We're still not sleeping

[Meepmoop]

New thread for those whose babies are avoiding sleeping through.

My DS is now 11 months old today..

Thanks! I think I’m going to let her get through this teething hell then make a calm decision

Not a great night here... went down like a dream just before 7 but was up at 9.45, sometime around midnight and for 2 hours between 2.30 - 4.30. And now I can't get back to sleep!! The long awake stretches in the middle of the night are the absolute worst.

Hope everyone else is having a good night

So I went away on a hen do at the weekend without DS and left him with DH.. slept through both nights and had 3hour naps

WOW!

We had one amazing night where DS went straight down, quick resettle at 10 then one feed at 1, one at 6 and slept to 7:45

Very much a one off. Back to 2 hourly

But needing less and less help to go off to sleep in his cot each night.

:D @Meepmoop! That is amazing! How are nights now that you are back?
Well, I don't even know about my life anymore... Last night was hell again. We had 3 better nights last week, from Friday to Saturday it was very good, she only woke up 5 times maybe. But after that is crap again. I think she is again teething, but she is just a natural bad sleeper. Teething or not, there's always something or nothing. Totally regressed on sleep training with sickness episode (diarrhoea and fever) and haven't managed to get back on track. Currently rocking her to sleep. Again she did 1 year last week and I was too tired to celebrate, felt/feel so bad for not having thrown a birthday party but I'm so so exhausted. Its been a 1.5months back at work and people usually say I don't seem tired. But today suddenly everyone was commenting on how tired I looked. I've noticed I get easily overwhelmed, like if I'm given something new/different to do my first thoughts are "I can't do this! How can I cope?" I get stressed much quicker than before. Then I "sleep" and I realise how unnecessarily upset I got over these things. It makes me sad that our lives are so much harder because we don't sleep.
Anyway. Sorry for the long post. I honestly think no one can understand how I feel, except people that go through the same. When I tell my husband that I feel like throwing DD out of the window, or banging my head in the wall because I'm so upset and tired he looks at me like I'm totally insane. Of course I wouldn't to that. I just mean it's agonising and its hard to see a light in the end of the tunnel.
Sending good vibes to you all!

Well he did sleep from 8 -5.30 last night but there's no way it's going to continue.

I've decided to stop breastfeeding and move DS onto cows milk. He wasn't that bothered with me being away and he went three days without it so seems like a good opportunity.

Sorry you've been having a rough time @Bartos. It really is hard to function when you're exhausted. I've found myself getting mad with DS and have had to leave him loads of times.

That's good it's getting easier to settle him in his cot @arbrighton. I'm firmly in the rocking, shushing and then asleep transfer stage.

And we're back to our usual crap nights. Been awake with DS since midnight.

@Meepmoop oh no! I'm so sorry for that! I hope he gets back on track again soon! Did you stop BF?
We had another terrible night. We are contacting a sleep consultant. We heard wanders about one in the area so hopefully she is still available and will help us. It's totally disrupting our lives, our marriage, our work. Me, as a person. And my relationship with DD. I could barely look at her this morning..she is 12 months, she didn't nap yesterday the all day, near 9pm I've managed to put her to sleep, after 30 min she was crying strongly. The all night was rubbish, was awake as 7am. She is clearly exhausted....
She is trying to walk. Could it be a milestone disturbing sleep more than usual?

Yea I've completely stopped breastfeeding now, I'm using up my freezer stash in his bedtime bottle then it'll be cows milk.

I do hope he goes back to sleeping. He drank over 7oz of cows milk in one go yesterday and he was proper windy so I'm hoping that was why

I hope she's available for you and is able to help. It could be the walking, DS sleep started to go downhill when he started walking.

Well last night, DH was settling him and he was just messing around so he came out of his room, got the monitor and he went to sleep.

Am almost sad about that!
We're distracting him from sleep now.

Oh and he's on his first day at nursery today. I'm a ball of nerves

He'll be fine @arbrighton I've heard nursery staff are magic!

That's good he settled himself although it's annoying when they don't do it for you x

I've had a lovely pic saying 'all fine' on tapestry. I'm hopeful I'll get something saying he's napped soon. TO be fair though, yesterday was the first time in an age where he fed to sleep so, really I shouldn't worry.

I'm very busy today.... Dogs had a lovely extra long walk too

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I gave up. Appointment with sleep consultant tomorrow. I hope that it will bring improvements! It has to! Another terrible night... I did sleep form 2 to 4am which I appreciate, but the rest was rubbish. It's been more than a year now

@Bartos that sounds tough. let me know how you get on with the consultant.

DS was wide awake for 3hours last night, absolute torture trying to get him back to sleep for all that time.
Our sleep was starting to get better and then I got my hopes up so inevitably it's gone to pot again

Gah I've been up with DS since 1. I tried letting him cry with me next to him but he just turned into a hyperventilating snotty mess

I'm going to join this thread as wee guy has been up since half 3 and shows no sign of going back down 😴 he's 12 months now thought it would be better at this stage 😂

Hi all! Sorry to hear some of you are still having bad nights. Nothing has improved here. This week we are on holiday and his sleep has got even worse. I'm a wreck and go back to work in two weeks! It's going to be a disaster. I'd give anything for just one good night?

@bartos let me know how it goes with thr consultant. I think you share my pain with a long term bad sleeper so I really hope it works for you.

Been lying here since 6 as DH took DS but can't sleep. Typical. I'm shattered and feel so ill!

@Meepmoop that sounds terrible! So many hours awake, poor you!!
@NotSoThinLizzy welcome! Sorry that you are one of us. Hopefully it will get better at some point! Surviving mode until it does!
@WhoAteAllthePercyPigs our little ones are terrorists! So... Mine took ages to calm down last night. At 1h30 managed to get her in the cot, she had thrown up before and just after that she got calm and settled... So I hues she was truly uncomfortable. Then, she sleeps until 6h40!!!!!!!WTF! Of course! Today that the sleep consultant comes! This NEVER HAPPENED! and it just might be another year until it happens again! She laughs in my face!

We appear to have our first molars coming through! Might explain a few things. I'm currently stuck under DS who doesn't want to nap in his cot, going to be a long couple of hours.

@Bartos that's good DS slept longer, she must have caught wind that something was about to happen

Hope you're feeling better @WhoAteAllthePercyPigs It's horrible not sleeping

@Bartos how is the sleep consultant going?

I had a meltdown last night as DS just wouldn't go to sleep and our Chinese was delivered and getting cold downstairs. I got majorly hangry and ended up storming downstairs. DH got him to sleep in 10mins and he slept 9hours! I swear he just plays up for me

@Meepmoop we started the new plan on Friday evening. So far not had bad as I thought. I think the fact I had done sleep training before is helping. It's basically controlled crying but there's no increase of periods of time. We always attend to her cry after 2 minutes. Always. To fall asleep at every nap and in the night, overnight. She told me to feed only twice for 4 days and then reduce to one feed, progressively she should start eating more during the day. DH is participating this time, doing most really because one of the goals was to get DD to accept him to put her to sleep and to console her overnight. It's though but I hope we survive through it and succeed. There will be regressions but she said that once she recovers from sickness for example shouldn't take her as long to go back to her routine. She also told me to feed her frying day out of DD room and after last feed is before the bath. To break the association with breast.
Fingers crossed. There's been some crying but the longest was 1h10, and honestly I think it's because we've put her to nap too early... Our fault. She said baby settles better with the father so I think that's why yours is sleeping longer stretches when your husband I spitting him down.
Stay strong everyone! :*

God I could've screamed last night wee guy didn't go down until 2am then was up every 45 mins 😭 hopefully ton8ght will be better. Teething here too the last ones hooray 😊

My DH put DS down to bed tonight but it made bugger all difference! A 9 hour stretch sounds blissful, I just can't imagine my DS ever doing even half of that.

Looks like yet another restless night. DS not going back down.

Bartos glad the consultant is helping, good advice there. I just worry about the loud crying as it disrupts DD's sleep (which is not good at the mo). Think we are stuck in sleep hell for a good while longer yet...

@notsothinlizzy really hope tonight is better for you!

Not so lucky tonight, been up with DS since 1.30. Cannot get him back to sleep at all.

@NotSoThinLizzy That sounds awful, hope tonight is better.

Glad the consultant is working out for you @Bartos sounds like you're getting good advice.

Just got him to sleep, noticed I put 1.30 before it's actually since 12.30 gah. Luckily DH is off work so will get up with DS in the morning while I have a lie in. We have sing and sign in the morning but can't see us making it.

DS has his injections tomorrow to so that's going to be fun