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The non-sleepers are still not sleeping

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NinaMarieP · 27/03/2018 08:59

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FrozenMargarita17 · 03/04/2018 07:15

@DryHeave I remember those days. Dd was the same. Insist that he changes it back tomorrow and don't take no for an answer!!

FrozenMargarita17 · 03/04/2018 07:15

@DryHeave or today.. you know.. I am very tired haha.

FrozenMargarita17 · 03/04/2018 07:16

Dd decided that 3am was a GREAT time to wake up. I was absolutely furious and so shattered. I'm just so tired :( when does this end.

BackIntoTheSun · 03/04/2018 14:28

Question: if you don't rock your baby to sleep for naps, how the hell do you get them to sleep during the day?!

My 6mo is just too heavy and too aggressive (fights every nap with hair pulling etc) to rock to sleep but she just goes straight to being wide awake when I put her down. She has a nap routine of sleeping bag on, white noise, story, dummy in, song, I tell her shh it's sleep time but if I stay with her she just wants to play and if I leave she cries. But I just can't rock her anymore, it's too stressful. I don't drive and if she goes in the buggy it's walking for half hour before she'll sleep and then I have to keep walking or she wakes and that would be 3 hrs of walking a day which I can't cope with on little sleep. She won't feed to sleep in the day either

I'm at a loss :(

Emberblu · 03/04/2018 15:36

@BackIntoTheSun I had the same problem with ds and had to wean him off of bouncing to sleep (and theb Off of sleeping on me) because my knees were giving up and I was going a bit crazy...
We just gradually stopped the rocking so each time it was less and less. Then I just sat propped up in bed with him on me. There were tears but he always seemed to cry to sleep anyway so I thought why not let me rest? Anyway I was always there comforting him so even though there was crying we worked through it (wireless headphones might help you not go mad!) pretty soon he would sleep on me no problem (I say pretty soon it took a couple of weeks!). Now I can put him down in his cot with white noise, me singing and my hand on him and after lots of fussing (but not crying) he does fall asleep (most of the time....). It might work for you too? Ds doesn't have a dummy but is a finger sucker so that might make a difference? Good luck!!

FrozenMargarita17 · 03/04/2018 16:39

I lay next to my dd and she goes off. Although today we have been out and she has had 2 30 minute naps and I'm a wreck worrying about how awful tonight will be. I've just tried To put her down for a late nap but she's refusing. Could cry !

yolkybokey · 03/04/2018 19:23

Hi everyone - been catching up on the thread, sending Brew and Cake to everyone having a tough time.

DS is now 7.5 months. He's still a champion sleep refuser but we've made some progress with nights. We had been co sleeping since he was a few weeks old, but it stopped working for us, I reached breaking point when he wanted to spend all night clamped to my boob and he woke up every hour if I was lucky 😬

My DH took two weeks off work over Easter and we decided to dedicate ourselves to getting him to sleep in his cot. I decided I didn't want to leave him to cry if I could help it, so we've been getting him to sleep, putting him down and then picking him up when he cries. Repeat x infinity 😂

I've been really surprised at the results, he has started doing 2.5 hour stretches several times in a night, which he hasn't done since he was a newborn. It really seems like we were keeping each other awake. I'm hoping he will be able to do longer and longer stretches now, and that I'll eventually be able to night wean.

It's not all been plain sailing by any means but I feel so much better. And having the bed back has been amazing!!

However his daytime naps are still sh*t, he has started pulling my hair, etc, so I'm following with interest to see if anyone else has cracked it.

BackIntoTheSun · 03/04/2018 19:45

@yolkybokey we're in a similar position where co sleeping just isn't working (also on the boob all night) so we are trying to keep DD in the cot. Glad you've had some improvement!

Meepmoop · 03/04/2018 21:15

DS is coughing and flapping around so much I can't believe he hasn't woken up screaming yet. I almost can't be bothered to go to sleep as I just know as soon as I drift off he will wake

Meepmoop · 03/04/2018 21:17

As predicted....

UtterlyConfused111 · 03/04/2018 21:31

Gah.
For the last week she has been waking with a poo at 3am and it is a nightmare to get her to go back to sleep at that point. Starting the day at 3am is horrific. I’ve been weaning her as of a couple of weeks ago.
The wisdom of google suggested avoiding fruit and fibre in the evenings and having carbs and the only thing she can have is baby rice at this point (we haven’t worked up to other carbs) so baby rice and fruit for evening it was..,, I think it’s gone the other way now and she’s constipated. There has been no poo at all today and she’s usually like a clock (3pm and 3am). Ffs.

Meepmoop · 03/04/2018 21:41

Oh no @UtterlyConfused111 I feel your pain of no poop. You'll have to try your prune/apricot combo. Annoyingly we've gone the other way now into 3 poops a day. Ive increased DS's water intake and that seems to be helping

onone85 · 03/04/2018 22:04

He's on the third wake up already. He's been fed but he's restless and I know this means I'm on for a shit night.

I don't think I can take anymore peppa pig at 2am. It's the only thing that stops him screaming the house down.

UtterlyConfused111 · 03/04/2018 22:31

@meepmoop I have the prunes and apricots handy. I need to buy a sippy cup for the water too; although not sure what her reaction will be. She can’t really hold it herself....which one do you have?

Ok off to bed... hope she sleeps...

GinUnicorn · 03/04/2018 22:35

Good luck all. And another night in the trenches begins. I keep telling myself this will be the night she sleeps 3 hours in a row... hope springs eternal...

FrozenMargarita17 · 03/04/2018 22:45

Dd has woken up twice since 6:30ish. That's pretty good going. Just now she started to cry but by the time I got upstairs she was asleep again !! Wish me luck..

Sakura03 · 03/04/2018 22:54

Last night was another tough one but slight improvement on daytime naps today, my guess is that he was making up for lost sleep. Struggled to settle him tonight, he just wanted to play so went and laid down on our bed and fed him whilst singing to him, it did the trick - we both nodded off, when I woke I put him down in the cot but he was awake 10 minutes later. Took him into bed with me and he fell asleep straight away but all of a sudden woke up wailing. He was so upset that we had to get up and walk around, his daddy took him for a bit and he’s now on my lap on the sofa in the lounge... think he must have had a bad dream poor little thing.
I’ve aske my dp if we can take a side off the cot (it’s an Ikea cot which does allow this) and attach it to our bed as I think this may work better for us. He’ll have a go at it at the weekend.
I hope we all get some sleep tonight at least more than last night.

FrozenMargarita17 · 04/04/2018 06:53

I can't remember last night much but I think she slept a bit better?! I don't know, my eyes are stinging still.

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 04/04/2018 06:57

This is going to sound strange, but I have no memory of what happened last night. I think Ds slept well for him. I vaguely remember feeding him at some point but that's it. I did this the other night, woke up proped up on extra pillows with no memory of how I got there. Do any of you get so tired you forget things like that??
Hope last night was ok for you all.

FrozenMargarita17 · 04/04/2018 07:34

@MummyCuddlesSolveEverything yes! I posted a second ago saying I couldn't remember what happened last night. I think she slept a tiny bit better because I didn't struggle so much? I can't remember.

onone85 · 04/04/2018 07:47

@FrozenMargarita17 @MummyCuddlesSolveEverything

Same thing happened to me. I remember being up watching Ben and holly at 3.45 for an hour but nothing before that.. there's no way he's done 8 hours straight.

I have a Fitbit and checked the sleep tracker and apparently I was awake a number of times Hmm

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 04/04/2018 08:06

Oh cross post frozen
How strange that 3 of us (so far) have no memory of things in the night. I wonder if it's exhauston effecting our memories? Oh it's so painful waking up so much we're blanking it out!

Jellybean2017 · 04/04/2018 09:29

Did OK here. Two wake ups then up at 5.30. Naps ended by 2 yesterday so put him to bed at 5.45 but trouble is it's too bright in his room so he won't actually go in his cot til it's dark... So I end up sitting there for hours holding him while he sleeps ha. Need to sort out a better blackout blind. Trying to decide whether I am going to take him to a baby group this morning... We are due a mega poo so I'm nervous haha 😂

UtterlyConfused111 · 04/04/2018 10:26

@meepmoop
Thank you - I’ll give it a try. I think dd1 had a similar one god knows where it went.

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