2 people in the last week have asked me whether my ds has adhd!

[essbee]

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Oh crikey Essbee - what a nightmare

Is it possible at all to reason with him? When he is calm, can you talk through with him the implications of his actions, or can you just not get through to him? It must be so hard with dd as well.

I wish I had something I could say to make the next 8 days go more smoothly for you. Roll on 11th!

for you.

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Essbee
I wish I could do something for you.

Are you writing some notes for the meeting next week to make sure you mention everything you want to?

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Are you on msn essbee? You really need help my love. If you want to chat I am here xxx

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Okay give me 1 minute and I'll try and get in contact as only had it a week!!!

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crumbs essbee. just seen this [[hugs]]

blossomhill, are you chatting to essbee - she's just down as away on my MSN?

essbee, oh I just don't know what to say. So relieved to hear the head teacher is on your side.

I think it's much healthier of you to be angry about the help you are so not getting rather than blaming yourself. You know it's not you, don't you? Keep shouting at the professinals - hope real support comes out of the meeting.

From your latest descriptions of your son's behaviour, I have to say, IME this is so different to simple naughtyness. I am sure he has many lovely times and can obviusly cope with school, beavers etc but he really needs help, doesn't he?

Are you going to talk about your dd when you go to the meeting? if you say your son's effect on her is worrying you a lot, and she is in physical danger from him, would that speed up help? I don't know, but just wondering if this is something you could try.

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Essbee, I know it's hard but at least you'll get some answers now xxx

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Oh essbee really hope that appointment comes soon for you.

Thinking of you Essbee

Please let us know how the appt goes/has gone.

Roisin

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Oh essbee....i am so sorry that you didnt get the help and support from CAMHS that you were hoping for. To be quite honest I dont think the guy you saw has got a bloody clue about ADHD/ADD.
I know loads of children with it and some are able to sustain attention if the activity they are performing is interesting for them......they will still be little wriggle bottoms and fiddle away but their attention can be held for long enough periods of time.
WTF was he drawing pictures for??????.....he should have been looking at ways to help and support you and ds....maybe if he hadnt spent so much time showing you his artistic talent, he would have been able to use his time with you in a more positive way and actually started putting things into place for ds!!!!!
I really dont know what to suggest honey.....a second opinion maybe????

Im sure someone will come along who will have a better idea of what you should do.....good luck and take care.
JMxx

Hi Essbee, sorry but I haven't kept up on this thread this week. That bloke you saw is an absolute w**ker! Even if he thinks what he does, talk about making someone feel worse! He is talking rubbish.
If you've alredy done this then sorry for suggesting something unhelplful but the I think the mental health service is NOT the place for your DS at all, you need to go through the Education route and see an Ed Psych. If you've already tried that then I think you should see someone privately who is a Developmental Paediatrician, please don't go into the mental health service with him any more, it can only do damage imo. I don't know where you live or your financial situation, remind us where you live and I'm sure someone on SN can suggest a good Dev Paed or help with getting further with your LEA.

well I think the bloke you saw is a prize class arsehole. Who clearly knows jack all about developmental issues.

This is the webpage of the Surrey based NAS. They are very active. I've had a look and they have coffee mornings etc and it may well be worth you going along to one. Even if your son isn't on the specturm it does sound as if he may well have ADHD- and you will find lots of parents of children with ADHD in any autism gathering. These people will be able to give you local info- and may also have been through the same sort of thing as you.

They have an online mailing list- might be worth posting on there for advice,

The other thing I would suggest is joining Aut-UK A lot of parents there have experience of ADHD and similar problems getting into the system- and there are lots from the SE so will be able to giive specific information. (and lots have had problems with CAHMS)

I agree with Davros your son needs to see a psychologist or developmental paed who knows what they are talking about.

Wish you were down here as I could introduce you to someone who has had exactly the same problems (her dd was adopted so easy to blame emotional problems). She is now diagnosed as having severe ADHD (and medication has made a world of difference) and very high functioning autism (she's very bright).