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I’m prepared to be told I’m a terrible mother but please hear me out.

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stillreallytired · 20/05/2021 18:31

My 5 month old has had one half hour sleep between 1045 this morning and now.

He is screaming with exhaustion, and I’ve been sobbing as well.

I really need advice but it does need to be actual advice I can use. So:

The sling is a no go.

He will sleep in the pram but I don’t want to be overly reliant on this.

He will feed to sleep sometimes. But the problem is if he doesn’t I then have to wait until he’s hungry enough to accept another bottle.

Dummies don’t work as he spits them out or knocks them out of his mouth.

So - I’ve no idea but I am desperate.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

NavigatingAdolescence · 20/05/2021 18:41

OP, you need help for you, not just your baby. If you’re going to keep asking, please start listening. We all really have been there before.

Are you on your own?

Tittyfilarious · 20/05/2021 18:42

Put him in the pram and just go back and forward with it in the house it will give him chance to go to sleep and for you to calm down yourself

Everydayiwakeupanditsmonday · 20/05/2021 18:43

I feel for you. I’ve been there. Either bouncy chair , go and put the kettle on and just try to accept for the moment that he is crying and have a cup of tea and put some rubbish on tv. Alternatively- put him in the pram in the kitchen , extractor fan on, kettle on. For tonight just do what you need to do to survive.

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stillreallytired · 20/05/2021 18:44

I don’t think people are appreciating that in bad weather which unfortunately we have had a lot of going out in the pram is a no go.

myhobby he has been awake for eight hours.

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SuperMonkeys · 20/05/2021 18:45

Pram for sure. What if you just sit and cuddle and rock? Do you have a car? Don't worry about rods or backs.

Megan2018 · 20/05/2021 18:45

Also to add, some days DD didn’t sleep at all. We just cracked on with the day as planned. If she didn’t sleep, she didn’t sleep.
It’s never worth getting that excited about tbh. We never managed much routine and everything has still turned out fine. There’s no point fixating on what you can’t control.

SuperMonkeys · 20/05/2021 18:45

Pram in the house

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stillreallytired · 20/05/2021 18:45

Please, if all you can say is pram don’t post.

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Cyw2018 · 20/05/2021 18:45

Why don't you want to be "over reliant on the pram". Pick your battles and let him sleep.

My DD did all her naps in her pushchair (lie flat) from about 3 months ( unless she napped in the carrier on dog walks). I wrapped her up in a really good sleeping bag/foot muff, snoozeshade on (and raincover over that if necessary) mobile phone playing classic FM in the pushchair tidy, rocked her to sleep and then either parked her up in the back garden unless it was too windy in which case I'd set everything up the same but park her up inside.

She napped like a champion. It wasn't uncommon for her to manage a 4 hour nap.

Moonshine11 · 20/05/2021 18:46

Just push him back and forth in living room.

wildeverose · 20/05/2021 18:46

This afternoon on a post filled, and I mean filled with advice, you got extremely annoyed and said you don't want anymore and to stop giving you any because you didn't want it.
You were unwilling to try anything and got snappy with any and all who tried to help -
Honestly why start another post op? I really don't think it's a good idea.

Tittyfilarious · 20/05/2021 18:46

@stillreallytired

I don’t think people are appreciating that in bad weather which unfortunately we have had a lot of going out in the pram is a no go.

myhobby he has been awake for eight hours.

Can you not wheel the pram up in down anywhere inside you don't have to take the pram outside.

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 20/05/2021 18:46

Put in pram and rock in the house if you don't want to go out! there's nothing wrong with that!

Moonshine11 · 20/05/2021 18:47

@stillreallytired

Please, if all you can say is pram don’t post.

Really? Your not helping your son or yourself. If it gets him to sleep, why aren’t you doing it? Don’t make it harder for yourself. There’s no magic to getting him to sleep he’s a baby.

OodieWoodie · 20/05/2021 18:47

@stillreallytired

I don’t think people are appreciating that in bad weather which unfortunately we have had a lot of going out in the pram is a no go.

myhobby he has been awake for eight hours.

Put them in the pram in the living room and push it back and too.

Again, been there, done that and bought the t-shirt.

Cyw2018 · 20/05/2021 18:47

Using a pram as their normal nap environment also had the advantage that wherever you are (holiday, relatives house, pub) you can set them up for their nap the same as normal.

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stillreallytired · 20/05/2021 18:48

Please will people stop posting to a) tell me to use the pram and b) that I shouldn’t be posting at all

Today has been extraordinarily cruel to a very young exhausted baby.

I need help, if you want to tell me you feel I am a dick, just send me a PM or something, but this is about my son.

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SuperMonkeys · 20/05/2021 18:48

Why is sling a no go? Honestly, parading up and down the hall patting a little bottom and singing gently over and over worked for us.

larrythelizard · 20/05/2021 18:48

Is the car an option? Right now he's overtired so you just need to do whatever it takes.

When he's on a more even keel, have a look at awake times (some people use the huckleberry app to help, i very loosely used little ones).

I did some very gentle sleep training to help DS learn to self settle from about 4mo which he sort of got the hang of by about 6mo. Aware that I probably got lucky with an ok sleeper though and it isn't anything I really did.

lakesidelife · 20/05/2021 18:48

Another one saying use the pram in the living room.
Do what you to do to get through today.

Seeline · 20/05/2021 18:48

Don't be daft. Stick the rain cover on and go for a walk. You can't stay in because it's raining!

wildeverose · 20/05/2021 18:48

Just put him In the pram. You've said it works but you don't want to rely on it, but if he's screamed all day and you're crying and desperate just put him in the pram and stop being a martyr. And stop being so rude to people who are taking the time to help you.

SuperMonkeys · 20/05/2021 18:48

I don't think anyone is saying don't post, but just saying many have been there and done that, and sometimes you have to just go with what works

Moonshine11 · 20/05/2021 18:49

@stillreallytired

Please will people stop posting to a) tell me to use the pram and b) that I shouldn’t be posting at all

Today has been extraordinarily cruel to a very young exhausted baby.

I need help, if you want to tell me you feel I am a dick, just send me a PM or something, but this is about my son.

But if you know he’s sleep in a pram I don’t get why you aren’t doing it tbh. It’s bizarre

Luxembourgmama · 20/05/2021 18:49

You can get something that kinda vibrates the pram so they think they are going for a walk when actually they are in the hall. Might work work rainy days?

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