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The great non-sleepers... continued (again 😴)

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Jellybean2017 · 21/02/2018 01:32

New thread for night (and daytime!) chatter for those awake more than they'd like with a non sleeping baby/child 😊

My DS is six months. First baby likely to be only baby if I don't start getting more sleep! He is a nap and sleep fighter but incredibly cute so I choose to forgive him 😂

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cadburyegg · 12/03/2018 03:28

Up feeding week old DS2.

Does anyone suffer from lower back pain from pregnancy/breastfeeding- feel like I’m feeding 12 hrs a day so sitting constantly

lizzlebizzle33 · 12/03/2018 03:39

Hi @cadburyegg congratulations on your new baby.
Yes I had back pain through pregnancy and BF was very difficult (still is some days, 4 mo later)
I found s feeding pupils helped, also sitting more on a dining chair than a sofa with my feet on something so my knees were up.

Have you tried feeding lying down? That's my go to position when I'm tired or achey.

lizzlebizzle33 · 12/03/2018 03:40

Feeding pillow that should say sorry!

SandyPark · 12/03/2018 03:53

Dad here, first time posting. DS is 6 and a bit months and has always been a terrible napper and sleeper, he maybe gets a couple of hours at best during the day via four short one cycle naps and nights are just constant up and down with lots of crying. He seems to have been teething for months, has been constipated since weaning at about 5 months. We're both in a very dark place now and just don't know where to turn. So exhausted we can barely think, my work is suffering badly and more importantly my DW and DS are just so unhappy it's killing me. Doctors might as well be stuffed animals and heath visitor is basically unreachable. We are doing sleep training in the sense that we're putting him down drowsy at night and trying not to pick him up as soon as he wakes but he just can't soothe. The whimper turns to a cry which turns to meltdown. He used to at least snooze in this buggy and in the car but that's gone now too. All I can think of now is to pay out for a pediatrician but i don't even know what I'm supposed to be asking them.... I don't know if I'm in the right part of the forum, just writing this out is helping but I'm just so shocked as to how alone we feel as a small family and how little actual support there is from the heath services...

IntoTheWoods84 · 12/03/2018 05:24

Hey sandypark - I’m right there wth you. My DS is 7 months and has been waking every 45mins to 1.5hrs for 4 months now.

We now bedshare with our son which makes me nervous. Two nights on, two nights off with one or other of us on the sofa so there’s room in the bed. It’s pretty terrible but that’s how we’re currently coping. Even with one of us in the bed, he still wakes frequently but it’s slightly more bearable.

It’s so hard but reading threads like this in the night somehow make me feel a bit better - just knowing it’s happening to other people. Wish a doctor could pull a magic lever and fix it!

lizzlebizzle33 · 12/03/2018 06:41

Hi there, you're definitely not alone, awful awful night here. Just when you think it's getting better it goes to crap again. Ds2 wouldn't even settle in bed with me last night I just dont know what's wrong with him. Waking up every half hour crying and thrashing around and not wanting to feed.
I'm absolutely exhausted, ds1 is awake now too, oh the joy.

Hello Monday!

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 12/03/2018 07:01

Cheshire yes I gave up trying, perhaps I should have persevered. I was finding trying was tiring me and ds out even more, and it was getting disheartening. I intended to start trying again but decided not to as ds is neatly 6months now so we can start using a cup soon. I didn't try with a bottle till ds was just over 3months, perhaps it will be easier for you as you're starting earlier. I agree with meepmoop about trying different bottles we tried a few, but not nuk.

lizzlebizzle I know what you mean, after making a bit of progress on Friday night the last 2 and been awful.

sandypark have you tried co sleeping, I know not everyone is comfortable with it (I wasn't at first) but it might help you all to get some more sleep. My ds is 5.5months and has never slept well but around Christmas I couldn't put him down at night without him waking. I really tried but just couldn't anymore. Ds has his cot on the side of our bed with the side off, it means if he is ok he can sleep further into his cot and I get more space, or of he needs more comfort and reassurance he can sleep right next to me. It hasn't fixed everything. He still wakes up regularly through the night but we get more sleep.

Tough night, with about 7 wakes, ds was up at 6:30...It's going to be a long day.

cheshiremama89 · 12/03/2018 07:28

Thanks @MummyCuddlesSolveEverything

@Meepmoop we are using the Lansinoh ones atm, as they were recommended for breastfed babies, I do have some Medela ones that came with the pump so I could always try those.

I'll look into the Nuk ones Brew

UtterlyConfused111 · 12/03/2018 07:35

Another awful night here too
Was up every ten minutes between 230 and 515. Would only sleep if cuddled or would fall asleep and wake up ten minutes later. She wasn’t hungry.... have no idea what the problem was. And then dd1 woke up at 615.
Have the stingy eyes this morning

FrozenMargarita17 · 12/03/2018 07:38

Hm. I couldn't even count how many times I was woken up last night. Stinging eyes.

SandyPark · 12/03/2018 07:54

@everyone, thanks for the replies, the feeling of alone subsided over night reading these...

Meepmoop · 12/03/2018 08:21

I do love this thread, it's helped me so much with being up in the night and especially on the truly awful nights

xxrealistmumxx · 12/03/2018 09:56

cheshiremum avent teats were the only ones my three took to. Keep trying, it really is a life saver to be able to have someone else feed on occasion.

Welcome sandy sounds like you're having a really rough time. This thread is great for solidarity, especially in the wee hours. It's also very non judgemental and supportive unlike a lot of other mn threads on sleep! Some of us have tried sleep training, some of us prefer to muddle through. We're all at different stages. Feel free to bat things off us. It's so hard to know 'what to do' as there's no one straight answer, hence the lack of support from health services I think, but there is lots of valuable experience here. One thing that struck me is the impact you feel its having on your DW mental health. First and foremost this is where I'd suggest you get support. For yourself too for that matter. Sleep deprivation is horrific to deal with but when it gets to the stage that it's leaving you with persistently low mood its important to get some help.

Well for the past few nights I've been sleeping in DDs room leaving LO and DH in our room and only coming through to feed. It means I'm less disturbed for the other wake ups - DH is great for dealing with them in a way doesn't really disrupt his sleep so much. We're in the process of sorting out LOs room but I don't want to move him if he's still needing a lot of resettling as that's easier to do when he's close to us!

It sounds like some of the older members of the group are starting to sleep better, which is hopeful. One day this week just be a story we tell to our kids. I hang on to that!

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 12/03/2018 12:36

Think ds is ill. He's not happy at all, his nose is blocked and he sounds quite chesty. He woke up screaming a few times last night and he's been very upset today as well. He's been sick and we've had awful dirty nappies. I called the doctors because I was worried and they think it's probably just a virus and to keep an eye on him. Probably an overreaction to phone the dr but it's the first time he's been like that and I'm a bit of a worrier.

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 12/03/2018 13:13

Exhausted here. Both DC up last night. Very snappy and not a very patient mummy today.

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 12/03/2018 13:14

@mummy never an overreaction if you're worried. I'd give them a call just to put your mind at rest. Really hope he recovers soon.

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 12/03/2018 13:26

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs thank you. He's on his third nap of the day already so must need the rest. Poor little guy.
Hope you get a better night tonight.

FrozenMargarita17 · 12/03/2018 13:55

We went to the cinema today to a baby screening but dd hasn't had enough sleep so threw a complete screaming strop so we had to leave 🙈

lizzlebizzle33 · 12/03/2018 14:05

Oh fear @Frozen very brave to even attempt a cinema trip though! Well done, I don't think I could do it.

So sorry to hear about poorly babies,there has been a nasty virus going around here too.

So ds1 managed to pull the tv on top of himself today, he's ok and it didn't break but gave us all a big fright, luckily it isn't that heavy. Obviously this was on DHs watch and I was upstairs with ds2, maybe if he put the frickin guitar down and watched his son it wouldn't have happened? But then again maybe it would have.

Still a cranky baby here, so unsettled. Day 5 of no poo 🙈 never wanted a massive poopnado more in my life! Maybe i will get some sleep then.

AMagdalena · 12/03/2018 14:45

DD slept from 9pm till 4.15am, but I was so peeved off with AH that I hardly slept.

tealandteal · 12/03/2018 14:59

I have been reading this thread for the last few days but couldn't get my brain in gear enough to form coherent sentences. Last night DS slept from 12 through til 6.30 though, so feeling much better. Not sure exactly what did it but hoping for more of the same. The hourly wakes ups are a killer. Glad to see some babies are starting to sleep well reliably

DiscombobulatedWomble · 12/03/2018 15:20

DD scared the crap outta us last night.. she was in the cot asleep, started chuckling which is pretty normal when she's just gone down, but then she started screaming her head off but when I picked her up she wasn't actually awake! It was horrible has anyone else had that? Took ages to calm her once she actually woke up :(

UtterlyConfused111 · 12/03/2018 15:40

I’m really grateful to have found this thread....

tealandteal · 12/03/2018 16:07

Discombobulatedwomble yes DS went through a phase of doing that, not every night but off and on over 2 weeks ish. It was so hard to comfort him as he was still asleep! He hasn't done it since

Meepmoop · 12/03/2018 16:11

@DiscombobulatedWomble That sounds awful. I haven't had that but wonder weeks mentions it for leap 6. (Which we've just started)

@lizzlebizzle33 glad your DS1 is okay, must have been very scary

A local pub has had a renovation so we're off to have a drink and check it out at 5. I hope DS will be in a jolly mood