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2 people in the last week have asked me whether my ds has adhd!

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essbee · 20/02/2005 19:23

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lunavix · 20/02/2005 19:26

Oh hun :/

With my limited knowledge of this (I know a few kids/had ex's with it) the ones I know didn't have the ability to sit down and concentrate on something, like the Ps, so surely in some aspects he's nothing like it?

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essbee · 20/02/2005 19:27

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ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 20/02/2005 19:28

I was going to ask how things were Essbee but didn't want to bring it up again.

When Camhs saw you last did they give you any indications??

Listen sorry I forgot to e-mail you but we must meet up for a coffee. I know how you are feeling

ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 20/02/2005 19:28

My dd's attention is appaling essbee

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essbee · 20/02/2005 19:33

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ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 20/02/2005 19:41

Yes that would be lovely esbee.

Sorry for some reason I thought they were looking at AS, must have you mixed up so sorry.

My dd was dx with adhd 2 yeasr ago as she scored high on the connors questionnaire. I still think it's more add and have refused the ritalin as I don't think it will help.

Get on to essbee as they are there to help x

roisin · 20/02/2005 19:41

Essbee, this happened to us last summer. Both times it was experienced and informed individuals, rather than nosey Norahs iyswim. It did completely freak me out at the time. (One said ADHD and one said AS).

BUT I know he doesn't have ADHD - no way, not at all. He may or may not end up with a dx of AS one day, but if he does it's only mild.

What do you think about it? Do you know any children with ADHD?

roisin · 20/02/2005 19:43

For me the panic/shock bit was that "Is that how every outsider sees my ds1? Does he really stand out that much?"

ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 20/02/2005 19:46

It is annoying though isn't it roisin when these nosy parkers put there 2 pence in.
When dd was little the amount of people that have said "God, you've got your hands full ". "OH have I, sorry I didn't notice!!!"

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essbee · 20/02/2005 20:20

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ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 20/02/2005 20:30

Hiya Essbee

How is ds socially though? As that can give you a clue as to what it may be.

Since dd's difficulties have been recognised we have come so far. For example in the holidays Social services fund for her and ds to go to a summer playscheme for 2 days per week. I need the break and it sounds like you do too.

It is so hard, I know . Especially as you've had so much going on. I am always here if you want to chat xxx

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essbee · 20/02/2005 20:31

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essbee · 20/02/2005 20:33

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ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 20/02/2005 20:34

Yes sounds a bit like dd Essbee. I must sound like a stuck record as I have said that a lot lately.

You need and deserve help Essbee. I know it's hard (heartbreaking) even to admit something wrong but since dd has been getting all of her help things have improved dramatically. Yes I still have bad days but I know why she is the way she is and that does help.

roisin · 20/02/2005 20:41

I guess you're phoning camhs in the morning. It shouldn't be that way but sometimes the resources available to these overstretched organisations go to the people who shout/hassle the loudest.

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essbee · 20/02/2005 21:03

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ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 20/02/2005 21:26

essbee - I have spent many nights wishing that dd's problems would go away and kidding myself that maybe it's because of this or that. I know now that it isn't going to go away but helping dd cope and manage her behaviour is the 2nd best thing.
Was ds like this before everything or was he like it before? The Conors questionnaire is good in that you and the school have to fill it out. I think Adhd can only be dx if both show symptoms (ie is like it at home and not at school)
I have always known deep down that dd had something wrong but it has taken me a lot of time and I still am finding it very hard to deal with. I don't think I will ever accept it if I am beign perfectly honest. It takes over your life

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essbee · 20/02/2005 21:40

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ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 20/02/2005 21:48

Oh Essbee - it's so hard hun isn't it. I am always here if you need to talk as I understand what you are going through. It is not your fault it's just one of those things. I can tell you though that the earlier you get help in place for you and ds the better the outcome for all of you, I promise xxx

jmb1964 · 20/02/2005 23:45

Just to lighten things a bit (but I too know the pain of having the ds that you know everyone is looking at). We were at Macdonalds in the drive through queue on the way up the motorway this evening and dh was speculating about what to get - I said 'shall I ask her what the difference is between a Big Mac and Big Tasty?' Ds1 said straightaway, 'no you mustn't Mummy, that would be rude and defiant'! Apparently it's what his teacher keeps accusing him of, but I hope it's for more challenging behaviour than this!

ScummyMummy · 20/02/2005 23:52

lol, jmb1964.

Hope you have some luck sorting this essbee.

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essbee · 21/02/2005 20:53

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coppertop · 21/02/2005 21:01

jmb

Sorry you're going through such a tough time, Essbee.xx

ImuststopdrinkingBlossomhill · 21/02/2005 21:54

I know Essbee but I wouldn't have dd any other way. hand on heart. If she became totally "nt" she wouldn't be the gorgeous eccentric little girl that I love and adore. I just wish life could be easier for her, that's all.
Did you get my CAT?

Cosmo74 · 22/02/2005 12:00

Essbee

It sounds as though you are describing my DS ? he cannot sit still either whether he is watch TV, eating for at school ? this is his main problem at school he keeps falling off his chair and lack concentration although they say he is ahead of his class as he knows all his letters, numbers, colours how to write his name and a few other but teacher is afraid that his behaviour is going to affect when he has to learn to write and read properly as it will take a lot of concentration to do this.

I was the same and got quite annoyed when people commented on his behaviour and put it down to just being a wee boy!! But for his own good we are trying to get him checked out, got doc. To refer us to hospital but it can take a year for an appointment we have also spoken to his teacher and the school is also trying to get an appointment for him so whichever comes quicker ? it is heart breaking to think there is something wrong with him but then again if there is something there we need to do whatever we can to get him help with it for his own good.

Just wanted to let you know that I am going through the same and will follow this tread if you do not mind.

Sorry for waffling on abit.