DH and I have been invited to my friends Bday party which we have known about for weeks. I knew it was an access weekend as it's the first thing I check so that we have plenty of notice to try and make childcare arrangements.
Anyway I kept reminding DH about the party and he said i'm sorting it out and just brushing it off. The party is this Saturday. I assumed that we would pick DSS up on fri eve as usual and maybe drop him back on sat at 6pm rather than sunday maybe. My parents offered to look after our DD for the evening. They are going to some family friends and are taking DD with them. I don't want to infringe on their night even more by getting them to take DSS (12) with them as I don't think it's fair on either them or DSS.
Anyway a bit of a back story MIL lives about 50 miles away near DSS and thinks the sun shines out of his backside buys him whatever he asks for eg tv's phones etc for no reason. She has seen DD 5 times since she has been born shes 10mo and never buys her anything! this is a massive issue in itself and because of this and a long list of negative comments she makes towards me everytime i see her i don't really like the woman.
However DH has just rung me and said I've sorted out the weekend my mum is coming down on saturday night to stay with us and babysit DSS and DD she is going to take DSS back on sunday.
Am I wrong to be extremely pissed off that my DH did this without checking with me first? it means I am going to have to sort out somewhere for her to sleep wash bedding etc. Provide dinner before we go out and do lunch etc the next day while entertaining her. I work full time and really don't want to be spending my weekend like this. My DD doesn't know MIL she has completely different parenting views to me and she's so wrapped up in DSS it wouldn't surprise me if she left DD sitting in her high chair all eve. I am not comfortable with leaving my DD with her. My DD doesn't know her and is at her clingy stage. I know I won't be able to relax all evening and am at the point where I feel like not even going to the party.
I know you might think she is doing us a favour but I can assure you it is only because DSS is going to be with us. she wouldn't dream of driving 50 miles to look after DD she has no interest in her. She has never not once come to see DD when DSS hasn't been here. it's not to help us out IYSWIM it's to see DSS.
Sorry long but WWYD??