I am a total failure as a mother.

[turtledove23]

My DS is 9 months today and I can't seem to get anything right. He goes to bed at 7 and (on a good night) sleeps til 1-2 then wakes anything from 2 to 8 times and wakes anywhere from 4-7 for the day. I have to work very hard to get him to sleep well in the day. Lately he has been having an hour in the morning and 45 mins-hour in the afternoon. We try to do 2-3-4. He is still breastfed despite me trying to give up about 20 times. He has 7 teeth which caused him huge extended pain and has been working on the eighth for what seems like an eternity. He is just about walking but can still only manage 6-10 steps so we're still in developmental hell. I have been in tears since 415 when he woke this morning, as have realised that after trying NCSS and all the kind stuff that I am going to have to (TONIGHT) do CIO. No booby, no love, just screaming. It is breaking my heart but I can't do this anymore. I know that I am on the road to PND from lack of sleep. Please tell me it will work?

well done turtle

how is he doing with the teething turtle? Are you still on 7 teeth or any more yet?

If you're interested, I've been using this flower remedy for about a month now :
FF5 and I think it's helping, though hard to tell really as I don't know what he's be like without it.
Also using FF6 for sinuses/mucus and FF7 for fevers.

fnf1-number 8 has popped and 9 and 10 are coming through. Starting Calc Phos tomorrow in hopes it speeds things up and been to cranial osteo which has made him very weepy for a few days, but today seemed a bit more settled...will have to see. They said it wouldn't settle for 5 days. ?????

Hello - I just wanted to say hi as I don't really have any advice, I'm a new mum and have a DD who doesn't sleep well either but is younger than your DS - and I just wanted to say I think it's amazing you are still standing and you deserve a knight hood for still standing! Not sure if I will be as strong as you if we're still in the same position three months plus, but my only thought is if you are finding it hard to get a baby sitter for the evenings, have you tried getting one for a Saturday morning/afternoon to give you some time out? My local swimming pool has a nursery which is pretty reasonable by the hour, and if you fed DS, dropped him off you'd get three hours to sleep/talk etc - and I bet he'd be good as gold for someone else! Have you also tried the 'lovely' toy idea? You get a toy, for your DS one with sucky bits would be good perhaps - and sleep with it for a while so that it smells of you and perhaps he might snuggle and suck on that instead of you in a few weeks time? Perhaps I'm only suggesting this to see if it works so I can try it!Gosh, I know nothing, I'm co-sleeping when my DD wakes at 2 and I find that works ok for me but I can see a time when it won't as she's quite restless - so again, hats off to you!

Thanks TF...have tried to make him love a lovey...he just doesn't get it. Good idea though!
Found a babysitter who is great with him, just have to get organised. I am deeply disturbed by DS's reaction to cranial osteo. He is nearly inconsolable much of the time.. .

That's so odd, I tried it once and DD was fine, or perhaps your osteopath is better/more hardcore etc so has had an affect on him? Poor mite, they weren't too heavy handed were they? I have had oddly emmotional times after massage/treatments and I guess I knew what was going on when he doesn't as such - I remember once walking round a park for over and hour after reflexology convinced I was only there for five mins and forgot what I was doing in the first place, maybe he's tripping out too!

with our CO sessions, 2 of them he cried after (but only for a few hours each time) and the middle one he was happy after, we were warned it could go either way...but I don't think it should take more than a few hours to come back down to earth? The main problem (again, as I was told) was that teething can disrupt work already done - I don't know what effect it has if the work is to combat the teething pains as well. Did you get told how many sessions you were likely to need?

On the plus side, you're nearly 1/2 way there with the teeth, we're still waiting for number 4 to break through.

I had a chiropractor tweak my arm in a demonstration in a supermarket and my blood pressure went through the floor and I nearly passed out. I ended up going to see him though and he did wonders for me in the long run. No idea what nerve he hit, though.

Going to start a new thread re CO...

Turtle, I think I might be a bit late here but just wanted to say we're in a very similar situation re: sleep and milk. My DD will NOT sleep unless I am next to her and lately she will only really sleep on top of me. I've tried everything including CIO (she just cries and cries and cries and cries) and I totally sympathise with you.

But most importantly, she also WILL NOT take milk from any vessel other than me, and I'm desperate to stop BF. I've decided now that I'm just going to stop BF and if she won't take milk, just try and ensure that she gets as much calcium as possible from other sources. Your about the first person on here who seems to have that problem too.

GOOD LUCK!