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CHANNEL .....4................TONIGHT......9.00........................BORN TO BE DIFFERENT.....

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RTKangaMummy · 09/08/2005 20:51

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................ 9.00...........

...............PLEASE DO NOT MISS

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misdee · 09/08/2005 22:14

ts=tuberous sclerosis

my dd3 was being checked for this due to skin tags (apparently its one of the signs), but scans on kidney and bladder were good this morning, no problems at all. seems like she'll be tag-y like me.

hunkermunker · 09/08/2005 22:14

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RTKangaMummy · 09/08/2005 22:14

Did the grandmother's comments surprize you?
{of the little boy}

They did me when she was saying about prefering him to be perfect?

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Fio2 · 09/08/2005 22:15

the thread hasnt upset me thats for sure, i need morphine now though after watching that my dd is like the worser ones if anyone is wondering...argh honestly i said i wouldnt fucking watch

jayzmummy · 09/08/2005 22:15

Misdee....so glad that dd got a negaive with regards to TS.....we are still waiting to see the specialist

misdee · 09/08/2005 22:16

hanish grnadmother shocked me with her comments. 'i hope he makes up for it in intelligenmce' ???!!

MrsGordonRamsay · 09/08/2005 22:16

Blossomhill

I am sure if I had to walk a mile in Shelbies mothers shoes, I would find it a very very hard road, but I am still entitled to believe that I would not smoke in the house. Not saying at all, just saying not in the house.

alexsmum · 09/08/2005 22:16

just looked up t.s - apparently its a genetic condition that causes tumours to grow on multiple organs in the body.

nutcracker · 09/08/2005 22:16

I have such admiration for every single person featured in that programme, adult and child.

Makes my life seem a breeze in comparison and makes me feel embarrased that I moan as much as I do about my lot.

Blossomhill · 09/08/2005 22:16

RTKM - yes they did but I just thought it is the kind of comment you would get from someone from that generation.

I mean a "family friend" asked me how dd was once, you know the "backward one". This man is 57 ffs!

jayzmummy · 09/08/2005 22:17

The grandmothers comments had both DH and I shouting at the TV....she was so like my she dragon mother!!!!

misdee · 09/08/2005 22:17

jaysmummy, i hope you get answers soon. i feel so lucky that dd3 paed at birth is clued up on things.

MrsGordonRamsay · 09/08/2005 22:18

and you would fucked up on hash cakes on vodka

I am not being funny I am really struggling to understand the above part of your post.

believe me, having a fag in the kitchen is nothing

I am still entitled to believe that I would not smoke in the house. Not saying at all, just saying not in the house.

jayzmummy · 09/08/2005 22:19

Why cant I have a decent Pead!!!!!

misdee · 09/08/2005 22:20

jaysmummy.

didnt jay have the UV light thing done as well?

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RTKangaMummy · 09/08/2005 22:20

I just thought that her son and DIL would prob be upset to hear her say that kind of comment about Hamish

perhaps they have moved to NZ to get away from her

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alexsmum · 09/08/2005 22:21

the comments about preferring him to be perfect..does that shock you because its so insensitive or because she wishes he were different? I don't have a child with a disability but i imagine that if i did and someone said they could wave a wand and my child would be disability free i would say yes. not remotely the same i know but my boys have quitebad eczema, if i could change that i would. its an insensitive thing for her to say but understandable emotion ?

Blossomhill · 09/08/2005 22:21

I am certainly not agreeing with the old hag. Just know that there was very much a seen and not heard brigade back then

jayzmummy · 09/08/2005 22:21

Yep....he's covered in white marks and has red tags...one on his face is getting bigger.....waiting now to see the specialist to get scans organised.....why is it always a waiting game???

Blossomhill · 09/08/2005 22:23

Hope it all goes okay jm and you get seen very soon xxxxxx

dot1 · 09/08/2005 22:23

MGR - I think fio2 was saying that smoking's nothing considering the stress she must be under - a lot of people would need much more than a fag! (sorry fio2 for interfering...).

I thought it was a bit strange - but only because of O2 being flammable and cigarettes being a bad combination..! But she was an amazing Mum, coping with all that - dp and I were gobsmacked at how she handled it all. All the families made us feel very silly about how much we stress about looking after 2 'ordinary' boys...

misdee · 09/08/2005 22:23

dd3 scan was meant to be down when she was 11 weeks old, weas only done today and she is 5.5months old. i know they were checking for abmornaities as well, but it all looked good. now i've got to go and get heart scans done on all 3 kids. its neverending.

MrsGordonRamsay · 09/08/2005 22:25

My family solicitor has SB and he is vertically challenged, he got a top law degree and has his own very very succesful practice.

We have known each other for over 20 years and his lack of stature is invisible, not just to me but to every one who meets him, his personality takes over.

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RTKangaMummy · 09/08/2005 22:25

i sort of felt she was sort of ashamed to say how hamish was if she was announcing it to her friends and neighbours etc.

I think it is OK for parents to feel like they would like their life to be different but for others to say it I think is very insensitive and not very helpful or supportative.

I can't really explain what I mean very well

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Fio2 · 09/08/2005 22:26

i give up, honestly if your child had been fitting for over an hour you were in panic mode, your son had died at three months old of the same chromosome illnees. i really dont think a fag in the kitchen is a big issue

i think you need to get real

and anyway i am going to bed

teach my grandmother to suck eggs and all that