Pudding, you are so incredibley agressive, and so very ignorant.
I worked full time from when DD1 was 6 months old, she woke every 2-3 hours every night until she was 18 months, and didn't sleep through until she was about 2. I am neither rich, nor mean, nor smug, nor lacking in understanding of this scenario. I now work part time and still get woken at least once a night but as DD2 is now 2 I'm sure this will soon stop (once she has those last molars I expect).
The reason you won't read my links is because you don't want to see anything that doesn't back you up, and for evey study or report that concludes CC type sleep training to be ok there are at least 2 that say the opposite.
And both my children go to/have been in nursery, DD1 was full time between the the of 6-18 months, and then went 4 then 3 days a week until she started school last September, DD2 has been in nursery 3 days a week since she was 6 months old. I am not some smug upper-middle class SAH "Yummy-Mummy" who looks down on other mothers, I am a hard-working (I work for the NHS in Radiology, and it's bloody hard work, both physically and emotionally) dedicated mother, but no matter how dificult it is I will always put my childrens needs before my own wants. If accepting that babies and small children have short sleep cycles and regularly wake during the night and that it is my job to care for them and help them back off to sleep when this happens, until they grow out of it makes me some kind of martyr then pass me a fucking medal, but whatever else, don't make me out to be something I'm not.
You are happy to leave a baby to cry in order to "teach" it to sleep, thats your choice, no matter how inhumane, unnatural and plain wrong it is. But don't try to make me out to be wrong just to make yourself feel better.
This thread was about supporting someone with a baby that doesn't sleep through, my original response was in line with the rest;
{I think sleeping through the night is a nasty viscious myth which was created to make mums feel inadequate.
Neither of mine have slept through until they were about two, all in all I think I have had perhaps half a dozen un-broken nights in the last 5 years! And do you know what? Most of the mums I have spoken to about this will tell the same kind of tale. There are some rare babies who do sleep 8-12 hours from a young age with no intervention, but the truth is that the majority of 7-7 sleepers are only doing it because they've been left to cry in some way or another, which tells me that this kind of long sleep is not natural and not something we should feel is a failing if our babies/children don't do it.
That doesn't mean I'm not knackered or haven't contemplated trying to find some Laudenham to get mine to sleep all night, but I have (since reading several books about human development etc) stopped seeing it as a bad thing and just accepted it as something you have to deal with as a parent!}
and then a smug trite CC post changed the whole thread and I countered it, honestly, perhaps bluntly, but honestly all the same.
PinkJenny, I will, if you want to know, tell you how I would deal with your problem, I'd lie in bed with her until she went to sleep. I'd rock and cuddle and hold her if need be. Both my children are still nursed off to sleep, sometimes seperately, sometimes in tandem. DD1 slept in her own bed from about 18 months, but joined us at varying times of the night until she was about 2.5. DD2 (nearly 2.5) sleeps in a bedside cot up against our bed, and will do until I get around to getting some bunkbeds in DD1's room, which will probably be after Christmas (we are not rich you see Pudding, so we have to save for large purchases), and she will start to make the transition to her own bed at that point.
I am not the only person who has said, in one way or another, that they think CC is a horrible thing to do to a child, but, for some reason Pudding, I am the only one you have singled out. Do I touch a nerve for you?