@danni0509 this is an off the wall thought but could you just for a time even a few days go with them? Either there or back? It’s hard sometimes explaining things, but just to demonstrate to them what YOU would do? Literally they would sit in silence and observe YOU. I’ve no idea where you may end up (geographically)! But when DS old school were saying ah but he does this and won’t do that my instinct was ffs just let me come in and you watch. It made me feel a lot better and made them look quite stupid.
@Ahna65 some of that review sounds good, don’t get disheartened. So how do they teach her where to put her bag on a morning? Is it far, is it in the room? Are they taking her and showing her hand over hand if needs be, paired with language? I don’t know DD of course but that constant repetition and rote learning even in the absence of language helps. So we used to say to DS ‘go and sit on the bottom step and shoes off’ when he came in. Now he just automatically sits on the bottom step of the hall stairs and takes his shoes off. The pictos may well help with language understanding too… one poster wrote on here ages ago that her DS didn’t actually associate a shoe with the word ‘shoes’, once that connection had been made via a pec and paired language he took off.
@dimples76 that all sounds a stress. With ‘progression’ do they actually expect/ want you to be voicing a desire to progress and does it matter if you don’t? We have many staff (myself included) who it is known are very good at their jobs but aren’t banging down any doors for promotion because of reasons such as young kids (usually) and that’s fine. It’s never expected that they should be, it’s a personal choice anyway and if they bring value to the firm then so what? It’s no skin off their nose, is it? It does get annoying when you see people often men rising the ranks who aren’t that good but are doing the loudest shouting about partnership etc, but once I’d got my head around that it was more about let’s all crack on, bring to the table what we can and that’s appreciated as something of value. I appreciate all jobs are different tho. Come and work with us 😉.
Had a bizarre school meet up instigated by us around the ‘DS isn’t progressing’ theme. DH told me to not kick off so I was very restrained 🤣. Anyway the upshot seemed to be that they said DS was unlike any child they had ever seen before. Actually said this. Said some abilities are almost savant like (maths, reading, memory), but although he’s getting better spends a lot of the day really disregulated. Stimming jumping, moving. Tbf he’s not like that at home really so I was a bit surprised. Anyway they seem to find this all fascinating and said the spikes in his profile were just off the scale. I’m not sure what the answer is, they said heavy OT but he’d been having this for a full year with no change. I even wondered if they were saying he should be on a home Ed programme and asked this, they said no, def not, that wasn’t what they meant. So don’t know really?! I wonder how typical this profile is really?
they said they have a lot of hyper/ stimmy kids but their academic abilities are low, and a lot of kids where their academic abilities are high but they are more regulated and will sit and listen and don’t need much OT input. DS is straddling the 2 and it’s making him apparently quite hard to place in school for learning/ peer group purposes.