i know i can't dictate who posts and what they say, but i would LIKE only tips and support please - we ARE starting controlled crying with ds2 (6mo)

[Tutter]

this is the age we used the method with ds1 and it worked really well - 3 nights and we've hardly had a bad night since (he's 2.7yo) (early wakings excepted)

ds2 is a shocking sleeper. we've tried anything and everything. shh-pat worked for a week or so. we're now back to square 1

we are comfortable with using cc now he's 6mo. i know many of you think it's plain wrong, btu it's the decision we've made

ds2 and i are decamping to a spare room tonight (far from ds1) so i will be in the same room as him

i plan to go to the cot after 5 mins and just make shh-ing noises and rub his back. is that right - can't remmber what is suggested - is the back rub too much intervention?

Tutter - you are doing the right thing, at the right age, and you will all be happier for it.

She does feed OK in the day, but it is much more "snacky" than it used to be. She used to have a really good feed, both sides, about every 3 hours. Now she seems to prefer smaller feeds more often. My guess is that she is not hungry really when she wakes at 7, but is a bit thirsty, so has a quick guzzle to quench that, but then that sets her off on a cycle of snacking all day. Would love to go back to her 3 hourly feeds, and I wonder if stopping the night feed would achieve that.

I might do as you suggest and try and shorten the night feed and see if that helps. Thanks.

How has been Tutter? I hope you have had success.