Step-Parents Wine Drinking Club

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It seems the logical move.

DSD sends over 800 texts one month on the phone we pay for OH acting like an arse Weekend plans changed at last minute Cook dinner, then OH cooks something else as they 'just fancy xxxxx'

glug, glug, glug, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Best not post on here when or whether exactly we're having our get-together - the anti SP brigade would be out in force after today's debacle

Poor harrassed - feel bad for her

What's wrong with ds mj?

Kara, yes I did see that one, thankfully for her it died quite quickly as there were obviously more people 'being unreasonable' about other matters.

Stepmothers have had quite a day of it today though!

ah, I remember sat with DS on a pillow on my knee while MNetting. Hope you get something to eat soon. At least some of today's goings on has distracted you I guess!

That's what I find so good about this board - this is the only place I have where I can talk about issues I have, and read about issues similar to mine. Makes me feel so much less along - as I do find being a SP quite isolating in a way. You're right, anyone who has not been a SP really has NO IDEA of the realities. Even well-meaning friends and family, they really have no idea at all, which makes it difficult to talk about, as it sounds like you're constantly finding fault

I too find this forum a godsend. It was quite a revelation to find that other ladies have EXACTLY the same issues. And a huge number of those ladies have situations a trillion times worse than mine, so it helps to put things in perspective.

Agree, no-one in my family or group of close friends has been a stepmother.

I have one 'friend' who has three children with three different ex husbands so is the BM 'ExW' oh fuck-it BM in all those ex's households so it's an area we never discuss, she could not hear me say anything negative about my situation as I would be just like new wife 1, 2 or 3 who are all, child stealing rancid whores (?)

I did however once have a strange/sweet (slightly drunken) conversation with her current husband who (completely out of the blue) told me I was ' jusht luffley and no-one understands how hard it is when they're not you're kids, but I do' , he said. I was quite touched.

I love you lot, I really do.

And I haven't even had a drink yet!

i'm just going to

for a minute

someone is saying their farewells in Chat

May I join? In spite of being 30 weeks pg I may take a teensy sniffter of vino tinto to try and overcome the insomnia... My DP has a boy of 10 who we have every second weekend and half the hols. The problem is my bloody DP who is too frightened to tell the BM that I am pg. I don't speak to her and I don't know whether DSS or DPs parents have told her. She can be unpleasant, and will be aggrieved at the thought of sharing the cash cow (as she sees DPs father) with anyone else iyswim. The problem is when I am due to have the baby - if it's our weekend we may have a 10 year old boy at the hospital with us... Ah well - here's to children as midwives

Hello Travis, welcome to the Oasis of Calm in the step-parent sea!

babyheave I like that - an Oasis of Calm in the step-parent sea.
Very nice.

Travis - congratulations on your pregnancy. I'll pour you a nice glass of orange juice, and you can make yourself comfortable.

There's no way you should have to have a 10yr old step child with you during labour. Surely at some point you're DP's ex is going to find out that you're expecting? Is there no way your DP would agree to swap access weekends so that your new baby can arrive without your stepson hanging around?

Unfortunately, much as I love him, he can be chickenshit where she is concerned... He fears her (likely to be EXTREME OVER) reaction I think. Do many of you have your own DCs as well as DSC? Is it important for him to meet his new sister quite soon to overcome a sense of feeling left out? I suspect that he will be jealous that his sister gets to live with daddy and he doesn't.. Is it going to get even more difficult after she is born? Is it strange that your child has a biological link with the SC that you don't? Sorry to bombard with questions...