Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 2)

[Squirrel3]

Ah ha! I knew I could get it to the two thousand posts!!!!

That's good, glad to hear you're getting somewhere. I'd be bloody furious if my family were still seeing my ex too, specially as they were so secretive about it. MIL for 2 weeks blimey! My MIL and I get on really well but I don't think I could cope with her for 2 whole weeks! I assume she lives away?

I think it's mens' logic that says "I've apologised and it's sorted so forget it". But I'll remember he said that and make sure it works the other way too....

Absolutely! Yes MIL lives in Spain, so great for hols, its just shes quite a "character" and she would be easier to cope with in smaller chunks! Have to say I'm dreading this weekend with MIL and dss. Both of whom are control freaks, who think they are in charge..... Dss got very good lately at "divide and conquer" and getting dh to make plans with him that they can then present to me IYSWIM, its like they're the couple sometimes and I'm just tagging along for the ride!! Still as I said dh promised to work harder at it, so not moaning, (I'll save that for Monday!!!!!!) 2 womwn in one house for any length of time is never easy is it!! Well supermarket calls, so off I go!

Hello everyone, sorry I ducked out of the conversation yesterday evening, just didn't want to add to the depression.

I have had a really busy day at work so didn't get chance to phone the HV but I've got tomorrow off so I will do it then. (teach me to have a Monday off, you have to work three times as hard to catch up and then I burst into tears, hid in the toilet for a while, felt really stupid, like a little girl, Aaaaargh!!!!)

The stress of a new job is adding to it and preparing for the interview for the other one, I feel like my head is going to explode!

Hello Squirrel

What did you get your DP for his birthday?

I could think of quite a few emoticons I could use that aren't available

How's your dd?

I landed up buying him a new phone as he broke his and a new watch (because he broke that too!)

DD is feeling much brighter thanks NAAM, but I am only too aware that tomorrow things could change and she could feel suicidal again. I hate being at work and not knowing what is going on with her at home.

Sorry Naam, I've got to run the stepkids have turned up, can't have them looking over my shoulder and seeing what I say about them and BM!!!!!!

I hope that you are feeling better Naam, we'll talk tomorrow.

He broke his phone and his watch?? Bless him! At least it solved your problem of what to get him. When's his birthday?

Glad your dd feels better today. Is that how it is with PND - back up one day but back down the next? I know absolutely nothing about it, don't know anyone who's ever suffered from it

Bless him?!?! Honestly he is the most clumsy person I have ever met, he is always breaking things. I think its because he never thinks. In his work he does a lot of plumbing and he is always getting his watch wet because he doesn't take it off, because he doesn't think too. The same with his phone he will just put it down in a puddle of water without a thought, hence the broken phone and watch.

The new watch is waterproof, the phone, well they don't do a 100% waterproof phone but the one I bought him seems quite sturdy and I bought a case with it and I live in the hope that if I nag him enough he may think before putting it in a puddle of water! [shrug shoulders in hopeless manner emoticon]

There has got to be a better way RE the sleep situation when the stepkids are here, its 1am and I have been listening to dp snoring for the past hour, given up and got up. I am looking at the sofa dreading another night trying to sleep on it. DP needs to convert the loft so that I can have my own room to escape to. It's awful its my house but I haven't got anywhere I can sleep properly when they are here. Dp refuses to sleep on the sofa or in dss's room but I can't keep going on like this. I keep on telling him that there has to be another way, but he just can't understand why I can't just ignore his snoring and go to sleep.

have not read the whole thred,but I've been a step-child n hated n i mean hated my step-dad up until 3 years ago,when he told my cousin,on his side,how much he cared........boo hoo think i still do it for my mum.he's granda "stevie" not just plain old "granda"
PS he's 10yrs younger than my lovely mum,does that matter?

Hello all, sorry I havent been on for a couple of days, been mega busy at work! How is everyone?

Hello FANC

I'm OK thank you, how are you?

Squirrel I really would have to put my foot down over the sleep situation (or lack of it!). If I were you, every time he wakes me up, I'd wake him up so he knows how it feels!

Hello Irishmum Makes a change to hear things from a different point of view. Nice to hear that your children call your stepdad grandad, that's really sweet

Hi NAAM Im not too bad thanks. Wots new all?

Hello all, FANC it warms my heart to see your name back on here. How are you?

Just had my driving lesson with the new instructor, he is really good; the car is a bit crap though. Its a diesel and completely different to drive. I can't make up my mind who to have as my driving instructor now. The first one, the car is nicer and easier to drive but the instruction is poor, the second one the car is very difficult to drive but the instruction is really good..... [confused emoticon]

Naam it is very tempting to wake dp up but I think that it will cause huge arguments if we are both tired. I've got to think of a way that we can all get proper sleep, its driving me nuts!

Hello Squirrel

It certainly is wonderful to see FANC back isn't it??

I would try for a bit longer with the new instructor if I were you. I'm sure you'll get used to the car - they always feel a bit strange at first. But I'm biased because I drive a diesel

Yes I agree you do need to find a solution for getting a good nights' sleep. It just seems so bloody unfair that you have to suffer when it's your house and they're his kids taking up the spare beds!! You mentioned doing the loft - is this a real option?

How's your dd?

Hello Squirrel, its good to be back! How are your driving lessons going? I drive a diesel and like NAAM said you do get used to it. I would stick with the better instructor because it is him who teaches you not the car! How is your DD? I have just been quickly reading through old threads to catch up!

Boo!

Friday and we haven't had any virtual alcohol - not good!

How is everyone?

Not only is it Friday ITS PADDYS DAY and I havnet had any REAL alochol. Now thats really shocking.

And I'm working tonight (from home mind but still working)

I'm sure you can sneak a couple of Guinness in somewhere tarantula

God I hope so. I'm sure its illegal not to drink on Paddys day if you are Irish without a very good reason. and working aint a good enough reason.

Yes it's got to be! Specially if you're working from home

How come you have to work on a Friday evening, that's not good - did you draw the short straw???

Got some stuff taht has to be done out of hours. am in to finish it off Sun morning too. Means I'll hopefully get next Friday off instead.

Hmmmm, suppose that's probably a fair swap then

How are things with you and yours atm?

Not too bad thanks. Got my dad over in Londonfrom wed to fri which is great and is coming to see us wed night. thsi means he can spoil dd and give her all her pressies without dss getting jealous (he had planned to see us Friday night which would have been awkward). He'll be bringing over all her birthday pressies you see.

How you feeling now?

Much better, thank you for asking

I just have off-days sometimes - they are getting less and less though - but it was just such a massive kick in the teeth for me under the circumstances when DP said he was considering being a godparent. Think he's realised though - men just don't think about what they're doing/saying sometimes do they? But we love 'em

That'll be nice having you Dad over Yes agree it would have been awkward having your dss over, glad you got that sorted

Well, that's me done for the week

tarantula do try not to work too hard tonight - and have a Guinnesf for me

Hope everyone else is OK - Squirrel I hope your dd is feeling better

WTF is Guinnesf???

I'm sure you knew what I meant - and that's before I've had a drink