Hi everyone I just want to ask a few things that are bringing me anxiety at the moment.
Currently in an outright war between the EHCP Team, LA Inclusion Team and a mainstream Infant school.
Currently going through EHCP Team has agreed specialist place is required for DS.
In the draft stages of EHCP, paid for SOSSEN to complete an analysis. Quite a bit came back I submitted it along with other actions that I/nursey thought should be included or corrected.
EHCP Team sent back comments, majority in disagreement. Insisted the help of a SEND consultant to help.
Whilst this is all taking place, DS is not in school. Earlier in the summer term DS was accepted to a mainstream school through normal admissions. 2 weeks into the settling in period I had to withdraw him. Due to his inability to cope, lash out and the reaction from the school, lets say it wasn't supportive. He went back to nursery however had to stop attending just before his 5th Birthday (extended his time at nursery he will be considered as taught out of year). Since then he has been at home.
The thing is I was asked by his EHCP co-ordinater if I would consider sending him to mainstream "whilst they continue finding a specialist placement", right from the get go of them agreeing to issue a draft. I expressed that I didn't think that it would be in the best interests of DS and said I would just like to go through the EHCP process. Multiple times I have been told to keep the place open at Marston Green as the situation is complex by admissions and the EHCP Team had no answers to my questions when I asked can we decline the place at the mainstream school.
There was contact a couple of weeks ago from the infant school that I withdrew him from in the summer, asking what was I was doing with DS as they were concerned that I may get fine for not sending in DS and the Head Teacher actively tried to plant a seed about home educating until the EHCP comes through. They tried to pressure me as a boy in their nursery didn't get a school place and they wanted to know what was happening, I suppose in a bid to give the boy DS place.
I spoke to both the EHCP Team and Inclusion Team about the conversations and told them I didn't want DS to attend. We have already been there and got the t shirt. There is also concern about the impact it will have on my son and I don't want to cause anymore negative experiences around school. I asked if I could just decline the place and it's gone south since.
Inclusion Team emailed and
has said its school's responsibility as he is on roll there, and that they will recieve funding for DS and I need to go mediate with the school which has been backed up by the EHCP Team. A date for mediation has been arranged for the 14th October with no acknowledgement from me.
The consultant I'm who is advocating wrote an email basically asking why the Inclusion Team and EHCP Team are pursing for DS to attend a school which is not suitable and not named within section I of the EHCP. She also mentioned that we are due to submit a response to the EHCP's latest comments of what they agree/disagree with on the deadline of the 12th October. No response to this email has been recieved.
11th October, I recieve a communication from the EHCP Team with the final draft not naming any school or type of school. In the letter sent alongside it states that the LA are aware that I would prefer a specialist school however the LA are looking to consult with other schools which are suitable. Like they didn't agree to a specialist setting and this is just down to my personal preference!?
The LA are actively pushing for DS to attend mainstream. Now the the EHCP has been finalised without any school or type of school will the intensity increase for me to place him in mainstream. Is this allowed? What happens if I just refuse to let him go? I assume it's now going to appeal. I will go through it with my consultant on Monday but just wanted to lower my anxiety over the weekend.
Please anyone who can shed a little light or has a similar experience write back. I just feel I'm at breaking point at the moment and I'm only trying to do what's best for my son hence why I got someone to advocate for me.
Thanks