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The great non-sleepers... continued (again 😴)

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Jellybean2017 · 21/02/2018 01:32

New thread for night (and daytime!) chatter for those awake more than they'd like with a non sleeping baby/child 😊

My DS is six months. First baby likely to be only baby if I don't start getting more sleep! He is a nap and sleep fighter but incredibly cute so I choose to forgive him 😂

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Meepmoop · 11/03/2018 08:03

Happy Mother's Day!!

My DS was also awake at 2am and wouldn't go sleep for 2hours! I got really frustrated so DH took over. I could hear him reading book after book. After I had calmed down I attempted to feed to sleep for the third time and it worked.

The sun is out at the moment so I hope it stays so we can go for a walk. We saw our mums yesterday so I have the day for myself and DH isn't working for a change.

@k567 that sounds awful, sorry you've had a rubbish night. Hope you get some rest in tonight.

@MummyCuddlesSolveEverything my DS started rolling on his front so I left him to it. He then woke himself up rolling over so I put him on his front. He sleeps so much better for it.

UtterlyConfused111 · 11/03/2018 08:38

@mummycuddles
I’m now ff but was ebf before that till recently and think AH got in the habit of not helping. He didn’t do the morning feed; baby was howling so I just got up and did it. Then I went and got dd1 and he made an appearance and I just told him to go back to bed. He looked like he hadn’t slept all night and any effort to make him take over at that point would mean he would just sigh and moan all day and I was awake anyway

@k567
Same boat as you I think. I have excema that flared up, but even worse over Xmas I had a cold that became a chest infection that became pneumonia in both lungs. I just wasn’t getting enough rest.... every cold that’s going along hits me. I have DH who watches telly every night too, stupid movies with a couple of glasses do wine.... and I don’t understand why he won’t sleep and then complains he’s tired all the next day.
@frozen
Yup; AH says I’m no fun and happy any more because I won’t stay up and watch movies with him and I didn’t stay up till midnight on nye.
I know leaving the kids with him and going away might teach him the lesson but I don’t want to do that to the kids. He WILL actually forget to feed them or leave them screaming upstairs while he gets a coffee in the kitchen

UtterlyConfused111 · 11/03/2018 08:40

Gah!
On the brighter side dd1 and I made pancakes together and we had a lovely morning :-)
DD2 is grumpy because of last nights antics but hopefully fine after a nap :-)
Let the day begin...,

NinaMarieP · 11/03/2018 10:07

Happy Mother's Day everyone!

I might not be welcome here soon, that was night five of him going 10-7.

I'm calling it sleeping through but he does wake/stir a few times and need his dummy.

Lallypopstick · 11/03/2018 10:13

Yay Nina!

Happy mother's day to you all.

Meepmoop · 11/03/2018 10:21

That's great @NinaMarieP, You can be our first graduate!!

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 11/03/2018 14:35

Hope you're all enjoying mother's day. Despite an awful night I'm feeling really happy today. Dh is actually being a DH, he got a lovely card, daffodils and downton abbey box set for me from ds. I'd mentioned last time we were in hmv that I loved downton but never watched the last series. He remembered and bought it for me, very thoughtful!

Has anyone found starting solids helped with sleeping? We're starting today, not to get more sleep but because yesterday ds grabbed some of my dinner and tried to eat it. He's 5.5 months and we were planning on starting next weekend, just moved it forward because he seems ready. Obviously he's not eating a lot yet but I'm hoping perhaps he'll sleep a little bit better.

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 11/03/2018 14:37

That's great Nina I hope he carries on sleeping through for you!

UtterlyConfused111 · 11/03/2018 15:15

@mummycuddles
Yup! The two nights I gave DD2 baby rice she slept well but then got constipated so I thought it was too early and stopped.
Dd1 has been a 7 to 7 sleeper - since she started solids!
I don’t know if it’s that they’ve developed enough by 6months to sleep or it’s the food but it seemed to help...
Good luck!!

@ninamarie
Well done!! Happy sleeping (slightly green with envy....)

AMagdalena · 11/03/2018 15:34

Well, AH made absolutely no effort today...Didn't even get a card Hmm
Don't get me wrong, he's great, but he's an AH, I know it.

lizzlebizzle33 · 11/03/2018 15:39

Well I decided to best my AH to it and tell him not to worry about getting me anything so I avoided disappointment, I just asked him if possible to not be a jerk at all all day, so far so good.

AMagdalena · 11/03/2018 15:40

@Mummycuddles My DD's sleep has got a lot better since we started weaning, but she had been gradually getting better in the last 2 months, so not sure whether I would put it down to weaning.

NinaMarieP · 11/03/2018 15:42

I had thought that solids were making no difference but now he's on three decent meals a day that's maybe what's done it.

He has 10g of porridge with fruit in the morning, some sort of fruit at lunch usually (a satsuma, an apple, a plum etc) and then tea is veg (beetroot, carrots and peas, avocado etc) most days. So it's not stodgy calorific food. So maybe it was reaching 7 months. Who knows!

Meepmoop · 11/03/2018 16:51

I haven't noticed much notice sadly. We've moved onto 3 meals a day and have just started adding meat, fish, rice and pasta so hopefully the bulky food might make a difference

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 11/03/2018 17:19

Thanks everyone, good to hear other peoples experiences. I'm not expecting miracles but so many people say have you tried starting him on solids early as some magic solution to ds not sleeping well.

UtterlyConfused111 · 11/03/2018 19:46

@lizzle
@amag
I’m with you. AH did dream feed last night and that’s it. I’ve given up asking him; he had a lie in till 845 this morning and a full night of sleep and he’s still complaining about how tired he is. Went for a 2 hour nap too. There is literally no point; it’s all on me. I expected him to do nothing and he did nothing like every other weekend so it’s fine.

Fingers crossed for a better night tonight..

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 11/03/2018 20:01

Sorry to hear about the AH's. Mother's Day may be commercial crap but equally, I don't think us Mums are as appreciated as we should be so it's a good chance to do that. Have to say DH did good sure it has nothing to do with the guilt over my sleepless nights. Got flowers, chocs and a massage voucher, plus he took DD out this morning, during which time DS obliged by napping on me while I ate chocs and watched SATC, then he took both kids out in the afternoon, so I went for a run and then chilled out. Feeling a bit more restored. Although not looking forward to the night ahead. Not so worried about DS and his sleep but DD, last night she was awake so many times. DH took her into bed with him but as he's working tomorrow, it will be on me. Fingers crossed for us all!

Happy Mother's Day to you all. Being a mum is a tough enough gig; with no sleep the challenge is even bigger. You're all bloody amazing!

FrozenMargarita17 · 11/03/2018 20:35

I'm trying to get 7.5 month dd to eat but she just doesn't fancy much food at all. She'll have a few mouthfuls or something but isn't bothered really. Hasn't helped sleeping one bit.

lizzlebizzle33 · 11/03/2018 21:18

So he couldn't do it, DH turned back into AH before the day was done.
We went to his mums for tea, ds2 and I met him and ds1 there as I went to see my mum with the baby.
We get home and im mad at him for rummaging around for clothes in ds1s drawers, turfing stuff onto the floor after I only folded it all this morning, and leaving a mess and somehow I get shouted at??

Oh well, me and the kids are all in bed now and he can have the bloody living room to himself just how he likes it, no doubt he will have that fucking PlayStation on already.

Sorry, rant over, I feel better. I hope you have had a nice day, and the babes treat us kindly tonight.xx

cheshiremama89 · 11/03/2018 22:19

Hope you the start of the night shift is boding well for you all Brew

Just got in from a long day with family, on the promise that DH would give DS A bottle whilst I get an hour in bed.

DS screamed bloody murder and wouldn't take bottle/formula, now I'm up breastfeeding and he's as happy as Larry.

Why why why why why

cheshiremama89 · 11/03/2018 22:20

I'm so tired I could cry

MummyCuddlesSolveEverything · 11/03/2018 23:32

Cheshire Sorry you're having such a tough start to the night. Ds is a bottle refuser too, it makes it hard because you have to be there 24/7 and can't ask someone else to take over doing a feed so you can rest. As he gets older and spaces feeds out it will get easier. He's growing so much and is building up your supply. Is there a la leche league group near you? I've found my local group so helpful.

utterly when dh says he's tired I just give him a look and he shuts up. When he naps I get so annoyed and daydream about smothering him with a pillow'

Ds has already woken up 3 times, the last two times screaming inconsolably. He doesn't have a temperature and I'm not sure what's wrong. I'm blaming food at the minute, we started today, even though he hardly had anything could he be struggling to digest it? It's unusual for him to get in a state like that.
Good luck everyone, hope you have a good night.

cheshiremama89 · 11/03/2018 23:37

Thanks @MummyCuddlesSolveEverything

With the bottle refusal, have you ceased trying? I was really hoping to be able to introduce a few so that DH and I can perhaps have a coffee out in a couple of months while the grandparents look after DS for a couple of hours.

I'll look into La Leche x

lizzlebizzle33 · 12/03/2018 00:43

Grr, so you ever have one of those nights when you know there is no point even closing your eyes when you get back in bed because you will be up again in 57 seconds?

Meepmoop · 12/03/2018 00:54

We're on wake up 2 but DS is struggling with his cough again. I thought it was nearly cleared up but no it's gotten bad again. I'm so fed up with it! DH also has a cough so I think they're just passing it back and forth between.

Those with bottle refusers which teats have you tried? DS didn't like the normal shaped ones but got on really well with the breast shaped ones. We use NUK.