My baby is 11 months and never has slept through the night....

[Amani]

DD2 is nearly 11 months and still does not sleep through the night. She is a very fussy eater (may be that's the reason). Anyhow I put her to sleep around 8pm, then she wakes every 2-2.5 hrs - just for me to pat her back to sleep - then she goes back to sleep and then around 3-4am ish for a feed.

Is there anyone else out there in whose baby has never slept through the night? I've tried controlled crying, but I just dont have the heart to hear her crying for ages (plus I am working and all I think about in the middle of the night is the easiest option to get her to sleep again i.e milk/patting)

god you must be knackered.
dd2 is 9 months and exactly the same.

i'm waiting for a time when both dh and i are off work and going to tackle it! not sure how though!

how about offering water at 3 a.m feed, she may not think it's worth waking for it.

Hate to tell you this but.....

Dd slept through for the first time at 18 months.

Ds slept through for the first time at 3.5 years.

Dd is 18mo and has never slept through the night.

dd2 didn't through till she was past 3

gecko doean't sleep through she is 21 months

And I tried EVERYTHING!

Nothing worked - I think they just grew out of it. People thought I was exaggerating when I would tell them that ds had woken over 20 times in the night. EVERY NIGHT. It literally brought me to my knees.

So you have my every sympathy.

Same as pinkjenny here 18mths old next week and still doesnt sleep through

And everyone I speak to says it's my fault. Which it may be, but that's not a very helpful comment, is it?

Tried the whole offering water routine - but that just ended in disaster as she cried for about an hour until I gave in and feed her milk.

Am feeling a bit tired and sorry for myself today...having a rough time at work as well..., but its reassuring I'm not the only one...am getting a bit fed of hearing 'My baby slept through the night 3 days'...etc

lol my dd1 slept through from the day she was born from 11pm till 7am (they even woke me in the hospital to wake her up to feed) don't know what I did this time to deserve such a bad sleeper. All I can say is they are all different and someday hopefully soon a full night sleep will come our way

My DD slept through for the first time at 13 months. Once. Then not again until she was maybe 18 months, did it for about a month then stopped again until she was about 22/23 months. Has now been sleeping through relatively regularly but still has nights where she wakes or crys in her sleep which wakes me up.

All children are different, unfortunately there is no one rule fits all policy for sleep. Do what ever you can to max out on sleep yourself. Have you tried her in a bed and get in with her when she wakes? That's what I did with my DD at about the same age because she was a nightmare to settle in her cot. She was much better once in a 'bed' (a matress on the floor).

I'm hoping dd won't still be getting in with us when she's 18.

DD slept through from about 12 weeks so I was feeling rather smug when DS arrived.

He was 2.5 before he slept through the night.

Don't let other parents make you feel inadequate. Some DCs are sleepyheads, some are not.

ds2 is 21 months and always wakes around 3-4 and often during the evening too. Ds1 and dd slept through for the first time somewhere between 18 months and two but dd often woke until she was three. Now they sleep like logs and I have to shake dd in the morning!

Hi Amani

My DS is coming up for 11 months old and apart from sleeping through for 1 week around 7 months he is also waking up at least twice in the night.

I'll watch this thread for any ideas, I have nothing to advise you on as everything we have tried is in this thread already.

sorry. DD2 was 6 before she stopped waking in the night. at least once she could walk she'd just get up and make her own way in to me then climb in. go to the point when i'd just wake up in the morning to find her there. at least i could sleep through by then.
nap in the aftenoons if you can, tis the only thing that got me through those shocking first years months.

DS is 20 mth and one night he only woke up once. Usually it's 4+ times.

~Pinky its not your fault. DD slept straight thru from 14wks and is an excellent sleeper. DS is 9mths & still yet to sleep thru. Ive done nothing differentI just think its the luck of the draw.

Came on here looking for similar advice - got an 8 month old who wakes up at least twice a night for long feeds - but the more I hear from other people, the more I am convinced that it's just the baby's personality. Some sleep through the night, others don't. And I don't believe half those people who say their baby slept through the night from three weeks, etc.! ; )

I think sleeping through the night is a nasty viscious myth which was created to make mums feel inadequate.

Neither of mine have slept through until they were about two, all in all I think I have had perhaps half a dozen un-broken nights in the last 5 years! And do you know what? Most of the mums I have spoken to about this will tell the same kind of tale. There are some rare babies who do sleep 8-12 hours from a young age with no intervention, but the truth is that the majority of 7-7 sleepers are only doing it because they've been left to cry in some way or another, which tells me that this kind of long sleep is not natural and not something we should feel is a failing if our babies/children don't do it.

That doesn't mean I'm not knackered or haven't contemplated trying to find some Laudenham to get mine to sleep all night, but I have (since reading several books about human development etc) stopped seeing it as a bad thing and just accepted it as something you have to deal with as a parent!

Amani DS has also never slept through, there are quite a few of us on the December PN thread in the same boat so pop back in-at least you won't feel alone!

On a good night I have got DS down to just waking twice (once a handful of times), but other nights he wakes loads. He has a good appetite so I don't think your dd being a fussy eater is neccesarily a reason.

DD was 2 before she slept through although she did wake just once most nights from about a year old.

Have you tried feeding her the first time she wakes instead of waiting til 3am? Sometimes with DS if I just feed him straight away it means I get a longer stretch after that-it seems he sometimes just needs a top up a couple of hours after going to bed...

HI Amani!

Some our our DCs on the Jan post-natal thread aren't sleeping through either. Although Sabela has just begun after CC. I was totally opposed to CC but we were desperate for various reasons and I decided to do it for 5 days, absolutely to the letter and then abandon it if there was no progress. The first night she cried for 40 minutes and then slept until 5.15am . The second night was the same, although she woke up once and we did 40 minutes of CC. Actually MUCH easier than feeding her back to sleep. Now, one week later, she goes to sleep without crying, scarcely wakes and goes back to sleep by herself if she does and sleeps until 5.30, when she comes in for a feed and a snug until about 7.30.

I would never have seen myself doing this, but it may be worth another crack at it, absolutely to the letter if you're up for it. I could never have predicted the transformation.

And if you don't fancy it, hugs, sympathy and I totally understand how you feel! It's a nightmare.

Amani you may be interested in joining quite a few of us on this thread - similar age babies we're trying to night-feed-wean and get to sleep through! I know exactly what you mean, everyone else's babies seem to be sleeping through by 8 months, you feel like you're pandering to them by feeding but they are genuinely hungry and it goes against every motherly instinct not to feed them when they are hungry!

In summary, the thread has found that DH's going in to give water or give water yourself can help but I have found that method quite hit and miss. At least we all sympathise!

Amani, hang in there!
My DD is 18-months and she seemed to get better all of a sudden. I was still feeding her through the night, much to the chagrin of my friends and family and anyone else who wanted to tell me, at 16-months because it was just the easiest way to get her back to sleep and keep the whole house quiet.
I did nothing different and she started to sleep through. She is still an early riser, and I couldn't say she sleeps through every night but things got a helluva lot better.
I have a problme now as no-one else can put her to sleep, but at least when I get to bed I'm confident of a bit of shut-eye.
Hang in there. And get sleep whenever and wherever you can. It will get better.

am in same boat. 18 month old DD has not slept through and seems to be getting worse.

Am a nervous wreck and have been to paediatrican. Last night was up every ten mins for an hour and a half.

DP has sent me an email telling me to chase the NHS as our whole family seems to be falling apart.

can sympathise.

dd2 is 22mths and not slept through yet..dd1 is 3 next month and only just started sleeping though..