Mail on Sunday Magazine

[lottiejenkins]

I found this article today..........I thought it was very moving,,,, what a decision that lady made... dont think i could do it though!
www.mailonsunday.co.uk/pages/you/article.html?in_article_id=522925&in_page_id=1908

just to clarify, i am here as a mother not a professional.

(but a very professional mother)

I missed you were quoting (I still miss that actually and wow I'm a professional person too- must be us pros eh- lost our mind reading skills).

So we all missed you were quoting.

And quoting or not - totally vile to reproduce it on the SN board. No. The vast majority of parents are NOT repulsed by their children, and I would suggest that those who are need help. It is not normal to be repulsed by your own child- even when they are disabled .

Bloody hell mamazon you can't be the mother of a child with SN AND a professional. Heaven's above woman stop getting ideas about your station.

she does you know. terrible what tall people do...
they get big ideas

i know.

but its ok because i neghlect my Nt daughter and i am single so it all balances out in teh end

i know. ds is getting into all sorts.......thrash metal.
do you have the number for ss

i think ds should write a book..........what could the title be?

"My sister is fab, glad my parents are selfish twunts with beards"

Fantastic column from IK.

mamzon go to bed hun
I said my ds.

should have been Aren't butits late.

im off to bed lol

read India Knights comments below the article

Oh dear dear,

mamazon, which bit of:

"OK I know I foster ours and did not give birth to them so it is very different for me."

is it that you can't understand ?

jonkat

odd that you direct such venom towards me despite everyone else on this thread also being outraged at your comment.

you made your comment as inclusive. yes you qualified yourself by saying you were different as you fostered, but you did not remove yourself from the comment.

you didnt say i have heard parents say they felt revulsion, you said it as a first party comment.

read it back dear, and do not attempt to patronise me.

jonkat you are incredibly rude.

That sentence does not make it clear that the previous line was a quote.

you would do well to read a paper I have here on writing for academic publications- it states that if someone misinterprets you then it is your fault. You were not clear enough in your writing.

On this thread numerous people have missed that you were quoting. Perhaps you need to rewrite that paragraph rather than carry on being so rude to Mamazon.

It doesn't matter anyway- it still suggests that you believe that it is normal for parents to be revolted by their disabled children. Something I find incredibly worrying in a foster carer, and one exchange which means I will never ever use foster care (never intended to anyway but now its a certainty).

I find it quite an insult to say Parents of disabled children are repulsed by them. When my daughter was first diagonesed, we had a lot of professional input, as happens. At one point I felt like running off with her so we could be left alone. I didn't think about going off and leaving her behind. Of course i didn't do that, didn't have anywhere to go!

Taliesintraction

Don't forget that anyone who has taken a particular decision then has a personal need to reasure themselves that their decision was the right one.

One way of boulstering ourselves in our decisions is to vilify anyone who takes a different decision.

jonkat.

oh for gods sake. Who is being self righteous now?

Of course we're all burning to get rid of out disabled children. Would dump them at the first opportunity to be brought up by foster carers who think that parents can only find their children revolting.

I find it more and more terrifying with everything you write that you are a foster carer.

taliesintraction - completely off topic, but intrigued by your username - are you into welsh trains/vehicles?

jonkat - I'm a bit bemused by the post about "decisions" - if people have never considered residential care for their children except for the long-term, then surely there is no decision as such, more maintaining the status quo.

"Don't forget that anyone who has taken a particular decision then has a personal need to reasure themselves that their decision was the right one."

by writing a book and appearing on tv and radio?

"One way of boulstering ourselves in our decisions is to vilify anyone who takes a different decision."

which explains most of your posts here then

NO he's from Doncaster, lives in Manchester and is a social worker TC.

and can be used to fry eggs

PMSL I'm off to bed.

Good night parents and social workers (radical ones or otherwise).