Step-Parents Wine Drinking Club

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It seems the logical move.

DSD sends over 800 texts one month on the phone we pay for OH acting like an arse Weekend plans changed at last minute Cook dinner, then OH cooks something else as they 'just fancy xxxxx'

glug, glug, glug, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Hello!!

Phew what a day, I'm shattered....anyone drinking?? Wine will of course soothe my sore tummy .

TB - huge congratulations!

Wrongagain - welcome to our evil band of merry step mothers. I daren't abbreviate any more!!!

if you look in AIBU there's a thread about a mum and her ex's Christmas presents. The phrase disney dad springs to mind..... But I didn't tell you, ok???

I'd seen that one but couldnt be bothered to reply.

I can't wait till Xmas :) :)

I've just read that thread, its the people talking about their ex's picking the kids up on xmas day and them not spending all day with the mothers...
Don't tell anyone but... whispers
I've got DSD from xmas eve night til boxing day morning!
Runs and hides before I get a slating for DSD not spending anytime with her mother over christmas

Well actually, DSD's mother offered that to us on the understanding she has that next year.

also... I haven't got a badge :( sobs

Damn you mumsnet I wanted stars not bold!

Off for the school run- then it's a nice G&T for me while cooking witchesbrew dinner

Doesn't everyone that isn't a stepmother hate us?!

BTW- we swap Xmas every year and it works a treat-

Were picking DSD up at 11am on Xmas day ti 5pm boxing day as her mum doesn't want to disrupt the access weekends... Odd you'd think sh'ed want here DD on Xmas day, but the DD doesn't have their surname so not part of their family... That is what She told my DSD who was 4 at the time!!

DSD can't wait for Xmas day, it's her first every one with her dad and she tells everyone 'so mummy can't change her mind'

Mj I know how you both feel. ExW decided DSD only needed one dad in her life last June (09) so stopped contact when she got married and moved house. We didn't see DSD for 9 months and then when we did it was for 4 hours on a Sunday. I don't know how DP coped to be honest.

My dsc's mum (is that politically correct?) has them every christmas as she doesn't have any family here. DH goes over there for a couple of hours after lunch. I can see it's a good solution but I find it hard, them all having that lovely family time together. I know that makes me a bad person but that's the way it is. I may be a step-mum and therefore not allowed feelings of my own but I am also human.

Slurps self-pitying glug of wine...

Awwwww no it doesn't make you a bad person, I'd feel the same.

Really? I do sometimes wonder if I'm just being unreasonable. How can you tell though -there always seems to be so many things I could get upset about, I do try and let a lot of it wash over me Christmas is different though I think.

Xmas is a family occasion in my eyes so if I had to watch MY family (because your DH and DSC are your family) play families with the ex wife it would really hurt.

This year I am doing Xmas dinner for all of my family and my DPs family... 19 of us in total. I'm doing it for my DP and DSD because she is so looking forward to it I'm going to make it special for them :)

what did I miss? MJ did you ask for your message to be deleted ?

Last year I had 2 of my grown-up DC's here which made it easier for me except that it makes it all feel a bit seperate - me and my family here and DH and his "family" over there.

Not sure yet what all my DC's are doing - they have their partners to spend the day with and there's also their dad to consider. I feel sad for them that they have to decide whether to go to their mum or dad's for lunch but I always tell them to do what they want and not worry about me.

I don't think there's an easy answer but I can't honestly say I'm looking forward to it.

When he goes over after lunch you could have a 'me' afternoon. Run a hot bath, use any bath stuff you get for Xmas, then snuggle on the sofa with a movie. I know it's not ideal but maybe if you did something for you, you may feel better.

You're right and that's probably what I'll do. May have to have a glass of wine or two as well!

I guess it got reported- The cheek of it.

Bit 1984 if you ask me. If everyone else is allowed to call us and our ilk names - why can't we?

I like being an ilk - makes me feel part of a despisedminority club.

The second Christmas after they broke up (RM / ExW walked out on the children and DH on Christmas Eve) she wanted to go present shopping with him 'for the kids'. As the voise of reason doom I said it would all come to tears - DH (DP as he was then) said no, she was trying (for once)to show a nice united front. He came home after 8 hours shopping fuming - he had paid for everything and then she had taken all the presents out of his car and put them in hers - he was left with a pack of pencils and a colouring book 'for them to share' - so we had to go out and buy more presents so he had something to give them. Sigh.

Anyway - had 2 'dot days (non-drinking days) this week (my target - 2 a week) so will settle down with wine and DH and watch The Apprentice - I can then hurl abuse at the TV screen as obviously as a SM I am not meant to have or express an opinion in public (RL or on here).