The Step Parents Refurbished Wine Bar

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The refurbished SP Wine Bar is once again open, as while you don't have to drink to be a Step Parent, it helps.

Contact changed at no notice?

Disney Dad and sulky Skids?

Damned if you do and damned if you don't???

Ahhh, thats better!

Yes Sam, I'm afraid you've muddied your ticket good and proper now that you're on the dark side...

MJ I'm sorry you wont see your DSC's either. What is wrong with these people I would love to see my DH's ex in some counselling. When I'm not spitting feathers with rage over how see affects our family life I feel genuinely sorry for her. She is a proper head case, surely... who treats their kids like that?

Still, more room on the sofa for me!

I'm a first wife too. Ds1 has an excellent relationship with dad.

I - wait for it - you won't believe it - reduced my maint to below Csa levels - because I felt £300 a month was more than enough for a child who sees dad regularly and whose dad was also entitled to treat said child ms has housing expenses.

Further more when he was smaller I went without main so exh could afford school fees.

Imagine - not taking every penny I could!!!

MJ that is how grown ups should behave.

A year after my ex and I split I worked out exactly how much I was spending on DD each month because my ex didn't have a great job and I felt that as long as he was paying for half of her costs over all I didn't want any more than that. It felt weird to take money from a man I didn't like, who I'd chosen to leave. It ended up something negotiable like me paying £5 a week mor efor her, so I didn't riase it, and he was paying CSA amount anyway.

I have always maintained that he should support DD, for his own pride, for her pride and out of fairness to me. But I would never take a penny more. How could you enjoy anyhting knowing that your ex had had a hand in paying for it... yuk, makes my skin crawl.

Ok I'm home from work - magners anyone - mmmmmm

Ooh I dunno MJ. I've been on the wine at my desk... oh, go on then.. then I'm back to admin - can't leave until it's finished... boo...

Home sipping on a nice rum and coke.

And breathe ...2 days to go and 11 days off.

Evening all - DD safely in bed, DS out doing the xmas supermarket shop with DH.
I am drinking Tia Maria and coke.

Hahahahahahahaaaaaaaa!!

BH- lovely

Sitting in lounge while pup chewing frantically on his toy, on my lap. Makes MNing quite a challenge.

I'm going to brave the shops - wish me luck!!!!

Good Luck MJ. Be brave.

Good luck!

How are the hands EK? Anyway, lets have a quick Poll.

Who is with someone whose 1st partner/wife had an affair and left them?

Anyone else?

It always irks that on MN Man leaves woman for another = man is a shit. Woman leaves man for another man = man must have deserved it in some way.

she's still with the prick now

Hands up from me too.

I wonder if it's the common factor in bitterness - stuffing up your own life?

Raises hands - and she was ABSOLUTELY LOVELY TO ME until her relationship broke down and since then I have been the husband stealing whore who ruined her life and abuses her kids - despite not getting with dh until roughly 18 months after they split. You just cannot win. I mean she was seriously nice to me - inviting me for drinks the lot then in one month she and her dp split and me and my dp found out I was expecting and that was it - all hell broke loose and it hasnt stopped since.

Hi
I'm new to this site but can I join?????
Been there & done for the last 17 years with DSS who is now 22 & I can promise that there is light at the end of the (very long) tunnel (probably cos we don't have to have contact with his mum any more but hey ho!). I now have a fab relationship with him.
Oh can you guess what I'm drinking???

MMMMM.. Welcome Pinot, pull up a pew always good to hear from a survivor of the trenches :) Pinot by any chance? Can I tempt you with a nipple of the slippery variety -they are good!!!

Oooo no thanks - had a very bad experince with those a few years ago - DP still laughs his head off at me trying not to puke in a taxi after 3!!!!!

Or some limoncello

DP's ex left him (not for someone else) but then when he met me 2 years later told anyone who would listen that she left him cos he was shagging me!!!! This despite the fact that I lived on the other side of the country with my then fiance!!!

Oh dear. In that case I shall keep my slippery one. Everybody can I have some limoncello - not tonight obv as noone likes to mix drinks but tomorrow - can I, can I huh, huh?

Ill have whatever is on offer.

I had some light - DSS told my sister on the weekend how lovely I am and my sister passed it on today, I knew I cant be that bad as he is coming to see us Christmas morning, he is in love with his little sister apparently she is the spitting image of DSD1 when she was little.

MJ - thats lovely....I know from experience that we have to take the little bit we get sometimes. FWIW my relationship with DSS got 100 times better after we had DS (now 8) as I think it helped 'cement' us as a family. DSS came on holiday with us this year for the 1st time since he was 17 and it was so good to have the whole family together for 2 weeks.

Raises hand too!