The great non-sleepers, newborn and beyond.

[NinaMarieP]

Thread number four (I think).

Welcome to all past posters and any new ones who are also up at all hours!

Oh no

Sorry DS nudged me what I was going to say was..

Oh no @WhoAteAllthePercyPigs that doesn't sound too good. Hopefully it won't be as bad as it seems.

I'm trying to get DS asleep but he seems to have a lot to say and keeps looking at me and smiling. It would be adorable if it wasn't bed time

It's crazy how one tiny person can completely change your life isn't it? For the first month after I had DD I felt like I'd had my life and sense of self stolen. It was a really scary feeling and made me have some understanding of what it must be like to experience mental illness. Luckily it did pass, and I want to reassure those of you who are first time mums that it does get better. You learn to adjust to your new normal, you and your partner start to spend more time together again (which you value all the more because it doesn't happen as much as it used to), you get more sleep (well not in my case but we got more used to it!) and one day you realise you couldn't imagine your life without your DC in it - and wouldn't want to. You've become a family and that's a truly amazing feeling.

Until you go and bugger it all up by having another one

Does anyone here have an older sleep refuser ?

Hi non-sleepers how are you all doing? I would agree that nothing prepares you for the impact this tiny person will be having on your lives, the biggest thing for me is how long everything seems to take now - there's no just popping out with the dog or to the shop, it takes ages to wrap baby in layers, put in pram/car seat, check fed, winded and hope not sick before we get out! And l will miss a boozy Christmas, guess we will just need to make new sober traditions instead 😀

On the sleep front we had a howler the other night so last night gave gripe water for the first time and although he didn't settle down to sleep til 1am he slept til just after 5 so that was a bonus.... We shall see what tonight brings....

Thanks Meep. Hoping not either, got DS clean and dry and he seems to be winding down. DD is going to just have to be DH's concern. Got a busy day tomorrow with Christmas food shopping and DD's nursery carol concert so am hoping some sleep does happen!

Know what you mean about how adorable they are at bedtime, last night DS was giving me half smiles and gazing around with his big bright eyes, so cute but also, so annoyingly alert!

Sherbet there's a few on here with older sleep refusers. Think there's someone with a sleep fighting 5 year old? How old is yours? My DD is 2.6 and always been a poor sleeper although tbf the past few months she's been sleeping through until this week. No age restrictions on here, we are united in being kept awake by small people!

@ceesadoo totally agree. Really miss my DH!

He's been looking after DS this eve as had my work Xmas do. Had to come back early as DS was screaming and refused the bottle I expressed, what a waste of 4Oz 🙈 he stopped crying and smiled as soon as I walked in. Felt so bad for DH 🙈

Good luck for tonight everyone.

Aw that's a shame you had to go home early. We had to for my DH party as DS wouldnt settle for my DM.

Still trying to get DS to sleep, he closes his eyes for 5mjns then cries. That's lying on me I haven't even attempted a transfer.

Going to be a long night...

Dd had started doing her epic feeds again (several one hour long feeds in one day). I track them, and after her current feed is done she'll have been feeding for over 6 hours today.

I'm hoping this means she'll sleep a bit tonight, but I've leaned not to get my hopes up.

Good luck everyone!

@Ceesadoo I agree with your words. My husband used to be my best pal, now all I do is snarl at him because I'm so tired.

We are on our third wake up of the night already! And DS (11 months) has decided he doesn’t need to nap during the day!! I’m exhausted, have got nothing ready for Christmas and my DH doesn’t seem to understand why I’m so stressed!!

So DS is finally asleep and I'm wide awake.. so frustrating

Fifth feed.... 😩😩

And now I feel guilty about moaning 😢

You shouldn't feel guilty @TwoDogs9, that is a bloody difficult night! Having Christmas stress on top of sleep deprivation is shit. We're hosting this year, and even though everyone has been like 'Percy you take it easy, we'll do everything' I know from past experience this won't happen and I'll still end up with a lot of the mebtal load if not all the physical stuff.

Not good that your DH doesn't understand either. I think they do struggle to comprehend how hard and relentless it is for us. Is he able to help much at night?

As predicted, bad night here. First feed was at 1 - way too early considering DS didn't really sleep till 10.45. Second feed at 230 only 30 mins after he settled after the last one. He's writhing away on the boob so I think it's a digestive issue, given his earlier vomiting. Meanwhile DD has been waking and crying pretty much hourly.

We are meant to be having guests over tonight. DH's friends, a couple. Coming over for food and drink. I wasn't hugely happy about it to start with given that: 1. As I'm sure you'll all agree, evenings with a newborn are a write off - 7pm till 10pm is DS' witching hour where he just wants boob constantly or he'll be crying. 2. Because of this I'll be feeding constantly and I don't feel very comfortable doing it front of them. Yes I've got my feeding shawl but I don't want to spend all night covering DS up! 3. I find these two friends rather challenging to get on with- he's ok but she's extremely touchy and always seems to be mocking whatever you say. Even with sleep and alcohol I struggle, without those two things I'm not sure how I'll cope! And after tonight, well, I just don't want to do it. I'm hoping I can persuade DH we need to cancel. He's all like 'but it's Christmas, we should be sociable!' I just don't feel like these early weeks are the time for it though, I am arranging all my social dates for during the daytime for now.

Feeding again after not sleeping (apart from a short catnap on me) since Dh brought her up to me at 1230. She cluster fed all evening, so I went to sleep at 1130 giving me 1 hour of sleep to keep me going for what looks like all night tonight.

I sure hope Dh's family weren't expecting to sleep at all while they visit over Christmas!

Hi @actino! waves seems like we're in the same boat. I'll bring the if you get the ?

Seriously though, that is a difficult night.

I'm starving. There's a thread on AIBU about rice pudding (gotta love MN) and now that's all i want. A big creamy bowl with strawberry jam...

I actually had some amazing cake earlier today, it was a black forest gateau complete with booze soaked cherries.

PercyPigs, your evening tying sounds awful. I don't think I'd have the patience for her under normal circumstances, let alone sleep deprived during a cluster feed. You could just go all out and barely cover up at all and maybe they won't want to come over again??

Sounds yummy! I had a slice of chocolate Yule log from our local coffee shop, it was very satisfying.

Ha ha good idea! Might just sit there with one boob out, and talk in great detail about cracked nipples and nipple catapulting 😂

We're also hosting Christmas this year and I can already see it's going to be a car crash with me losing it at least once. DH's family is coming over and they're really not hands on people.

I suggested we all go to my mother's, including the in laws, she has a big flat and would be more than happy to host. There's enough room for everyone, unlike our tiny house. She'd take care of the food. And my grandma could be there too. And it would just be easier on us with the newborn.

But he insisted we're at home this year because baby's first Christmas etc, like the baby has any concept of what is going on. I told him if anyone is coming over they better do their share of the work as I'm not fit to stress about food etc. Of course, he said, but I know his mother by now, she won't lift a bloody finger, and her DP doesn't cook, so it'll be DH shut in the kitchen for most of the day stressing, whilst I'm in the living room "entertaining", and god knows how DS is going to take all the commotion.

Hello! I have just found this thread as normally blissfully co sleeping/bf with my lovely 10 months old but tonight I have

A) sickness/food poisoning bug which involves sitting on loo and puking into potty (sorry if TMI)
B) baby won't latch as teething so badly so screaming the house down...

Just wanted a moan. I'm tired and will miss my works Xmas do tonight (and first ever night away from baby)

My DD is nearly 5 months old and teething. She's thrashing around and whimpering in her sleep when's she's not full on crying so I'm wide awake at this ungodly hour.

Think I'm averaging 2-3 hours sleep a night at the moment and developing full blown insomnia; please tell me it gets better soon?!

A total of eight feeds!! I’ve had about four hours sleep. DS up and at em at 6:30 after a terrible night. I don’t know how he functions on so little sleep

@whoateallthepercypigs I’d be livid about hosting tonight! Your DH sounds about as understanding as mine! And no, he does nothing in the night to help me. Just makes me feel guilty about our non-existent sex life!! FFS

Dd actually slept from 4-7. I, however, was awake until 5 and only feel asleep when Dh picked her up and rocked her around the room to quiet her (she's a grunter).

Up now for a feed then hopefully back to sleep.