Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 2)

[Squirrel3]

Ah ha! I knew I could get it to the two thousand posts!!!!

DP just walked in and nearly caught me making chocolate covered strawberries for this evening!!!

I shouted at him to get out! He said "that?s nice isn't it? I come home to have a valentine?s breakfast with the love of my life and she screams at me to get out!!!"

Ooops!!!

I quickly hid them in the fridge and we had croissants for breakfast then I packed him back off to work again!

I am planning to go back to bed this afternoon, and then hopefully I may feel a little better this evening.

my ds was the same, missed football training AND a game now that is ill lol

Can I have a moan again? You know how bm has been stopping sd x 2 from coming over and generally poisoning them......well she called over weekend to ask if we can look after them for a week in March while she goes on hols. Don't understand how you can spend all of jan and most of feb badmouthing me and dh and then expect us to have kids and expect kids to want to come

sd who is 8 told dh on phone yesterday that mummy had told her a true story of a wicked stepmother who wanted the daddy all to herself, so she turned the two little princesses into swans. what is that all about!

I'm sorry, but the BM sounds disturbed and she is going to make the kids disturbed if she continues like this!!

I'm shocked that a mother can do/say this to her children!!

All you can do is to continue to be as nice as you can with the kids, it sounds as if they need a stable person in their lives and it may be you they need. When they grow up they will realise what is what (small comfort to you at the moment I know) but those poor kids!

I am so angry that a mother can do/say this! I'm almost speechless!!!!

That's awful Totally agree with Squirrel - how can someone do this to their children??!! One day though the children will realise how out of order she was but I know that doesn't help you for now

Have you agreed to have the kids to stay? BM did this to us last year - DP said yes and I was absolutely furious! I very nearly told him to have the week off work and went to mum and dads for a week but didn't want them to worry so I didn't but I've made it perfectly clear it's not going to happen again, can't see why I should do anything for her after all the trouble she's caused us

I've just had a big bouquet of flowers delivered to work

He said yes without speaking to me, ordinarily I would have agreed anyway because the nature of my job means I can be home when needed. As it is I now will have to do the school run for 8 days, to two schools 12 miles apart. Dh lost6 his driving licence due to fuel leak in bus he was driving last year, so he can't help with the travel side of things at all. Just feeling a bit low today, the sd's are coming for the weekend and I just don't know what kind of reception I will get, last time the oldest one just didn't want to be here and judging by the text dh got from his ex, she told her mum I was questioning her. Just taking everything to heart really. oldest sd is involved in an important thing locally this summer and my dh has said that this behaviour will continue until then as a way of making us keep our distance. Then bm can say to everyone look what I have done with no help from ex. etc etc

You're obviously better at handling things than I am I went bloody loopy when DP agreed to have dsd for the week without speaking to me first

Has your DP spoken to BM about all the crap she's feeding the girls? Surely she must realise it's going to have such a negative effect on them? And then she expects them to stay with you for a week knowing what she's told them!! WTF is she playing at?! So and for you and the girls

Is Bm Irish by any chance bm3sm2? Just a thought as there is a story called the Children of Lir where the stepmum turns the kids into swans. Wondering if she told them that story? Tho why she would is beyond me.

And then to not let you see them for weeks but want you to have them when she wants to go away Now that is well out of order!

I hadn't realised that there was a story like that, why is it in all of 'fairy tales' the step mother is wicked?

Hi dh hasn't spoken to her as she just denies it and tbh has him by the balls with regards to conflict. Squirrel her father was irish, so you are probably spot on there. Why she told them that and to say it was true story is beyond me. feeling really sad today, sad that I am giving bm so much of my time and energy worrying about her warped mind

The Children of Lir

lol When dss was little I always asked if he'd like the red or the green half of the apple and when we'd go out for a walk he'd ask for a bag of breadcrumb 'jsut in case he got lost in the woods' (they were really for the ducks)

bm3sm2, it was tarantula who knew the story, I didn't realise it existed. Print out the link I put up, you can show them it and talk to them about it, it may be a way to open discussion with them about the situation and you can reasure them that you will not turn them into swans! and you are not a wicked step mother!!!

Oooo! Can you imagine the look on BM's face when she realises that her telling them that story back-fired!!!!!

Don't waste your time worrying about BM, there is nothing you can do except to be a stable loving influence on your step-kids, you will reap the rewards later when they grow up!

I also joke with my step-kids about being the 'Wicked Step-mother'!!!!

BM3SM2, try to make a joke of it, its less threatening then.

bm3sm2 I feel like that some days too - as I'm sure everyone else does - but honestly you're worth more than that, you're a better person than her and she knows that. Squirrel is spot on - you will reap the rewards in years to come when they realise what rubbish their mum fed them and how hard you tried for them

sorry tarantula - eyes not working today! Squirrel thanks for the link, feel even more depressed now I have read it!

tbh I can't mention it as then would be seen as "questioning" etc etc. need to stop thinking of it, only been good to sd's for 7 years, seems being a sm is even harder work than a bm. you give nothing but love and get nothing but hassle back

off just now, can't give any more to that bitch today. Have a good day hope i havn't depressed you all!! thanks for being here x

Hi, just stumbled over your thread - can I join u? I think you have to be nutty to be a step mum! Often the onl way to cope!!!

Welcome Claire

Yes you're spot on - definitely the only way to cope sometimes, we have a good laugh on here to keep us all sane but you'll find everyone very helpful when you have problems

How many step-children do you have? Any of your own?

Bm3sm2 you don't have to thank us, that's what we're here for. Really hope you're feeling better soon

Welcome claire

Yes, you are right we all need to be a bit nutty!

Sorry BM3SM2, I didn't mean to depress you.

DP organised a new mobile for me, it arrived today, don't you just hate learning to 'drive' a new phone?

OMG yes Squirrel me too!! I work with two ladies in their early 20s, I always ask them

I learnt not to ask dsd or my nieces/nephews because they just get the phone and say "you do this, this, this, and this" but they do it way too quickly and I miss it, and I don't want to ask them to repeat it because I'll look a right duffer

Think I've got it set up the way I want it now. Not sure if I love it, its ok, dp pays the bills so I can't complain!

Feeling really ill now, going to bed for a while.

Hope you manage to get some sleep Squirrel

My DP sent my mum a valentines card as a joke (we've told my Dad) - my sister just phoned to say mum has been in the shop where my sister works with a big grin on her face saying "You see - I can still pull" She is going to seriously thrash DP when she finds out it's him

I had the cushy bay in work today so I typed a message to you all but forgot to sign in. Just as I did a doctor called me away so I never got it sent.

How has everyones day been, DP is due back hom in 20 minutes so I should go and write his card. One of the Docs on the ward bought all the nurses a single red rose today. So that cheered me up a bit. Everyone was smiling.

Nice.