DLA WAIT TIME THREAD 39

[Emmajm85]

DLA Wait Time Chat

Congratulations 🎉 🎉🎉🎉🎉

I do plan on making a complaint after the decision, I’m worried making a complaint now will steer the dm to decline any award. After they generate an NI it will go back to a dm pile 😞 xx

Yes, that's right as I'm 04/01 and my 14 weeks mark was last Thursday x

Newbie here! Scan date is 10/04, rung today and was told 16 week wait which after lurking and reading this thread, I was expecting. So worried I will get rejected for dla and stressed with trying to get my 10 year old son the help he needs with what I think is adhd, although some autistic traits, anxiety and speech and language difficulties and sensory difficulties, he also has sensorineural hearing loss which I believe he acquired from a head injury at school. No diagnoses except for hearing loss and initial hearing support team assessment showed that his understanding of spoken vocabulary was behind about a year at the time, and rejected for neurodevelopmental pathway via school and now doctors are referring. I've spent so long just getting on with being there for my son that I didn't even realise how bad things were till people started pointing out his behaviour and traits. I also think I was in denial, adhd/dyspraxia runs in the family and I think I was comparing. So now I feel like a crap mum, and I feel like dla will reject as I've only recently sought help. Also feel like a fraud because I've just been getting on with it alone till now.

I sent 10 extra pages of information that I'd written out about his daily and night time needs, I'm starting to wonder if I just wasted my time writing them out because they only apparently skim over it?

I'm sorry for the essay guys!

Hi all,

for those waiting on MR's (Mandatory reconsiderations) i've just spoke to someone (using option 5-2-2) they passed me over to someone else who told me that they are currently up to 5th February (remember this is for MR's not your initial DLA claim). My MR is 19 Feb so hopefully not too much longer

Hi all, been watching the thread for a while but yet to post as my scan date is 28/02 so got a long wait. Great to see all the awards so far.

@CoralSheep breath 💖. There is no right or wrong way to parent. We all just live in our bubbles and crack on with what is thrown at us. No one tells us what avenue we need to go down so we have to work it out for ourself. I wish their was guide books to make parenting simple 😂. To some it sounds like some of us have our shit together but i promise you its either because we have been there and done it or Were great at masking. The key thing for you is to remember you have taken the steps, you havnt failed your son because to you he will always be your baby and you love him no matter what 💖 xx

@Fee89 Thank you, and yeah a guidebook would be lovely 😅 I just feel like maybe if I'd of asked for help before then he wouldn't be struggling like he is now. Either way, I will do everything I can to get him the help he needs, I'm looking at all options and will probably end up making the professionals sick of me lol.

@CoralSheep Sad thing is he wouldnt of been seen until now. They like to make you wait until the child is seriously struggling. I went through camhs 3 times over 8 years and no listened until police put a safety plan in and she was admitted to hospital for self harming. Its a broken system so dont feel hard on yourself x

@Fee89 I'm sorry to hear that but glad they are listening to you now! It is a very broken system, I'd say that I hope it improves but I know that's just wishful thinking. Everything is a fight, even when in a lot of cases, the needs are very obvious. The dla form absolutely mushed my mind lol, I swear some of the questions were asking the same thing 🙈 xx

Following,
scan date 19/03.
long wait pending..

So just realised 2 things. 1. May has 2 bank holidays so something else to slow down claims. 2. Why the hell are kids off for another week end of may 😫 i mean i love my kids but iv just had to entertain them for 2 weeks 😂

My scan date is the 16/1 rang yesterday to be told it will be 17 weeks until its in the DM queue, told me I'm looking at around 20 week in total, just want to know if we will get anything

New here so hi
scan date is 17/01
rang today to be told will be around the 2nd may before it even reaches a decision maker.
wait seems to get longer and longer

@CoralSheep how I understand you! Queen of self flagellation here.
I was also in denial and always felt my son would eventually get better, didn’t happen. Now, after the lockdowns, the horrific transition to secondary school and a year of basically not getting an education, FINALLY a supportive teacher that has encouraged me to ask for something he has probably been entitled to for many, many years and that would have probably made all our lives so much easier.
Listen, there’s no perfect parenting and when you have a kid with special needs you get so wrapped up in it that it’s hard to see the path, obviously doesn’t help when the professionals around can’t even point you in the right direction.
We are here now, that’s the main thing. Hope your little man gets assessed and DLA gets awarded swiftly. You are not alone 😘

Hi
Same scan date as me!
Hope it's not too much longer a wait

@Chickapea77 the mum guilt is horrible isn't it? I was the same, I just kept trying to find reasons for his behaviour and mood swings. I'm dreading my boy going into secondary school, every year gets harder and his teachers are at a loss to get him to focus. Senco has been good and we are doing an eha, I'm not sure whether an IEP or EHCP would be a good idea to push for. Its just insane to me that his previous teachers had mentioned his short attention span but I hadn't pushed about it as they hadn't questioned me about it. I know they have a lot of children to deal with but I would have thought that with it increasingly affecting his work that they would have raised it to me directly. Have you managed to get a diagnosis for your boy? I hope you get what you need to!xx

Oh bless you and your boy! I hope you do get good news very soon for the sake of both of you!

I got told same yesterday too, very unhelpful just it could take the full 20 week 😪

Hi, My daughters scan date was 9/10. She got declined so I did an MR over the phone & sent evidence on 16/02, I've phoned today for an update and he said he can't see a decision but they are trying to sort out a national insurance number for her. So could this be good news?

@SophieP88 I phoned today about MR and the woman said they are working on MRs from 5 February

Hi just want to know if anyone can help me I got awarded 2 weeks ago I let uc no same day but had not heard anything about backdate payment so I left a note and ask if they had update today they said a decision macker had bin assigned but no update does anyone know how long it takes after it assigned to dm to be done ?

To speed up NI you can apply for child benefit for your daughter x

Do i assume they request a national insurance number only when there going to make an award?

I do get child benefit for her now, I told him this on the phone and he said he was going to leave a note on saying, I was just wondering if it could be good news as they didn't try get one when she got declined. I know I shouldn't get my hopes up really it's all so stressful 😫 x