people with brown hair are shit-heads, in't it? See where we're coming from?

MNHQ

Really?

Sigh.

A thousand apologies, then. Obviously people using a snidey and offensive term to describe their partners ex are not all fucknuggets. Only the ones who continue to do so when told it's offensive.

Is that better?

But I can say that anyone using retard, knowing how offensive it is, is a twat.

Would that be deleted?
Being rude about brown haired people is not a personal attack is it?
Otherwise the millions of posts saying 4x4 owners park like tossers should all have gone.
A sweeping generalisation isn't a PA .
Am I being dim here?

Well that's what I thought, Paggy. But I don't make the rules mores the pity.

Rightly or wrongly the 'BM' term is used on here though, so it would be an attack on those posters it to call them all fucknuggets.

I am confused as to why you were deleted tbh other than because of the trigger fingered profanity police.
But tbh I am not sure why I am on a thread in Step-parenting.
And i am on holiday too

That's probably a good idea. I had absolultely no idea whatsoever that the term 'birth mother' was offensive till I came on MN.

I think that is a reductive line JulieMN - saying all brown haired people are shitheads isn't a personal attack as they are not a person who could feel attacked.

Sit. Diazepam and critical thinking do not make good bedfellows, but I think that is an error in modding.

Gah, calling swathes of people fucknuggets is sometimes the only reason I come here.
Spoilsport.

Me too, on both counts!

I'll slink back to aibu, it's safer....

Julie - I'm not sure how to say this diplomatically, but you might like to check that others at MNHQ agree with you, as it does seem a lot over the top, not very consistent and a bit bonkers. A personal attack is just that surely, personal - which none of the above are.

And er, yes. Don't know why I am on step -parenting either.

I agree Chipping.
A personal attack is ..well...personal.
Surely?

It's the curse of opening 'active convos' isn't it Scone

Yup. Active convos and heavy duty drugs make an interesting mixture. :o