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2 people in the last week have asked me whether my ds has adhd!

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essbee · 20/02/2005 19:23

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roisin · 22/02/2005 12:09

Essbee - How's it going? Have you contacted camhs today?

biglips · 22/02/2005 12:13

i dont know anything about ADHD but yesterday on GMTV was talking about vitamins tablets and they mentioned about OMEGA 3 as its helped for children who got ADHD to concentrate better - maybe you should mention it to your docs about them

Cosmo74 · 22/02/2005 13:29

I started my DS on Omega- 3 on Saturday but I believe it takes between 2 and 6 weeks to start to see the difference - also what is Camhs?

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essbee · 22/02/2005 19:18

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MummytoSteven · 22/02/2005 19:23

sorry you are having a rough time with DS, and that CAMHS aren't being speedy. Suspect you will have to hassle and be a PIA with them to get the help you and DS deserve. Ignore the nosey noras - everyone always thinks they know best about other people's kids - it's one thing if health pros said "ADHD" but quite another if some random woman in the street says it.

roisin · 22/02/2005 19:44

Sorry to hear you've had a bad day Essbee. Hope things go better tomorrow.

I give the boys fish oil capsules perfectly up front (not hiding them or anything), and they just swallow them with their juice first thing in the morning. (They learned to take them by practising with jelly sweets.) We've told them they are good for their brains, and they are mostly quite happy to take them.

RE the pasta jar thing, one thing I have noticed with my dss (ds1 in particular) is that the positive rewards do really motivate him (when he's in the mood), but the punishments/negative rewards - e.g. taking a piece of pasta out of the jar - just don't work for him. I don't know why, it simply is not effective in influencing his behaviour. (He does get cross if he loses a piece of pasta, but it doesn't stop the bad behaviour occurring.) So we try and use natural consequences more, and try and get him talking about his feelings, and the situation, and trying to get him to step back and think about what his options are and what might happen, and make wise choices for himself; rather than intervening with punishments.

Essbee, I really feel for you. I am burbling on here, and I don't know if anything I'm saying is at all helpful. My ds1 used to be very volatile at times, and we just couldn't get through to him, but now he is loads better and we rarely reach that 'crisis point'.

Btw is your dd 5? How does she cope with ds?

Blossomhill · 22/02/2005 20:08

Essbee - I don't want to sound pushy but please phone tomorrow. It sounds as though you really need to see someone and CAMHS are the best place for this kind of thing.
Once you undrestand why your ds is behaving the way he does it will help you understand why he does the things he does. You can also access the SS help such as summer playschemes just to give you a bit of a break. xxx

LIZS · 22/02/2005 20:22

essbee

Sorry you are still waiting a more positive response from the camhs and that ds is still proving difficult.

Don't know if you have access to BBC3 but last night's Little Angels had a pair of siblings who had witnessed their mum being a victim of domestic violence and the elder one (8 ish I think) in particular was very angry and aggressive with the younger one and their mum. Psychologist tried to get him to open up more, used a variant on pasta jar as a reward shceme and asked the parents to try to get him to talk about his feelings in terms of physical feelings in his tummy and head and colour ie. anger was red, happy was green, so that he could gradually associate with the triggers and come to his mum before expressing the anger physically to which her response was to be to offer more affection. In doing so they identified more of a self esteem problem which could then be tackled (the mum's new dp got him riding his bike for the first time).

Not at all sure this applies to your ds but thought it was an interesting approach and a different way to view the issues.

Hope you manage to make that call tomorrow and get an encouraging response.

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essbee · 22/02/2005 20:31

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essbee · 22/02/2005 20:32

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galaxy · 22/02/2005 20:35

essbee. You know that ds has some bahavioural difficulties but you wont know what the official definition is until you progress the CAHMS appointment.

It may be that this is linked to seeing the way you were treated by dh or it may be something else. Whatever it is, you can only deal with it when you've taken that 1st step in getting help.

Give them a call tomorrow and get the ball rolling sweetie

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essbee · 22/02/2005 20:36

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essbee · 22/02/2005 20:37

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Blossomhill · 22/02/2005 20:38

Essbee have a look at this:-
Criteria for Adhd

SoupDragon · 22/02/2005 20:38

Grrrr. If I'd known I would have nagged you to phone from here this morning instead of giving you a cup of tea.

Blossomhill · 22/02/2005 20:39

When you went to Camhs last time I remember you saying that if it was what they said it was then ds would have it for a long time. Did they mention Adhd at that Appointment Essbee?

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essbee · 22/02/2005 20:39

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SoupDragon · 22/02/2005 20:40

You could have done it whilst the kettle was boiling

LIZS · 22/02/2005 20:42

It was Episode 7 listed here the Cooper Family but not due to be repeated this week unfortunately.

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essbee · 22/02/2005 20:44

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galaxy · 22/02/2005 20:45

He was a so and so but then he was lovely as well.

(Funny that I saw this thread, the curtain rail fell off the wall again tonight and I reminded dh that it was "the cat's fault"

SoupDragon · 22/02/2005 20:45

Did the school send a report?

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essbee · 22/02/2005 20:58

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essbee · 22/02/2005 20:58

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Blossomhill · 22/02/2005 21:00

Have a nice saok essbee.

Just wondered exactly how long ds has been like it. My dd has always had attention problems but is more add than adhd to be honest.