We're still not sleeping

[Meepmoop]

New thread for those whose babies are avoiding sleeping through.

My DS is now 11 months old today..

@Meepmoop that's amazing !

Still very bad nights here at almost 8 months. And it is way too hot tonight. DS actually asleep but poor DD suffering and I'm too hot to sleep! Have the windows open and it's so noisy...I'm so over this heat wave!

DS won't go to sleep and I just don't know what to do

meepmoop that's horrible, I don't know what to advise but thinking of you. We had a couple of nights of not crawling in to bed til 2/3 am. Could it be the heat?

No idea, his room doesn't seem to hit and I've got a fan going to circulate the air. He's yawning and rubbing his eyes but just won't go off.

He's finally asleep. My frustrated rocking and shushing seems to have done it. He wakes up at 6am now no matter what so best make the most of my 3hours

@Meepmoop I'm so sorry you are having a hard time. I've no idea what to suggest. Is he having too much day sleep?
We are on holidays. First night terrible (to expect with all the travelling disruption), then 2 nights after, good, considering how she is, waking up 3/3h, and going down quite easily for naps and overnight. So I was having blocks of 2.5h! Blocks, plural! Very good for me! But then yesterday she only had one nap, refusing to go down in bed, waking up as soon as I would lay her down, not happy to stay in bed overnight,waking up hourly yesterday we weren't out as much, so I guess she wasn't as tired. But it's really hot in here and I'm afraid to spend too much time outside. Today we went to the beach and she was for the first time in the sea water and she got really tired, slept for 2h!! Her 1st nap of the day... So I guess maybe she will nap again late afternoon... Going down very very late at night! Holidays have thrown her schedules out of the window! I don't mind m but I would love to get more 2h blocks! Come back!!

Every day is a fucking battle to get dd down to sleep. It's draining me so much.

She just screams if I leave her.

If I sit in there she's up down up down standing throwing dummy and trying to play.

I just thought tonight i would take the easy road and I would sit with her in the chair until she fell asleep.

She fell asleep and I waited. Then I put her in the cot and her eyes snapped open and off she goes, rolls, sits, stands.

I'm sitting outside her room listening to her cry while crying myself.

Frozenmargarita17 I don't really have any suggestions but I have totally been there, crying downstairs listening to DS cry over the monitor. I have spent hours trying to get DS to sleep. Ironically we paid £45 to a sleep consultant who 100% did not condone leaving the baby to cry, and her suggestions helped a bit but we are one week in to doing controlled crying for the second time and it is so much better. He cries for 30 seconds now at bedtime and naptime, and settled for DH tonight. He still wakes a couple of times to feed but we can work on that.

She used to be so much better at going down. I don't know if it's the heat. It's 30 degrees in her room. I've got the door open and she's wearing a Muslin bag and that's it.

Could also be more teeth?

I think I just have to ride it out because it can't be comfortable in this heat.

It's just horrendous at the time.

And I end up doing dinner at 9pm because it's taken me 2.5 hours to do bath then bed.

There's nothing like having 2 hours sleep then being up for so long it's now daylight. Hopefully I can get another couple hours.

I used a sleep consultant. Best money I ever spent!!!

I hope everyone is ok.

I've spent the whole weekend stressing about dd's naps. We've been in a different place and she struggles to nap properly in the pram etc.

We've been on reduced naps to @FrozenMargarita17 we only had two half hour naps yesterday and only had 1 nap this morning so has been awake more than 8 hours!

Where's everyone gone? Have you cracked this sleeping malarkey?

I'm in absolute hell. DS has taken to waking up hours at a time in the night. Tonight I'm coming up to the 4 hour mark. There's been tears and sobbing from both of us, I've had a panic attack. I just don't know what to do, it's literally driving me insane.

I've changed naps around and it's making no difference. I'm really worried I'm going to lose my patience. DH has tried to help but he gets up early for work and needs to be rested due to his job.

Ahhhhhhb

meepmoop not cracked it sadly, it is better in that when he wakes I feed him or cuddled him and pop him in the cot awake. He usually issue as by the time I've got back to our bedroom. He still wakes frequently but I found spending ages trying to settle him was what was really stressing me out. I'm back to work at the end of the month and not sure how I can do it on so little sleep though. How was the rest of your night?

Glad it's getting better for you @tealandteal. That's what I'm finding trying to get him back to sleep is making me so angry which is probably rubbing off on him. He won't self settle though.

I finally got him to sleep and he slept 6hours so we're all out of schedule this morning

@Meepmoop no, still not sleeping, plus dealing with all my family opinions about sleep... Going back to the UK tomorrow and she starts settling sessions in nursery on Monday. God help us!
We have multiple wake ups, o think she knows when I am laying down because she always wakes up at that point. I don't even bother to try to fall asleep, within one minute she is calling. She went to one nap only, 10 months, to early for that!! Sometimes she sleeps 30 min late afternoon but only if I walk her in the trolley. Still can't count the times I am up settling her... Let's see how things goes when we are back. Right now schedules and routine are out the window.
I am really sorry your DS spends so many hours awake. I've no idea what to suggest! Go to your HV and ask for extra help please! Maybe they can help or at least listen!
I almost forgot, we saw a paediatrician in here that said she didn't agree with controlled crying, she suggested another method where you stay in the room to help your baby calm down but not to help him to fall asleep. Baby still cries but you are in the room. I told her I don't think that's the way to go with my DD because she gets even more upset, not understanding why am I there and not picking her up... Wasn't happy for the lack of support but totally understand different professionals have different opinions.
And DD still doesn't accept DH overnight. All up to me.
Good luck for all the sleepless mums!

Oh it's such a wonderful feeling knowing you're not alone. However, I am sorry to those also suffering!
Stumbled here after another night of screaming from 2am-5.30am.
She's one now, and this is 100% karma for being slightly smug about how well she slept for the first three months.
We've now started driving her to sleep. It's just getting worse and worse.

Hello my baby also won’t sleep!

I find this ruins our routine for the day as I’m constantly trying to get him to sleep in the morning for longer as I’m so exhausted. This happens with varying degrees of success so we don’t have a consistent getting up time.

I also let him determine when he wants a nap as I’m concerned that he gets enough sleep. When I do count up the hours he is getting enough sleep but still has dark under eyes 🙁.

How do people have the energy and will to do sleep training at 3am?! I feel totally lost and exhausted and don’t know what I’m going to do when I go back to work!

Oops! Baby is almost 6 months 😬

Still here too, ds not sleeping any better. I've been back at work since the start of June. Balancing everything is tough, especially on no sleep. Currently on holiday down in Cornwall having a great time,lots of walking and time in the sun.

Sorry everyone is still struggling...it will get easier, it has to surely!

Hey @miraflores81 - at 6 months my dd was still not over the 4 month regression. At about 10-11 months when she started to roll/crawl/stand, she started to sleep a tiny bit better (2-3 hours instead of 45-1).

I have no advice because she still doesn't do it completely but I haven't ever sleep trained her because as you say, I can't keep it up.

I just tried to be as chilled as I possibly could on no sleep. And tried not to make it too hard on myself with timings etc.

Sooooo last night and the night before I didn't have to get out of bed once! I heard him stir over the monitor several times but I'm giving him 10 minutes or so before I go up, each time he has gone back to sleep after 3 or 4 minutes. He has woken at 5.30 both days though!

Still not sleeping here! Sorry to hear others aren't too, had wondered if the recent silence had meant some good sleepers or if like me, you are all too tired to post...

DS 8 months. Been crawling for a month, now pulling himself up to stand. Healthy appetite, always on the go. Has it made a difference to his sleep? Has it heck! He's waking 3 times before midnight and several times after that. Finding the first half wakings harder to deal with because I'm fighting sleep as I have to stay awake.

Will it get better? I honestly don't know...it didn't with my DD until she was 2!

I'm so sleep deprived I'm feeling sick. This is no way to live.