Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 2)

[Squirrel3]

Ah ha! I knew I could get it to the two thousand posts!!!!

ahh bless him workingmum, that was sweet

Glad you've had a good day, mine's been OK too. I'm off home now though for a nice, quiet candle-lit dinner with DP

See you all tomorrow

NotActuallyAMum, I have 1 DSS, who's 9, a DD, 1 on Friday and 1 on the way, 13 wks at the mo. And you're right, BM3SM2 being a SM is MUCH harder than being a BM! Often find it quite hard to deal with all the crap that goes with being a SM, then read some of this and realised ITS NOT JUST ME!! Quite a revelation . Hard to find people who are actually honest about the hard bits!

Hi claire welcome! I was having as really off day yesterday but have it all in perspective today.

Does your dss stay with you full time, or just visits? I was just thinking last night that it would be great if you could go along some place and get counselling for being a sm! Its true people don't often talk about the bad stuff as they are afraid it shows them in a bad light. I know I have done nothing wrong to bm or skids, as long as that is the case I just have to let it all go over my head. (I'm allowed to odd bad day though )

How is everyone this morning? flu any better squirrel? How was everyones valentines night?...mines a bit of wash out as dh has this flu bug thingy and he headed off to bed early with a lemsip! poor soul x

Morning all

bm3sm2 really glad you're feeling better today. Of course you're allowed an off day - flippin' heck I have them all the time! I do usually find though that when I wake up the next morning things are rarely as bad as I thought

claire it certainly isn't just you - glad you found us I was so pleased when I found this site, I honestly don't think my relationship would have lasted without the help and advice I've had on here

squirrel I hope you're feeling better

BM3SM2, thats a question and a half! In the last 2 years, we've had virtually everything, including regular periods of no contact, wk on wk off... At the mo, we're on every other wkend, pick up from school Fri, drop off there Mon. Nice and stable for DSS(!)

We have times when the children never go home! Come to stay for a few days and end up staying a few weeks! BM has bit of drink problem, she is probably a good mum in her own way but when she goes to the pub she forgets to come back out! After four " can you keep them for another hour" phone calls in one night you kind of get the picture that they won't actually be going home at all that night. Having said that, this sort of thing normally happens when she has no or a new boyfriend, she has a partner at the mo so that is why contact has been rather sparse lately. I think it is because she actually is happy in her life and needs to have the girls close to her.

God I have actually been quite nice about her there....almost like I am starting to "get" her

Personally I am going to concentrate on being a mum and not get to hung up about the step mum part. Sometimes my own kids suffer because I get so down and spend so much time and energy on the step mum part. It ends now, TODAY!

ah feel sooooo much happier today x

Good for you bm3sm2

Really glad you're feeling better, I was thinking about you on the way to work this morning

Hello people and welcome Claire. Jsut popped in quickly as boss is whinging about us using internet atm so I'm on a work to rule with proper breaks and this is it. Hope you are a bt better today Squirel. Glad to hear you are feeling better abot thing BM3Sm2. I know the whole thing gets me very down somedays too. your bm sounds very like mine tbh cept not as friendly. I actually et on quite well with her on the whole.

Glad you are feeling better BM3SM2.

Can I have an off day today please?

DP and I had a lovely evening yesterday, but during the night I got really ill with an upset tummy. So I've got flu and a bad tummy! and I forgot to cancel my driving lesson, so I had to have it, but because I'm ill I had a really really rubbish lesson.

I'm back home, and I can't believe I'm actually crying because of a bad driving lesson, telling myself that I will never pass the test and I should just give it up!

Oh dear squirrel {{{{hugs to you}}}}

Honestly, you really will be fine with your driving. Please don't let one bad lesson put you off - I still have bad driving days now and it's 17 years since I passed my test. Try not to be so hard on yourself - you're very poorly and can't be expected to be at your best at anything at the moment

I feel really p-ed off today too. We sat down last night for our romantic candle-lit meal and DP just had to bring BM into the conversation!! I was bloody furious with him, didn't finish my meal and went to bed at 9:30. Now to top it off the lady who covers my break and lunch at work has just told me she's pregnant. Don't get me wrong I'm really pleased for her but it's made me feel so

I need a drink!!

Take your pick.

I'm going to drink this, it might make me feel better.

I was quite lucky that dp turned off his phone yesterday evening, BM was bound to phone! I'm suprised at your dp mentioning BM, he is usually more thoughtful that that isn't he?

welcome claire,

got another cushy bay. maybe they are trying to tell me something.

Valentines night was nice until bed time. We had demolisjed a bottle of wine and a bottle of champagne and I went to bed. DP followed me up ten minutes later but i was well away, snoring my head off. he wasn't a happy chappy.

Oh well make up for it later maybe.

We turned our phones off too - and we unplugged the house phone

Yes he is usually a thoughtful person but for some reason that seems to go out of the window where BM is concerned. I had to pull him up on it on Friday night too - we were having a quiet night in on our own then and he had to mention her. He apologised sincerely - then went and did it again last night of all nights! Bloody men!! Sometimes I think I'd be happier on my own - no stepkids to bring me hassle and cost me money, no man to upset me and give me grief. GRRRRR!!

Are you feeling any better?

lol workingmum

NAAM, I think this is going to 'sting' everytime you see a baby or hear of somebody going to have one, I really feel for you.

I know you say you have done lots of soul searching, but are you sure?

I'm sorry I don't have any answers for you, I wish I had a magic wand to make everything better. {{{hugs}}}

Sorry posts crossed.

right i have been left alone. the other nurse has gone 'for a walk' - gone for a ciggie. Just me and the doctor with the roses.

he he he

Sorry no, I'm not feeling any better, I feel worse, feel so weak, I might give in to it and go to bed for the rest of the day, sorry.

If I stll feel like this later I might even phone the Dr, I can hardly breathe, my asthma (sp?) is bad because of the flu.

Oh Sh*T! I've got an interview tomorrow!

workingmum - good job that's not me, I can eat a whole tin of roses in one evening

thank you squirrel, yes I think you're right in that it's always going to get to me but it's something I have to learn to live with. Yes I really do want to be with DP, I can only hope that I don't ever regret my decision. I think it's got to me more today because I'm feeling down anyway

I don't think you should go to the interview tomorrow, can you ring them and explain that you're ill and re-arrange? Don't blame you for going to bed, think you need it xx

not chocolate roses, flower roses, Have a box of quality street and supply of maxwell house(hospital budget) and access to MN soI am quiet happy to "look" busy.

Has anyone heard the riddle about the three words ending in "gry" it is REALLY annoying me now.

good luck with the interview squirrel, just show them your dazzling personality and you will wow them for sure. even with a stuffy nose, achy joints and a splitting headache. You will be the best candidate by far.

Am i helping at all

good luck with the interview squirrel, just show them your dazzling personality and you will wow them for sure. even with a stuffy nose, achy joints and a splitting headache. You will be the best candidate by far.

Am i helping at all

Oh flowers, oops

Haven't heard of that riddle??

Sorry to hear that you didnt have a good night last night Naam. We got the best china out and put a tablecloth on the table and dd got all excited cos we lit all the candles then we spent ages helping dss to make a papier mache skull romantic or what. ahhh your poor dp WMNHS Ive been known to do that too esp when dp takes ages faffing round getting ready for bed.

Hope you get some sleep thsi afternoon Squirrel and feel better tomorrow for your interview.

At least there's some good news today - just found out that smoking is to be banned in pubs and restaurants next summer, I like that lots