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Non-sleepers unite...

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Jellybean2017 · 18/01/2018 22:40

New thread for night (and daytime!) chatter for those awake more than they'd like with a non sleeping baby/child 😊

My DS is five months. First baby likely to be only baby if I don't start getting more sleep He is a nap and sleep fighter but incredibly cute so I choose to forgive him 😂

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Zampa · 24/01/2018 07:23

LO woke up after a failed cot transfer. However she wasn't crying so I thought I'd just leave her there. After 15 minutes she had fallen asleep! No rocking, shushing or feeding! It will never happen again but marvelling at it happening in the first place!

Meepmoop · 24/01/2018 07:59

Not a good night here, lots of wake ups. Obviously on the morning we had to get up early. DS also didn't want to wake up when it was time..

Currently sat in McDonalds car park having breakfast and a latte to make me feel better

Tmgc123 · 24/01/2018 09:45

Great news @zampa! It can happen! I had the most difficult to settle baby, but we’ve been working on transferring to cot awake, and after a few nights of lots of cajoling, it’s starting to work! believe!!!

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Jellybean2017 · 24/01/2018 10:07

Well done baby zampa!
Think I have had five hours broken sleep. Will be flagging today!!

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UtterlyConfused111 · 24/01/2018 10:39

Hello everyone
Just wanted to thank everyone for their support and giving some perspective re DH being unhelpful. I spoke to him, and he was “deeply offended” at being accused of not pulling his weight. The whole conversation almost derailed into me having to apologise for deeply offending him...! I’m not a doormat by nature, and I work in the city in a sector largely dominated by men so I know how to hold my own. It’s just DH sulks and sulks and it’s fucking exhausting dealing with it. It’s easier to give in. Anyway the end of it was that he has agreed to do the 1030 dream feed on weekends!
He did do the dream feed last night, and it normally takes 20 minutes or so. It took him over two hours, she didn’t finish her bottle and was fairly upset by the end of it. I suggested he try without the tv blairing away....and lights off etc so as not to wake the baby (“don’t tell me what to do; I’ll do it my way you do it yours”)
I reckon as long as he doesn’t drop the baby it’s fine; this way if I get to sleep right after dinner I can get an extra couple hours of sleep and he will eventually get better at it. I reckon what he is doing is an alternate version of when boys wash the dishes so badly that you just end up doing it your self :-) I’ll let him get on with it; I’m too tired. Helping in the mornings and not sleeping in on holidays and weekends is a battle I’ll broach in a different day. Small steps!!

Tmgc123 · 24/01/2018 11:36

Well done @utterlyconfused111, it does sound like he’s doing it badly on purpose, and just being difficult. My only worry is, it’s not fair on the baby, but hopefully he’ll realise that. Well done for saying something and holding your own.

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Jellybean2017 · 24/01/2018 12:42

Glad you spoke with him @utterlyconfused. His responses sound pretty childish though. As you day, small steps!! Hope you are able to get him to put a bit more effort in!

DS is having his second nap (on me, naturally). Weather sounds awful outside so I'm happy to be cuddled up with him.

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NinaMarieP · 24/01/2018 14:27

Well it's progress, sort of! Anything that gets you a few hours sleep is good. He sounds utterly hopeless though... so I hope he is good to you and the children in other ways.

I think my LO is coming down with the cold as I've had one for a few days. He just wants to nap all the time and was in bed with me from 5 (he didn't even last an hour in his own bed after his feed) thrashing and spitting his dummy out every 20-30 minutes.

xxrealistmumxx · 24/01/2018 15:57

tmgc123 and zampa good to hear LOs are able to settle themselves to sleep! Please share any tips!

utterlyconfused hope this is the start of OH stepping up. It's taken three children for my OH to pitch in more... mostly because it got to the stage where i just gave him stuff to do. Agree that it's best to leave them to do it their way unless they ask how Hope this is the seed planted now and he starts taking more on.

OK day here, just had an hour's nap with LO which was bliss but he's now feeding fussily and we're late to pick up DH and DCs from school. Nothing goes to plan with a baby!!

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Jellybean2017 · 24/01/2018 17:10

Just had a walk in the rain with DS in the sling. Was getting cabin fever and needed to burn some calories after all the junk food I have eaten today. He is much happier being out and about than at home.

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AMagdalena · 24/01/2018 18:35

@Jellybean Will they ever stop sleeping on us?! 😂

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 24/01/2018 19:57

Full on day here! But good full on. Went into the city centre to visit my office and to meet a friend for lunch. The train station near us is up a massive hill but I decided yo walk and get exercise. Unfortunately the strong wind was working against me so I was bent double pushing the pram up that sodding hill! Must have burnt a few calories and justified the Krispy Kremes i bought

Was weird going into work. Feels like a different lifetime! Can't imagine going back there...

Are we all ready for tonight? I can feel s cold coming on so am on the Lemsip in the hope it will help...

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Jellybean2017 · 24/01/2018 20:21

@AMagdalena it seems increasingly doubtful 😂

@Whoateallthepercypigs I went into work just before Xmas and found it really odd! Life feels totally different now! Dreading going back in August 😂

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Jellybean2017 · 24/01/2018 20:21

Ps pass the Krispy Kremes 😋

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Catscatsandmorecats · 24/01/2018 20:54

Well, that was the worst bedtime since we've had two. At the worst point, DH had had a strop with DS1, then DS1 had to come into our room while I tried to feed DS2 and all of us were screaming/sobbing/crying. DS1 wouldn't let DH sit with him to go to sleep instead of me after I had to leave because DS2 was screaming for a feed, which doesn't normally happen. So both boys needed me at once and it was impossible. I told DH to go out because he was just making it worse and was about to complete lose it and totally throw the night.

Who was asking about having a velcro baby? Mine is DS1 he's three and still only I will do for a lot of things and it's so hard when DS2 needs me at the same time.

I am working so hard on building DS1's confidence and alleviating any anxiety and rewarding good behaviour and helping him get back to sleeping properly and trying to get DS2 to take a bottle and always wind him long enough and I feel like I'm having to battle to get DH on board, let alone helping with it all. Mostly DH is bloody great and does so much for all of us practically but he finds this part of parenting really hard.

The sleep clinic and the no cry sleep solution haven't come up with anything more we can do - we are doing things right with DS1 to help him get himself off to sleep on his own and sleep through the night again. With DS2 (who isn't really an issue) we need to feed on demand still but getting him down for naps we just have to persevere with the gentle techniques we are using unless we want to do cc (not really).

I am now sat with a large glass of wine. I doubt DH will come home until after I've gone to bed. Which is probably a good idea, it's not his fault DS2 will only feed from me and DS1 doesn't feel comforted by him but I am so strung out I may reach for my spade anyway.

AMagdalena · 24/01/2018 21:18

DD just randomly rolled onto her tummy, looked at me, I rolled her back and she's asleep again Hmm What was that all about?

So nervous about the consultant appointment tomorrow 🙈 I hate hospitals said a woman who has worked in 2 of them

NinaMarieP · 24/01/2018 21:30

My LO now has the cold that I've had the past few days.

He had wanted to nap every hour or so today but hasn't slept for more than half an hour at a time.

He lasted half an hour after I put him down for bed then woke up stuffy and snotty so I gave him some saline drops up his nose and it make him cough so much he puked and I had to change the sheet...

I can see we are in for a rough night.

xxrealistmumxx · 24/01/2018 21:42

Hugs to you catscatsandmorecats that sounds really tough, sorry to hear DH wasn't much help. It's really hard with two LOs, easy for it to get on top of us. Good to know you're doing what you can to help DS1's sleep but must feel frustrating that you're pulled in two directions with DC's needs. Hope the wine is helping you relax.

AMagdalena and jellybean2017 how much longer do you have on mat leave?

Fingers crossed for some good period of restful sleep.

Uh oh.... Spoke too soon, LO awake here!

xxrealistmumxx · 24/01/2018 21:42

Hugs to you catscatsandmorecats that sounds really tough, sorry to hear DH wasn't much help. It's really hard with two LOs, easy for it to get on top of us. Good to know you're doing what you can to help DS1's sleep but must feel frustrating that you're pulled in two directions with DC's needs. Hope the wine is helping you relax.

AMagdalena and jellybean2017 how much longer do you have on mat leave?

Fingers crossed for some good period of restful sleep.

Uh oh.... Spoke too soon, LO awake here!

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Jellybean2017 · 24/01/2018 23:35

@realistmum I have another six months, can't believe I'm halfway through already 🙈

Urgh not even midnight and already sounds a challenging night for several of us. @catscatsandmorecats and @Ninanmariep I hope you are able to rest soon if not now!

@AMagdalena I think dd just wanted to remind you she is cute with her little roll over. Or maybe she's just practicing her moves 😂 hope your Appointment goes well Flowers

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WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 25/01/2018 02:46

Quiet on here tonight! Hope that's a good sign.

Bad night here. More down to me than DS. I started to feel lousy this evening, feverish and sick. Thought it was a cold but it feels worse than that. Have been sickening for something for a while now.

Couldn't really sleep properly for the first few hours until first feed at 1am, too feverish to do so. Resettled him in his cot but he's awake again and I couldn't sleep anyway. Going to try and put him back in his cot again as don't want to fall asleep holding him feeling like this.

Problem with being ill with a baby and especially two young DC to look after is...well, you're not allowed to be ill. No chance to take time to yourself! Hopefully tomorrow I can at least lounge on the couch with DS and pray for lots of naps...

Feeling very sorry for self!

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 25/01/2018 03:42

Oh god. Still awake. DS awake and upset because he has a blocked nose. This is the absolute pits...

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 25/01/2018 03:47

Lying here awake means I'm having all.the negative thoughts. Was looking at a thread about the 4 month regression and realised that DS is 12 weeks on Friday and his sleep is so bad already, the regression is just going to make it so much worse isn't it? I just can't get him to do more sleep and feel I'm failing us both.

I have to get up at 7 for the nursery run and just do not know how I'm going to get through today.

Is there anybody out there?? Feeling lonely in my misery- I'll just fill the thread up with my whingeing 😁

DiscombobulatedWomble · 25/01/2018 04:05

waves we are here, as usual.

It's normally so busy here that by the time I've caught up reading everything, I'm too knackered to type... so I'm glad for your sakes that it was a short read tonight, just a shame for us @whoate

My eyes are horribly gritty & I'm desperate to try putting her down but I think it's too soon.

Sod it I'll try anyway as desperate for a wee too Blush

DiscombobulatedWomble · 25/01/2018 04:14

Flowers @whoate you're not failing anyone, this stuff is super hard... much much harder than I was expecting & I take my hat off to all of you with more than one.. & being ill will just make everything worse, hopefully you can hop back on the positivity rainbows sunshine & unicorns train when you're back to your normal (albeit sleep deprived) self xx