The great non-sleepers, newborn and beyond.

[NinaMarieP]

Thread number four (I think).

Welcome to all past posters and any new ones who are also up at all hours!

It actually never occurred to me that there are apps that will track feeding, sleeping and nappies, I’ve been logging it down in a notes book😂😂
Got an hour’s sleep sleep, now feeding and then I shall attempt to put ds to sleep in his cot again. Sorry to hear that there are several who are struggling like myself in terms of getting ds off to sleep.

I’m feeling really frustrated tonight. DS will not let me put him down and I’m so tired.

I’ve only managed to have two lots of half hour sleep and we were in bed before 9.

I put him down he cries so I pick him up and he goes back to sleep so it’s not like he’s hungry.

I’m really trying to not get mad as it’s not his fault but I’m struggling

Feed #2
After 1 hour and 43 mins sleep. Pretty typical but 'good' would be over 2 hours.

@Sakura03 there's pretty much an app for anything in life, these days!

Hi all yawns

Night started ok with first feed at 2. But he's still awake two hours later - and I mean, wide awake! Sick of feeding, nipples feel like they've been chewed off. Tried swaddling, the dummy...nothing working tonight. I was feeling sleepy but the more worked up i get the less likely I am to get any bloody sleep! So I might as well give up for tonight.

Doesn't help that he is so fussy with this feed. Lots of latching on and off and writhing about. Is this because it's the time when I'm producing more milk and maybe my letdown is too strong? Who the fck knows...

I don't use an app. Considered it but think it would just depress me seeing how little sleep I am getting - especially in comparison to others!

Things any better @meepmoop? Really hope you've had a stretch longer than 30 mins...

@hashtag I feel ya! Even though I moved rooms for a more 'comfy' bed I'm still having problems with my back. Wish we could fit a chair in here, with DD we put one of the Ikea pyong (not sure that's the right spelling) chairs in the room for me to feed on and it was so much better than this. But these rooms are too small.

Argh. He seemed to be asleep in my arms but has just woken himself up thrashing and grunting. Go to SLEEP little one!!!

I’ve brought him into bed with me and managed to get an hour stretch. Now having a feed, hopefully I can get some more in after.

Morning all. We've been up every hour like clockwork tonight, so currently on feed no.4. Friday night was really good, but then she napped most of the day on DH so don't think that was a good idea. DH had his work night out tonight and for some reason thought it would be a good idea to host the after party - WTAF?! I'm so angry at him for being so inconsiderate and he's going to be so hungover today I don't even want him near the baby.

I'm awake although DH is doing the feed because I'm poorly. I've started sneezing mid sneeze, I never knew that was possible. I also saw a fox out the window and started to cry, feeling sorry for it in the snow. Is it possible to be hormonal 8 weeks in?

Well. Got about half an hour between now and 2am. DS eventually slept (very noisily) but I could not drop off, as predicted. Feeding DS then he's getting taken to DH whether he likes it or not! by he I mean both DH and DS

Good lord @anotherexhaustedpigeon - that is completely unacceptable!! What was he thinking? I'd be furious too. Definitely do not pander to his hangover today and make sure he looks after DD while you sleep!

@theotherendofthesockportal absolutely. I am 13 weeks in and still cry at absolutely anything. Since getting pregnant I've cried whenever I see an ambulance. I can't even look at the regular PETA emails I get now.

So shortly after I posted I smelled smoke so went downstairs - there's DH and a guy listening to music and various people passed out around the room, cigarette butts in champagne glasses sitting on top of our baby's health charts (!!!) all her stuff, blankets toys and bouncy chair still in the room. I'm so angry I was shaking as I ordered them all out and told DH to get out too. I thought he'd gone upstairs to pack a bag but turns it he's gone to sleep in the nursery. I feel totally stuck and angry - I don't want to end it over this but I also can't forgive this behaviour.

So I'm back in bed now trying to feed DD to sleep, in the vain hope of being able to sleep for a few hours myself. Hopefully I'll wake up and have imagined it all.

God anotherexhaustedpigeon I’d kill him. I hate how inconsiderate alcohol can make people.

Not a bad night for us but little one took a while to settle. Two wake ups between 9-6 which is how it used to be pre-regression. Creeping towards Leap 5 now though so should be a fun Christmas!

@WhoAteAllthePercyPigs - my ds behaves the same way and has done this for probably a week now (he’s 4 weeks old tomorrow) at probably half of his feeds. It’s very frustrating for both of us and I’d like to know the reason behind it...

@anotherexhaustedpigeon I'm shocked!! I hope he is grovelling later today. That's an awful way to behave, so inconsiderate. I'm furious on your behalf.

@anotherexhaustedpigeon I was coming on here to say I'm telling my husband to go today but yours really does deserve to go. Horrible behaviour!

My husband was supposed to be looking after DH because I'm poorly. He gave up half way through the night. I ended up crying as I was feeding her because I just feel so poorly. He works 6 days a week and barely interacts with her. The clown wants us to have another baby too, I actually think he wants to kill me,

Meant to say looking after DD. He is capable of looking after his selfish self.

@theotherendofthesockportal I really feel for you hon, are you telling him to leave permanently? I don't know what I'm doing, I think I'll just let him grovel a bit as I can't be arsed with ending a 14yr relationship without giving him a chance to sort his shit out. I'm thinking about going for a walk and having a lush breakfast on my own!

@anotherexhaustedpigeon I've removed myself to the spare room to give myself chance to calm down. I'm having serious words with him later. I hope your OH redeems him self

and to all those whose DHs are not being supportive.

Mine is a bit shit, to be honest, but I think he's trying. It frustrates me how little patience he has with DD. I always end up having to take her back off him because I can tell he's getting wound up and then I can't relax anyway. He only had 3 drinks (allegedly) at his Christmas party but was still like a bear with a sore head when he first got up.

Thinking of you @theotherendofthesockportal and @anotherexhaustedpigeon. Hope you manage to sort things out.

I'm lucky with my DH, he has his moments but he is generally brilliant. I won't take him for granted having read what yours have been up to - hopefully they will see the error of their ways very soon.

DS slept pretty well last night but we did co sleep. Trying to get him to nap in his cot though. And will try to get him to start the night in there too.

Hope everyone else is having a good day, feeling Christmassy as our tree is up and we have had some snow too!

@anotherexhaustedpigeon I'd have went fecking mental at him, l hope he's redeemed himself today.... Alcohol can turn mine into a selfish thoughtless twat as well, however 98% of the time he's great so it's a balance.

@sock thinking of you today as well, l hope your serious words have the desired effect.

to those with DP's that don't pull their weight.

My DH has been my rock throught this adventure with my non-sleeping baby. He always makes sure I get a nice bath and buys me little treats.
Can't really complain, but he is football-obsessed which gets on my nerves!

I think DD did a 6hr stint last night. Or near enough. Needless to say, she was in my bed.
The bed guard is going up tonight as the little peanut has started rolling over both ways.

Oh, my DH is a bugger for passing DD over to me when she's unsettled. Men, eh?!

How’s everyone doing this evening?

DS has chucked up all his milk again from coughing. I’m going to ring the doctors tomorrow to see if they can help. I’m worried he’s not keeping much down.

Thanks everyone. @AccrualIntentions yes my DH has allow tolerance for a screaming baby. We've had a rough 18 months, with huge family fall outs, we've lost some close family, I had a miscarriage and he's been made redundant. I'm not excusing his behaviour, but I understand he needed to let loose but it got out of hand. He's agreed to get help, we are going to make an effort to make it work. I'm so shattered going to put dd down and pray for 5 hours. Wish me luck and everyone give your DHs a big kiss tonight. This shit is hard.

I'm happy to report that DH has massively redeemed himself. I laid everything out straight to him, we have always agreed to be up front in our marriage.

As the day went on it became clear I was suffering from a chest infection. He got my mum to look after DD for a few hours whilst he blitzed the house and cooked me dinner. He is also taking tomorrow off work (unheard of) to look after my and DD.

Peace is reigning at the sock portal house tonight.

Very pleased to hear your DH's have redeemed themselves!

DS is asleep on me. Waiting 20 minutes before I attempt to lay him down.

Here's hoping for a good night!!!