I've asked MNHQ...

[ChinaCupsandSaucers]

.....if we can have a little 'note' at the top of the Stepparenting board, with a list of acronyms that cause offence - to ensure that posters get support and threads aren't sidetracked by inadvertent use of common phrases that are less welcome here on MN;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/site_stuff/1811572-Board-notes

I swear too, but I don't find it such a fundamental part of my communication that I need to litter each sentence within swear words just to make a point.

I thought it would be a good idea to suggest it was banned in the Talk Guidelines. Then, if a thread is started inadvertantly, it can be deleted by MNHQ straight away, with a gentle email message explaining the rules to the new member

China I think your heart is in the right place, but that your suggestion is barking :) MN can't suddenly start saying perfectly ordinary words (like birth and mum) are 'banned' and deleting threads because someone uses the term Birth Mother. That's nuts.

Ok, my response to the thread in hand is that I believe birth mother should only be used in a situation where the mother is not a part of the child's life, for example adoption or surrogacy.

I am not anti-step parents at all, those whom I know are kind and loving individuals. They definitely wouldn't use the term.

The site is post moderated, threads will go ballistic if that term is used, although I agree an email could be sent to anyone with a post or thread deleted as a result.

I haven't berated anyone about anything. I haven't broken guidelines. (And I suspect that Paggy is referring to allnew with regards to the passive-aggressive stuff).

All that I have done is to reiterate that swearing is not a bad thing.

And the mods here are superb. Kind, knowledgeable and willing to explain, their gentle touch makes all the difference.

"All that I have done is to reiterate that swearing is not a bad thing"

No, you specifically stated that swearing was fundamental (and therefore essential/necessary). That's a very far way from just not being a bad thing

I also haven't made any comments about BM. I am interested in the discussion and was weighing the views everyone expressed. So I haven't objected to it, ever.

I was irked by the profanity police. If you wish to disregard what a poster say then do so. Disregard posts by people who swear by all means. But assuming and expressing some superiority because you chose not to swear on a site where swearing is allowed is rather PO faced and, based on the points expressed on this thread,pretty inaccurate.
Reporting Reality for swearing, then posting gleefully 'I have reported' like some 10 year old prefect is pathetic.
IMO of course. I may well be wrong.

All these years on here, all these years and I finally find myself being goaded on a step-parenting thread.

Got any gin Paggy? I will lob some diazepam your way

I don't choose not to swear on this site. I'm pretty sure I've sworn here a number of times. I don't however feel it necessary to take part in the competitive 'fit how many swear words into a thread as you can' games. If you feel that makes me sound superior than so be it

Interesting someone called anyone who doesn't like the obsessive compulsive swearing as 'delicate'. So does that mean if you do like it you must be tough

Allnew

You are being extraordinarily nit picky. Clearly Scone was expressing that swearing is part of the ambiance of the site - as evidenced by a prolific poster called AnyFucker happily accepted without banning by the moderators.
Of course no one has to swear. Of course Scone was not suggesting such a thing.

Anyway. It's very hot, the wine is cold and my DD wants to read....

Allnew is not being nit-picky, she's just questioning the merits or otherwise of competitive swearing. Thankfully most of us grew out of that during our school days.

[sigh]

It's not competetive swearing. There is no competing swearing. It was just swearing.
And stop doing the school days line, all the while sticking your hand up and shrieking 'she said a bad word miss'...

Some of us have classier ways of expressing ourselves .....

I think we may have to disengage Pag, they are frothing and we are being much too reasonable.

Hahahahahahahaha!

Classy? Hahahahahahahaha.

But I want to be classy like Petal

I find swearing offensive, and my opinion is just as valid as yours.

Of course it is.
But this is a website where people are allowed to swear and many will. So you can chose to accept that or you can make sneery comments and try to argue that you are superior for chosing not to swear. And people who feel that swearing on a website which permits swearing should be free from such nonsense will argue with you. Especially if you try to report them rather than debate your views.

I am interested in language and I would happily debate with you. But you are not trying to debate the issue of swearing. You are trying to score some obscure point based on attempting to link intellectual and moral superiority with a dislike of profanity.

Now now. We must know our place. We are the rosy cheeked Elphin faced flower sellers of Covent Garden, whereas Petal - she's classy enough to work in a shop!

All I want is a room somewhere.....

Come on Peggy, your sidekick has asked you to disengage

Ipad, I think you'll find I meant elfin.

Hang on a second allnew. Sidekick? You have been here long enough to know that is fighting talk.

Back. Off.

You are being unreasonable.

And her name is Pagwatch. And she is bloody lovely and I won't have you pulling her down to your level.

I am not Peggy. My sidekick is usually Hully although Scone is perfectly lovely.
But if reaching for sarcasm try to be accurate at least, for goodness sake.

Good grief Scone. Hully is going to kick my arse for that sidekick thing - frankly I have bigger fish to fry

:o

Hahahaha at "fighting talk"

And LMAO at "back off". Now it really feels like school

I have only been deleted once, and that was on a now deleted thread.

You are not worth enough to me to tell you how little I respect you.