I know there is a starting secondary school thread somewhere but I cant find it and really need some flaps and honks!

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Dd3's stress levels are going through the roof and I know why but cant do anything to help

We cut our holiday short this week because she was going downhill fast and didnt want to stay. I had planned to be away until Friday so she was occupied and not thinking about it.

She has melted down this morning over not being able to have a coloured door key, apparently our lock is too old And over not wanting me to have a cushion on the sofa!!

We need to make a new visual timetable for the mornings but not sure its a good idea, what do you all think?

You are right polter it is crap!

I feel a meeting coming on too!

Hope you can sort some of your issues out!

Very good idea polter, huge leap forward for your Ds!! We are not there yet but hopefully one day! I might show that wristband to Dd3, she wears an I have autism one, but not for school as it is breaking the rules!!!

The slight comfort I get from situations like that Ineed is that it provides evidence that support is not given. Did she survive the trip?

I wish my two would wear something like that Polter but we are nowhere near that place. We got them Police autism awareness cards but ds2 promptly destroyed his and ds1 never carries his. Although we have far fewer incidents these days both still occasionally panic and run off and are very vulnerable at these times.

ds1 has gone into school despite the self-diagnosis of Ebola. It makes a change from basal cell carcinoma I suppose (in layman's terms a verruca). School are implementing some of the changes we suggested so hope they will work to reduce the anxiety.

ds2 has said he wants to take part in a football match this afternoon (to get out of lessons mainly) so hope it goes better than the post office trip. He has been told he can just watch or go back to school early if it gets overwhelming for him. He usually does better if he knows there is a get out card so it might work.

That made me smile polter

Yes one it is abit more evidence for our tribunal! She did survive, thank goodness and despite being very tired the next day she enjoyed it.

She doesnt understand why I was upset about her being left without support.

The senco responded very quickly to my email but at the end of the day she wasnt there and she had passed responsibility to another staff member!!

Have had an apology from the trip organiser but it doesnt really wash anymore, it just makes me justified to not trust them

one hope Ds1 survives the ebola and Ds2 survives the football

Well ds2 actually managed his football match with score of 1:1 and ds1 has apparently recovered from his Ebola outbreak so happy household tonight.

Yay!! Well done one's Ds2 and good news that Ds1 has recovered

Sorry to hear this polter

I know what you mean about never being able to relax!

Dd3 also doesnt use the toilet at school, I hate the idea that she reduces her fluid intake so that she doesnt have to use the toilet.

Hope your Ds has calmed down now

Wallow away polter!

Polter and for miniPolter (if he likes it of course). Hope both you and your ds are feeling better about the incident this morning. It is one thing that is so difficult for schools to get that for a child with social communication difficulties it can be nigh on impossible for them to tell a teacher what is wrong. I have never found a good way to explain it.

We too have been disappointed by how much hard work we are still having to input into the ds's schools to get it right for them. The one positive thing is that I have far less guilt about being a pita parent if by being one it helps even a little the ds's.

That is great news polter I think the book is a really good idea.

Even as an adult it is so much easier to express worries and bad things on paper. I hope it works for your Ds

I am still waiting for a proper answer as to what happened in terms of the supervision at AT but I have expressed my disappointment to the senco today!

That sound's better Polter. I am glad the SENCO is being proactive for him. Have they done role play with him at school - I am always surprised by how much this helps ds2.

Hi all! I have been keeping an eye on this thread. Have a meeting tomorrow as DD is struggling to go to school on some morning. Stress is showing! They are really good with her though and really want to help so I am hopeful.
polter . I can relate to your DS, as socialising is difficult it seems easier to not do it as he probably is happy on his own. It took me a long time to realise that having friends is worth the socialising difficulties. I think I clicked when I realise that all relationship have to be managed and some are easier than others. Not sure if this kind of thinking would help your DS.

Hi molly hope your meeting in useful tomorrow.

Good luck

Thanks Ineed .