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Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 2)

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Squirrel3 · 16/01/2006 16:06

Ah ha! I knew I could get it to the two thousand posts!!!!

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Squirrel3 · 30/01/2006 16:16

Biglips, I wouldn?t worry too much about your dsd, I have found step-parenting very much a case of three steps forwards, then two back. It sounds like you helped her to understand that you care very much for her and I think that this is maybe what she needed, well done and keep it up.

NAAM, it?s only the past five years that I have had a problem sleeping (dp moved in five years ago). He has a bad snoring problem, he had an operation three years ago to remove a growth (non-cancerous) on his vocal chords and believe it or not it made the snoring a lot better for a while but I think its grown back. The surgeon said it might grow back but he can?t have operation after operation to keep removing them as they grow back. Its happening as he has a gastric reflux problem (acid from his stomach goes up into his throat, damaging his throat), he has to take tablets everyday and his throat has to be checked for cancerous growths regularly.

His snoring is so bad one year when we were on holiday in Lanzarotte (sp?) he terrified the kids sleeping in the apartment next to ours, I heard them running screaming to their Mum ?What?s that noise? It?s a monster!? Poor kids, they sounded really scared and if the Mum is reading, this I am so sorry.

We tend to sleep in separate rooms, but I can still hear him, and when the step kids are here I have to try to sleep on the sofa. We are desperately trying to think of a way to resolve the problem. I can?t wear ear plugs; I can?t stand the thought of putting anything in my ears. I keep telling him to build a brick shed with power and heating so I can chuck him out there, then maybe we would all get some sleep!

Maybe a large whack on the back of his head would help.

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NotActuallyAMum · 30/01/2006 16:37

Biglips I have to agree with Squirrel - and I can definitely relate to the "three steps forward and two back", in fact sometimes it feels like two forward and three back!!

That sounds awful Squirrel about your DPs snoring. My Mum and Dad sleep in separate rooms because my Mum snores really bad, don't know what her actual problem is tho. Think that's a bit bad of them to say he can't have another operation, sounds unfair to me. Have to say tho I did giggle about the children and the "monster" - sorry

DP still hasn't got through to Sky - GITS!!

Squirrel3 · 30/01/2006 16:44

The step-kids hate it when dp takes them to the cinema, he usualy falls asleep and starts to snore, they cringe with embarrasement, I just dig him in the ribs.....hard

Don't 'Sky' ever answer the phone? Dp has to phone them about our 'lost' pin number, I bet he is looking forward to that.

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workingmumnhs · 30/01/2006 17:05

you should all be on NTL like me. no problem with them
How has everybodies day been. I have had to clean poo, wee and sick all day
(that's work not home)
I can't wait to get back to my own ward and leave this hell hole behind.
Just thought I'd share the graphic details before you all have your tea.

Squirrel3 · 30/01/2006 17:07

Clean up wee,poo and sick? Sounds like a day with the grand-children to me!

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workingmumnhs · 30/01/2006 17:58

It is like a day with the kids but I have a ward manager telling my I haven't cleaned the poo, wee, sick up in the right way. ( there is a WRONG way?) For christ sake I specialize in gynaecological nursing not elderly. Lovely as they are it isn't me. (The hospital always opens up a WINTER CONTINGENCY WARD during Dec to March and staff it from all the other wards in the hospital. My name was pulled out of a hat and I had to go between FEB and MARCH.)I HATE IT. I want to go back to my own ward. The fact that my wardis now short staffed because i have had to go doesn't seemed to matter to the powers that be. They have to book agency staff to do my job instead of letting the other ward run with one less staff nurse. IDIOTS

NotActuallyAMum · 30/01/2006 19:37

Sorry to lower the tone but.....

workingmum does mean that when you're on your usual ward you're looking at c*nts all day???

Sorry, couldn't resist

workingmumnhs · 30/01/2006 19:49

in a way yes. DP describes my job to his friends as a Fanny inspector. lovely isn't it. there is more to it than that but looking at lady gardens is part of it.

workingmumnhs · 30/01/2006 19:50

in a way yes. DP describes my job to his friends as a Fanny inspector. lovely isn't it. there is more to it than that but looking at lady gardens is part of it.

workingmumnhs · 30/01/2006 19:51

would I be considered weird if I said I'd prefer to do that than wipe poo off 87 year old bttoms

NotActuallyAMum · 30/01/2006 20:56

No - I'd say the same!! But I couldn't be any kind of nurse, haven't got the patience

lol at fanny inspector

NotActuallyAMum · 31/01/2006 09:49

Hello all

Hope everyone's OK

Squirrel3 · 31/01/2006 13:14

Oh No! I have ust had a missed call from 'wee cutie pies' Mum, bet its a dinner party invite!

Should I take dgs and dgd along, let them run riot and just look at them adoringly saying "Oh, but they are so cute"?

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Squirrel3 · 31/01/2006 13:19

P.s I'm ok thank you, just settled my students down in front of their computers, hopefuly they will leave me alone for a bit. (I'm terrible aren't I? )

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Squirrel3 · 31/01/2006 13:27

Coooooeeeeeeee!!!!

Anybody there?

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tarantula · 31/01/2006 13:29

Me Im here. Jobs going really well then? Still its only 3 days to the weekend (once today is finished )

Squirrel3 · 31/01/2006 13:34

I supose its not as bad as I'm making out, it will be ok, got tomorrow off so I'll be able to chat on here a bit more, I think I'm having withdrawal not being able to post so much.

How are things Tarantula?

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tarantula · 31/01/2006 13:53

TOmorrow off? yopu lucky thing. Wish I had too. things are up and down with me atm.
Didnt have a great weekend. Dp got back really late on Friday from picking up dss. Am not happy about that at all. Lads did some of the plastering on Sat and it looks great but everything is upsidedown as all the kitchen stuff had to be moved out. And then FIL and SIL and 3 of her kids came round that night. Twas great to see them but was knackered afterwards. Sunday was quiet thankfully and then yesterday dd ahd her MMR booster and was awake half of last night. So am shattered and jittery and dont know what to do about dp. Need a large set of crockery and a good solid wall me thinks.

Squirrel3 · 31/01/2006 13:56

Don't throw things at your newly plastered wall!!!

Why was your dp so late? Did he explain why?

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tarantula · 31/01/2006 13:58

yeah He 'lost track of the time' and was 'busy chatting' to some people that were round at BM's house.
the fact that dd was in a smoky house and hadnt had any dinner didnt seem to register. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Squirrel3 · 31/01/2006 14:05

Oh dear, that's not good, is there a way that he didn't have to take dd with him. You can't have her in a smokey house with no dinner. Surely he can't want your dd to be in a smokey house either?

In a way I can understand the 'lost track of time' thing if they were old friends that he hadn't seen for a while, but forgeting that dd hadn't eaten and keeping her in the smokey house is a bit naughty (to say the least). Poor dd, I hope she feels better soon.

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Squirrel3 · 31/01/2006 14:08

Hope this makes you feel better

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tarantula · 31/01/2006 14:12

lol dd was fine and quite happy as she was running round like a looney with dss. She did have some milk and bread and butter and isnt a 'dinner at a set hour' kinda child (lucky for dp). Dp keeps saying that they were in the sitting room and everyone was smoking in the kitchen but I know BM's house and it gets very smoky. Next time he'll have to wait till I get home I thnk before going over to pick up dss. thats not very fair on dss what else can I do.

Squirrel3 · 31/01/2006 14:18

I think its the right thing to do, I know my dd's dp smokes, he will go out into the garden to smoke but I can still smell it on my grandchildrens clothes when I give them a cuddle. Its horrible picking up a baby expecting it to smell 'babyish' but smelling smoke instead.

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tarantula · 31/01/2006 14:19

thanks have calmed down quite a bit now but need to sit down and have a good chat with dp about things. Have to say in his defence BM's is a time warp and you getting chatting about things round there and time seems to disappear so I do understand to an extent but while I'm ok(ish) about her being round there in the afternoon to pick dss up as its not too smokey then but in the evening its different.

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