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Non-sleepers unite...

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Jellybean2017 · 18/01/2018 22:40

New thread for night (and daytime!) chatter for those awake more than they'd like with a non sleeping baby/child 😊

My DS is five months. First baby likely to be only baby if I don't start getting more sleep He is a nap and sleep fighter but incredibly cute so I choose to forgive him 😂

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user1483387154 · 04/02/2018 03:19

7 month old refusing to sleep :( I havent had a full nights sleep in nearly a year and I feel close to breaking point. Doing this on my own is too hard sometimes

UtterlyConfused111 · 04/02/2018 04:55

Back to waking up every half a fucking hour. Ffs.

Catscatsandmorecats · 04/02/2018 05:29

I'm.sorry so many of you are having bad nights, half hour or hourly wake ups are so hard.

Brizzlemaverick I too have a 4m old and 3y old. Now we're back on UK time having been in France they both think it's time to get up for the day. I'm trying to persuade the baby to feed back to sleep but can hear DS1 playing Octonauts in his room, very awake. I'm knackered, definitely not ready to start the day.

Meepmoop · 04/02/2018 05:49

Now he's wide awake! What's happened to his sleep.
It's going to be a looong day.

user1489931797 · 04/02/2018 05:57

Thanks @HashtagTired and @xxrealistmumxx appreciate it!

So DS gets uncomfortably constipated if he doesn't have a bowl movement after 3days his tummy gets very swollen and firm so he's been comfort BFing I stupidly didn't swap boobs enough throughout the day and after 3hrs sleep I've woken up with a VERY engorged left boob he's helping with that now but at what point do I swap to the other to get supply up on that one to be more balanced?!

Hope he poops soon very unsettled and gone is the progress of being in Moses back to sleeping just in our arms!

This is so exhausting!!! Sad

Farha212 · 04/02/2018 06:07

Hi ,my little one is age 2month ,He is not sleep day time ,no nap nothing all day wake up crying and crying ,night time bed time he did too much fight ,some days ok to sleep but some day not,I took docter she said reflux ,What you all thing is it reflux ??gp gave me medicen gaviscon ,what you thing is it works?how long will be batter,

AMagdalena · 04/02/2018 09:41

2 wake ups last night, but I was really uncomfortable. Think it's time to temporarily evict DH 🤐

@user I'd just keep swapping them and it shpupd settle down.

UtterlyConfused111 · 04/02/2018 09:49

@amagdelena
I like the sound of evicting DH! Mine didn’t manage to do the dream feed at 1030 this weekend and I stupidly thought that since baby has been sleeping well I would be fine. This morning I just let him sort out DD1 while I showered and had a cup of tea and fed the baby... it was really nice not to be dealing with two of them at the same time. Dd1 gets very hungry and grumpy for breakfast... DD2 is so full from feeding all night that she refuses her morning bottle ... it’s all a pain...

UtterlyConfused111 · 04/02/2018 09:58

@user
I had similar situation with dd1 re pushing at the gp. Our gp practice is ranked one of the worst in England so I just gave up. My husbands work offers private health insurance and went private. This may not be an option but given how dire things are maybe just dig into savings and pay up for one consultation with a private paedritician? Maybe £100/£200 but even if your gp refers you might take time to get an appointment, and you may also get brushed off there....

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 04/02/2018 10:15

Hi all. Sorry to hear about all the bad nights here. Welcome newcomers, hopefully this thread will help you realise you're not alone!

Bad night here too. Lots of hourly wake ups. I'm really trying to transfer him into his cot after every feed- he'll do the first half of the night in his next to me, but after that he will last an hour in it tops, maybe 2 on a good night. I've been having him sleep on me while I doze which I know isn't ideal and I worry about his safety. But I'm so tired it's the only way I can get sleep!

I've been feeling low this past week. Normally I can shake it off - even when tired - but it's just not been shifting. Had family staying which helped but they have gone and I'm back to feeling blue. Don't know if it's just the sleep deprivation or baby blues, wish it would pass though! Today I feel like I'm swimming through treacle...going to be a long one Sad

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Jellybean2017 · 04/02/2018 12:20

Keep swimming @Whoateallthepercypigs. It's so tough sometimes. Flowers

I'm standing in the hallway in my coat with DS in the sling asleep. Went out for a walk and he dropped off on the way home... This is how desperate I get for him to nap 😂 at least DH is cooking dinner though!

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AMagdalena · 04/02/2018 12:30

@Whoateallthepercypigs CakeBrew to you. It's tough most some days, but tomorrow is a new dayn thankfully.

I am going out by myself for the first time in ages.
DD was being a pain when I tried to feed her, so I am running late.
Oh, well. She can have fun drinking from her Doidy cup until I am back.

xxrealistmumxx · 04/02/2018 14:27

whoAteAllThePercyPigs if your low mood persists definitely speak to HV / GP and / or anyone else who can be of support. Prolonged sleep deprivation is horrific and causes all sorts of damage to our Well-being but when it slides into pnd that's a whole other issue. Hugs to you.

Still not much sleep happening here. We haven't managed more than an hours stretch in as long as I can remember. Fri and sat evening were the pits as I really needed some time with OH but instead of reconnecting after a busy week we had to take it in turns settling and resettling LO Sad

OH is away for the weekend every few weeks and we're both so busy during the week it's like we hardly see each other at all now. Feels like time is just passing us by in a horrible sleepless haze!

AMagdalena · 04/02/2018 15:26

@UtterlyConfused I'd totally let your DH do the dream feed. I kicked mine up the backside last night to do nappy changes. He was 'tured' because he went to football after work. Well, so was I and didn't go gallivanting Hmm

Well, the Doidy cup has been a hit with DD so far. She can't really hold it herself that well yet, but she likes it. I think!
I can go out for a couple of hours and not fret about DD kicking off refusing the bottle.

NinaMarieP · 04/02/2018 17:21

26 weeks today and LO had his first food (sweet potato

NinaMarieP · 04/02/2018 17:23

Posted too soon...

sweet potato) and some water from a cup. Not sure how much of either got swallowed but now he's 'on solids' he'll sleep through, right? That's what I keep getting told anyway 😂😂

He's finally getting over his cold and has been less tired and whiny during the day which is nice. It says a lot when the days become worse than nights but that's how it's been here for the past week and a half.

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Jellybean2017 · 04/02/2018 17:27

@ninamariep DS tried carrot yesterday and pea puree today (also 26 weeks today so must have same birthday 😊) the pea made him gag before it went in his mouth haha! Hysterical crying afterwards. Maybe he's not quite ready.

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NinaMarieP · 04/02/2018 17:37

Aww wow! Birthday twins 😁.

He was very enthusiastic about the sweet potato, 'lunge forwards with mouth open to get it' enthusiastic intact! And he definitely chewed it but then bits were spat/dribbled out so not sure if he swallowed some or didn't know how to really do that yet. He was super keen for more though straight after spitting some out.

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Jellybean2017 · 04/02/2018 17:47

Ahh brilliant! Perhaps we will have to try sweet potato next! Although the nights can drag, that six months has gone incredibly fast!

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AMagdalena · 04/02/2018 17:50

My DD has tried stewed apple and her bowels didn't approve, so we're restarting on Wednesday with carrot. Wish us luck 🙈

I'm currently stuck under a baby. Yaaaay.

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Jellybean2017 · 04/02/2018 18:05

DS did an epic poo after the carrot @AMagdalena... Went through three layers of clothes 🙈 I am also stuck under the sleeping baby 😂

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NinaMarieP · 04/02/2018 18:40

A friend told me yesterday her little boy's poo was bright orange after eating carrots this week! So much to look forward to!

flapjackfairy · 04/02/2018 18:56

Oh i feel your pain everyone.
I have a child with complex sn who is nearly 4 and he is a terrible sleeper! Everytime i get him into some kind of routine he gets ill / has a seizure / vomits in the night and chokes or all of the above. At the moment he is having to get used to a bipap machine as he keeps forgetting to breathe when asleep ( ah yes i forgot the endless beeping of the sats monitor and the whooshing of the oxygen machine ...it is just background noise to me now )
Luckily i dont need much sleep because i am regularly up from 3 or 4 in the morning . I am slowly losing my marbles ( and my memory ) and regularly do ridiculous things due to my muddled thinking and lack of working braincells.
It is v comforting to know that others are awake and out there in the virtual world during the dark hours of the night so hello to all . I will be thinking of you all and hoping we all get some sleep eventually.

HashtagTired · 04/02/2018 20:40

I remember being st work in an important meeting and my husband s bring me a photo adking'wtf is this??'
I was a photo of dd's pooey nappy and it looked more like dollops of fruit cake batter 😂 (she loved blueberries)

Yes. A lot to look toward to. Ds was 5 months yesterday so I'm going to start reading up on it again in time for next month!

HashtagTired · 04/02/2018 20:41

Sorry for the typos. I'm going to get some sleep!

No doubt I'll be here again in a couple of hours.