The non-sleepers are still not sleeping

[NinaMarieP]

New thread, guys!

I'm up! Hope you're OK @whoateallthepercypigs glad he got up eventually but seriously sounds like AH behaviour.

I'm sitting on bean bag waiting to attempt cot transfer...

Hope you've managed to get some sleep @WhoAteAllthePercyPigs and your transfer went okay @Jellybean2017.

DS has another cough and has woken himself up with it. So annoying

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs hope you're ok this morning.

Tangry this morning. I've been up with Ds since 6:30, he's just having his first nap and lah is still in bed! Didn't have a terrible night but my standards are pretty low at this point, he woke up roughly every 2hours. I get up in the night, so why is he the one having a lie in?

Ended up falling asleep on the bean bag again 😶
Ds is really fighting his naps. He will be 8 months this week so guessing its the regression, yay!
Dh has developed man flu 😔

Lbah (lazy bastard arsehole husband, apologies for my language) is still asleep. Soon he'll have slept for 4hours since me and Ds got up.... where as I haven't had 4 hours of sleep in one go since Ds was born. I probably should go and wake him up but if I do I'll have to talk to him and quite frankly I don't want to.

Just catching up, we've been to the in laws for Easter. Sorry to hear about so many AHs and so little sleep. DS was in the same room as us in a travel cot, I'm not sure anyone got any sleep.

Pleeeeeease help meeeeee
I have 3 children, why I ask myself why?????
A 3 year old a 2 year old and a 7 week old

2 year old does. Not. Sleep!!!!!! He stopped napping and I think that caused a lot of overtiredness and waking and we started some bad habits going in there etc

But it's been going on for months, he's been napping again for over a week and goes to bed nicely but wakes up for hours on and off in the night

He has a night light, music playing, shares with his brother, has his blanket, what can I dooooo? So exhausted!!!!!!!

Mine is six months and she just doesn't nap. I try walking her when tired lyin down with her and nothing more than the odd 30 min nap here and there. So frustrating. She also tends to wake up every 1.5hours to 2hours. I need a miracle.. :(

Catching up after a weekend at work.. so many AH!! I can't complain about mine right now tbh but hope you all manage to kick them into touch. Think DH definitely had a good taste of what it's like to be me this weekend. Hope you're ok @mummycuddles. Bloody get him told.

DS seemed to be settling down... and today has started with a vomiting bug. So the travel cot is now back in our room ready and waiting for, what I expect to be, an awfully long night. 👍🏼 bleeding marvellous.

Dd has been up 3 times since she went to bed. She refused an afternoon nap today after having a cheeky half hour in the pram so she had to go to bed slightly early.

When do they just go down and that's that?? Is it when she's old enough to understand me and I can talk to her about it??! Haha.

@whoateallthepercypigs
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@mummycuddles
In fact all you lovely underslept ladies - thank you for messages of support re AH. Sad to hear there are so many others out there but I’m glad everyone is sharing. I am tired of my NCT class buddies having their perfect OH who actually do things. Have just got back from the in laws for Easter. DD2 settled beautifully in her cot which was surprising given it was new place but did her usual 3am wake up; up till 5am. This is now a nightly occurance - I could set a clock by it. I don’t know what’s causing it, and have been so close to giving the dummy back. It’s been a week.

Re LAH he has got man flu. Sigh. He’s now super useless.

His mother had a chat with me this morning before we left and told me how he has a “stressful” job and he needs his rest and I shouldn’t put pressure on him to help even during the weekends. She also said she always managed on her own with no help at all from her husband (pilot for raf) who was away all the time. And LAH was just very special and he was like her and it was this genes but he had always needed more sleep than the average person, so I should carry on doing the nights and not bother him please...and they are only little for a little while and I should “treasure every moment.....”

I was so ANGRY...,, I’m making LAH do dream feed tonight. He slept in till 9am (I slept on the floor on the carpet by DD2 travel cot). He has slept in every morning this weekend till 10am; didn’t help at all with the kids; and in fact today at dinner time while I was feeding both the kids (weaning DD2 and dd1 being a toddler about her food), and running around like a chicken without a head, he just sat and read the newspaper. Twat.

Ok better go to sleep now. If he does the dream feed and she sleeps till 3 I can get some solid 5+ hours

Good luck all

@whoateallthepercypigs
Re your DH response it sounded almost exactly like mine. He once said something similar to me when I gassed off about something

@UtterlyConfused111 omg utterly I genuinely don't know how you didn't rip her head off. I'm so angry for you! How dare she! How dare he! Urrrrrgfhfhfhhfh what is it with these man-babies.

@UtterlyConfused111 I would have punched her in the face. What an absolute dick.

,utterly I can't believe your mum said that. Seriously, I don't know what to say.

The day got better, DH could tell I was angry but has said I should wake him up when I'm getting up with D's. So at least I won't be pissed off he's getting a lie in. One first wake up with D's, he took a long time to settle.

Hope you all have good nights

Hi everyone, haven’t been on here for a few days so am way behind with everyone’s updates, will read back when I can...having issues getting ds to sleep in his new cot but ha e a feeling this is more to do with leap 4 than just the fact that he’s got a new cot. We’ve had a couple of okay nights but last night was horrendous, I lost track of the times I put him down and picked him up... can’t get him to do naps in the cot either but then again getting him to nap anywhere is a problem...argh... what to do... ds is 20 weeks old today.
@FrozenMargarita17 I tried putting a hand on his face or chest but it makes it worse, however, if I take my time and make sure he’s comfortable before I pull my hand away from underneath him then that helps.
@WhoAteAllthePercyPigs I haven tried a hot water bottle but I’ve put down a thin soft blanket and he’s in a sleeping bag so I’m hoping it’s fine. I think the problem, is that he just wants to be close at the moment. Last night he did 40 min x 2, 17 min x 2 and 30 min. I did have 2 hours before and 2 hours after with him in our bed. Dp thinks I’m confusing ds by letting him sleep/ feed with me a couple of hours in the mornings and sometimes at night before dp comes to bed, what do you guys think?

26 minutes is the time ds slept in his cot before he woke up... argh... have a feeling it will be a long night...

Ooh and now 40 minutes... 🙈🙈🙈💤💤

And 7 minutes, this is ridiculous... as soon as I pick him up he relaxes, don’t know what to do...

@sakura sorry you're having a hard time tonight. Ds absolutely refused to go in the cot until he was about 7 months, then it was like someone flicked a switch and suddenly he didn't mind it. We did a few nights of controlled crying but now I feed to sleep and put him in his cot almost asleep. Naps are still on me but I just enjoy the snuggles ha. Hang in there and hopefully you'll turn a corner soon.

On wake up 2 here. And I've had the whole bed to myself as Dh is in the spare room due to his man flu... Secretly I'm quite enjoying being able to lay like a starfish 🌟

@UtterlyConfused111 omg! That's terrible!
She needs to put an egg in her shoe and beat it!

DS up every 2 hours like clockwork, I'm asking DH to do nappy before I go an feed...
Lazy I know but I'm that tired those extra 3/4 mins in bed are bliss.

I feel myself hoping he pees whilst changing so I get 6/7 minutes from a full outfit change!!!

Lol thanks guys
Luckily my mother in law doesn’t otherwise interfere too much and I am so used to it that I kind of ignore it. I hope to evolve to a point where I find it funny....
So baby is awake again at 3am. Like an alarm, every night. I can’t settle her at all. Every night from 3am to 5am. Ffs.
So low am considering reintroducing the dummy

17 week old has taken to waking every 2 hours. I’ve got insomnia in between and back ache from 17 weeks of hunched over breastfeeding. But what is stopping me sleeping now is my absolute RAGE because DH insisted on swapping to the 4.5tog summer duvet and I’m lying here shivering. I said it wasn’t tome and I get cold and he didn’t even sleep in this bed 70% of the time because he sleeps in the spare room when he’s working the next day and gets a full 12 hours. He’s asleep in the spare room with his 9 tog duvet in there. I’m absolutely furious and as baby has just gone back to sleep I don’t want to move to get dressing gown/socks etc to sleep in. Someone talk me down, or this could be the end of our marriage

I think she’s asleep. Successful cot transfer after 5million attempts.
Hope she manages to sleep a bit more tonight....

@xxrealistmumxx sorry a bit late to reply, I'm generally avoiding phone overnight. Since moving DS2 to his own room he's slept much better, as have I and DH, we're not all constantly disturbing each other now. I think weaning is helping too but honestly the move has an effect immediately. It's hard having to actually get up to him but once he's down but still in light sleep he's not disturbed by DH flapping about so generally stays down. I also sleep a lot better once back in my own room. I was so scared of the move but it has been such a god thing for all of us.

@utterlyconfused111 I do love a MIL who thinks their baby boy can do no wrong and makes them useless then encourages it i would have been fuming, it makes it an even harder battle for you. I am impressed with your calmness.

I have finally got a block of 4 hours sleep in one go! The first since DS2 was born. I am cookahoop. Sadly my joy lasted until I heard DS1 going into our room while I was feeding DS2 about an hour ago. DH has had the awful tummy bug but can never get DS1 back to his own bed. So I'm now sat in DS1'S room while he goes back to sleep hoping he doesn't come down with it. He's just been talking half asleep nonsense so hopefully I can get back to my own bed soon. It's because I bathed them at my parents house (I've been trying to give DH a good break), they fell asleep on the way home so I transferred them both which totally screws with the good work I've done with DS1 - back to normal tomorrow at least - hopefully! 🤞

DS's cough is going to be the death of me. He just keeps waking himself up with it and has coughed in my face so many times I now have it to.