The Goose & Carrot Pub

[RedRegular]

A thread for all who have DC with SN. The thread is deleted in 90 days and doesn’t show in active. The season is changing and the bar is well stocked.

Totally. They are just babysitting really.

@RedRegular well done on the weight loss and other benefits. Good luck with the last assignment.

@drspouse I think DS’s school was s41 but withdrew and is now wholly independent? If you are desperate for DS to not attend there, you could ask the school to give notice. Or if you don’t think they will be amenable to being asked, be so tactically irritating they think having DS there isn’t worth the money and give notice. It is the nuclear option, which isn’t guaranteed to work and if it doesn’t work could cause irreparable damage to the relationship with the school, but I know a couple of people who have gambled and been successful.

Well done on the weight loss @RedRegular and glad its having beneficial health effects as well.

Hope you can get a shed sorted soon @Lougle

I have ordered a mini tool store for the back garden so we can take our stuff out of the thatched one and it will just be for DS which looks a bit like a small beach hut and some paint and DH was saying he could help with that first week he's off after VR. DH and I were gardening today, I was just clearing and DH did the first mow of the new lawn and its fine, quite relieved. We've both had colds and lost sense of taste but going now, it came from his work so at least we won't have that issue soon.

I did a Waitrose order with the giant chicken kiev and DS appears to have cooked and eaten one at 1am and then took a 4am bath this morning. The cat now keeps waking up during his 4am baths and demanding his first breakfast. DS took a second bath today whilst we were gardening. He's also eaten both melt in the middle chocolate puddings.

@Tulipandmagnolia a mini tool shed sounds ideal. VR is looking more and more appealing especially as you love gardening, swimming and going to the spa together. What colour will the thatched room be? Do you paint the inside? Has it got electrics?

We spent the weekend demolishing an old shed. Very cathartic as life has been a bit hard recently. The sun shone for bits of it and I feel better for the fresh air. Ds is much much better without college, but he wants to go to college….unpicking what to do is very hard. Realistically college don’t want him back and definitely don’t want him back next year, so it would have to be another setting and I haven’t found anywhere that sounds doable.

I love the sound of all these sheds garden rooms being planned for the goslings. So perfect in so many ways.

@RedRegular I think the inside will be painted and I think we can choose the colour. I will probably go for something very light coloured, white, cream or very pale blue. Outside the door and windows will be painted and I want those to match our house. The little beach hut baby shed we will paint the same colours / paint as our silkie's cottage, its the same firm that make both. We may get a second one of those - DH wants us to get one first and also that way we can test what fits. I have the paint already.

Sorry things have been sad @Zeonlywayisup Glad the weekend was better and glad DS is better without college. It sounds like its best not to attempt to go back there.

DH told his brother which went fine. He's currently on the phone to his 93 year old French Mum telling her, this is not going so well, she's very bossy, talks to him like he is 15 and is saying to him why is he walking out. Why is he not getting more money? Why is he is not staying? What new job does he have? Why not? 🙄Seems to have calmed down now. Poor DH.

@scoopofmintchocchipicecream about 3 years ago current school were ready to say they can't meet need but now they have only just told LEA they can. I think it's probably better than being at home full time, and locally there's a very large number of KS3/4 DCs with similar profiles who have no school. I think we'll hang on till they force the RP to take him, while basically HE after school/weekends.
DD has decided that if she doesn't do her homework and goes to a detention, she then doesn't need to bother finishing it. This all led to a huge tantrum during which I didn't show myself in my best light. Eventually I remembered my own advice about stepping out and if necessary putting a door between me and her.

@Zeonlywayisup We've had similar with DD1. The psychologist is of the view that she just doesn't know (and therefore can't imagine) anything different. If you can get away without DS realising that they don't want him (we didn't with DD1), then I think you can tell him something soothing that will allow his ending to be kinder.

@drspouse it's so hard when you disagree with a school's opinion that they can meet need. When DD2 was in a non section 41 independent, I approached the school with support of the SALT and said that they weren't meeting need, they disagreed. I asked them to withdraw, they refused. So I went to the LA and listed all the reasons why they were failing DD2. The LA then gave the school notice that they were pulling DD2's funding. She never set foot back in the school.