The great non-sleepers, newborn and beyond.

[NinaMarieP]

Thread number four (I think).

Welcome to all past posters and any new ones who are also up at all hours!

@actino Unless he's able and willing to take over some of the night time parenting, I'd say he needs to re-evaluate his position. It's not fair otherwise.

Cot transfer failed, but she's feeding nite so hopefully will sleep after.

DH definitely helps out with overnights. We have a shift schedule that means that I can sleep at the beginning of the night (10-1ish) and again in the morning, and it works for us. It's just that that schedule is going to be disrupted for the next two weeks because of holiday visitors and travel, so we will need to work out the kinks over the next few days to find a situation where we both get some rest.

@actino At least he'll be off work I assume so you can rearrange your schedule if needed. Sorry to hear about your rough night, I hope you manage to catch up on sleep during the day.

DS has been wide awake and giggling and cooing at me for half an hour, can't pretend to ignore him anymore. I've had about 4 hours of sleep in total and not ready for the day ahead, which includes a visit to GP to review his reflux medication. But when 7 am strikes he instantly reverts to his 25 minute naps so that's it for me until the evening.

I feel as though DS is cluster feeding again... Is that normal at 4 months??!

Lazy day for us. So sleepy.

@WhoAteAllthePercyPigs thank you, we are all very emotionally tired at the sock house. But sticking together, my sister has come to stay and she took DD last night. Did I sleep? No! I missed having DD in the room.

I'm just on my way to the doctors as reflux has reappeared and I don't want DD to miserable over Christmas. Does this ever end?

Yet another successful transfer for a 33 minute nap 😇
So much to do today. I can't believe we fly out tomorrow. Dreading it!

Hope doctors went well @theotherendofthesockportal

AMagdalena please stop by my house on your way back from your time away 😂 I need to observe your tricks! Will pay in cookies 😂 I'm under napping DS once again. HV coming at 1 so no doubt he will wake when I open the door 🙈

@AMagdalena where are you flying to?

@Jellybean Haha don't let this fool you! It's not a common occurrence in this household! Actually, I am stuck under DD right now because her pram is full of toys I had forgotten to move 😣

I am sick of DD's catnaps, tbh. Maybe I try to get her down too soon so she's not tired enough to have a decent nap? She wakes up quite happy...

@Jellybean2017 the doctor was very understanding and prescribed omeprazole. The only catch is that it has to be sent to another pharmacy to be turned into a liquid. My pharmacy have said that it should be back with them for Saturday morning. I'm keeping my fingers crossed as I don't want an unhappy baby over Christmas?

Where are you off to @AMagdalena? Hope it's somewhere nice.

Another successful transfer for a nap 😎 It took a couple of attempts as the eyed pinged as expected, but she is asleep and there is nothing laying across my lap.

I am going to have a Polish Christmas this year. I am taking a df Christmas pudding with me, though. Obvs.

I'm not looking forward to Christmas at all :( I miss my family - none of them will be able to fly over. I'll have the in laws over and they're nice I guess but also a bit of work and I've no patience for it this year. And their Christmas customs are ok but not my thing really. I crave something familiar and comfortable, and spending the holidays with the people I've known my whole life. I just want the holidays to be over and can't wait until we go for a visit to my hometown in January. It's my lifeline really.

And the eyes pinged 33 mins later...

If you know the baby will wake up sooner when put down in the cot do you put them in to try and make them “get the idea” or just co-sleep, that is the question !? Tried cot method last night and had about 2 hours sleep which was broken :o

@Lovingtyrells Every once in a while I try laying him down in his cot, then instantly regret it when he wakes up half an hour later and messes up our whole night, like yesterday. It's even worse now he takes super short day naps so night is the only time I can get any sleep.

Honestly I'd go with whatever gets us most sleep and then maybe try the cot again after each leap, but not insist on it if I don't have to.

I always keep trying with the cot until the early hours and then I co-sleep to make sure I get some hours in if it doesn't work.

I don't want to co sleep so that's why I persevere with it.

My family is overseas, too, and this Christmas is much harder now that I have a new baby (first baby in my family). I'm going for a few weeks next summer, though.

@Ven83 Where is your hometown?

Everyone is like 'ohhh baby's first Christmas. How magical!' But there is going to be very little magical about a screaming baby wearing a 'My first Christmas' onesie, while two sleep deprived parents passively aggressively pass the baby to and fro eating (cold) festive lunch one handed while confused in laws wonder why they invited the noisy relatives to spend Xmas with them this year.

I'm really missing my partner at the moment. I miss them so much. We're both right here but nothing is the same. We have to take it in turns to do anything. I didn't know this is what I signed up for when I had a baby. Nobody tells you about this. They say life changes but you just can't possibly understand how much til it happens.

^@Ceesadoo I love what you wrote there!
Sums up my life at the moment.
I'd only add that I also miss my body!

@AMagdalena do you breast feed? Or miss it in terms of pre baby body?

@Ceesado you sum it up perfectly! The bit about baby's first Christmas made me snort, sick of people telling me that! Yes it's lovely he's here and best gift ever etc but I can't help sometimes feel nostalgic for pre children Christmases, which were all about indulgence, booze and rest.

That said, my DD is 2 now and is very excited about Christmas. So that is adding magic to it for us.

I miss my DH too, if I thought having DD drove us apart for a bit I had no idea what having another baby would do! We've not DTD since September. Barely getting the chance to have cuddles in bed thanks to separate bedrooms. With two DC the workload has doubled and we are both busy and have demands on our attention all the time.

I know it'll pass but it is tough.

@Ceesadoo I do BF, but that's not the 'problem'. My DD is unputdownable most of the time. I do like the cuddles, but I also like my personal space IYKWIM.

I'm really missing my partner at the moment. I miss them so much. We're both right here but nothing is the same. We have to take it in turns to do anything. I didn't know this is what I signed up for when I had a baby. Nobody tells you about this. They say life changes but you just can't possibly understand how much til it happens.

I feel this so much! I miss my husband. We've been together for 16 years, it's always been just me and him. Now there's a small crying puking monkey competing for our attentions all the time - and we love her but I miss sleeping in the same bed, having a cuddle before we both go to sleep, lazy weekend mornings in bed with big mugs of tea. He also misses sex, my sex drive was annihilated by pregnancy and hasn't come back yet. It's only been 5 weeks so I'm sure hope we'll adjust to the new normal soon but I do miss a lot of aspects of our old life.

@Ceesadoo You nailed it.
I cringe when I think how naive I was whilst preparing for the baby. And I thought I was rather sensible and realistic - but nothing prepares you for the brutal reality of it, and the lack of control over pretty much every aspect of your life.

So my evening is looking great! heavy sarcasm alert we have a baby who's either vomiting or pooing with every feed, a toddler who's miserable with a chesty cough that won't let her sleep, and DH has just announced he's 'not feeling too good'. Suspect I'm going to be on here a lot tonight...