Still awake with a (not so) newborn - the further adventures of EBLL...

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Hope everyone finds the new thread 😂 and new chatterboxes are welcome to join us and battle through the night feeds together (with or without the assistance of EBLL [Ewan's back left leg!) 🐏

Anyone mind if I have a rant?
My DP is off work today and working until 9pm tomorrow.
Every evening DD is inconsolable from 5-9, literally endless screaming.
I leave her with DP for 10 mins just now so I can get some things done and he comes through clearly unable to handle the screaming and expects me to take her.

Tomorrow I have this on my own for 4 hours. 4 hours. And he can’t have her for 20 mins for me tonight?

Sorry. Rant over. I think he’s upset now so I’ll go and be nice.

Anyone else have a similar problem?

@mummarosie1 I have the same to some degree. I tried to have an hour to myself on Sunday morning, and 45 mins in DH appeared with DD who was crying and he said “we thought we would come and say hello to mummy.”

He also gives up really easy and hands her over to me. If I’m trying to console her, he offers useless advice e.g; let’s up get feeds, let’s sing a song, you should try going to sleep earlier. Tbh I don’t know how I haven’t killed him.

These are only mild examples, he does more that enrages me but I’m too tired to think of them.

Dh was like that the first time, with dd. But this time around he’s more confident and doesn’t feel so bad if he can’t console him. In fact he sees it as a challenge to settle him. So I completely understand where you are coming from because I’ve been there, but I don’t currently have the issue with ds. Hope it isn’t too bad a night for you tomorrow.

@Jellybabie3 how did you get on at the doctors?

He’s really upset. I feel terrible. He struggles with settling her when she screams and it just sent him over the edge tonight :(

I have felt the same too! But I guess it is harder for the dad's. Usually they don't spend so much time with the babies so I guess they don't learn how to soothe them as quickly.. Mind you I still don't always know how to soothe DS. DH just says "he's hungry" if he can't console him and he gets swiftly handed back to me! Haha I do feel your pain.

I have just been for a walk with DS in the sling. In the dark. In my ongoing quest to get him to nap 🙈🙈🙈

Halfdrankbrew I don't count the night feeds either, too many and I become too obsessive and it gets me down.

I know what you mean about the dps/dhs, can be very frustrating, sometimes I think I'm unreasonable though, like if he brings him to me saying he needs a feed and I'm trying to have a break I feel annoyed with dp when I suppose it's probably not his fault. Then again I kind of wish he'd try more things and kind of try harder

Mummarosie we have the inconsolable screaming too. It is incredibly hard, you have it for longer than us, that sounds really tough

Quick question peeps - my boobs dont feel huge anymore but milk comes out easily but lo seems frustrated and keeps coming off my boobs. What's going on all of a sudden? He's been sleeping loads today which is unusual; could he just be desperate to catch up?? How are my boobs meant to feel on day 11?

@HashtagTired were ok thanks for asking 😊 I have been signed off so am good to drive.

Doc seems to think ds griping/wind issue is reflux so has given me ranitidine for him. He also wants us back in a month to check ds. He weighs 10lb 3oz (50%ile) and has head circ of 39.5 (91%ile) which he said would make him tall (6ft+) and quite skinny. Me and Dh are 5ft 6 ish!! He said he wants to see him put on more weight. After a nightmare with weight loss and feeding programmes in hosp its not what I wanted to hear. He said if this reflux stuff works he would expect better weight gain.

I also mentioned ds sometimes holds his right leg locked. So if trying to do bicycles for wind for example he will resist bending that leg. He said he has only one fat crease that side on his thigh and two on the other leg which is not ideal??

Naturally I am worried but maybe I am looking into it.

What do you do if you manage to get baby to nap close to bed time ? Skip bath when they wake up? Help !

My “D”h also gives up easily with the baby and passes back as he is hungry haha ok.

Over time your boobs will stop feeling so full before a feed @Sakura03. But once you’ve fed from one side you’ll a difference between them.

It could be your let down is a bit strong and he’s getting a bit too much at first.

@Jellybabie3 my DS was below 50th for weight, 98th for height and head. Nobody was concerned! Different docs will have different triggers for concern I guess.

@Jellybabie3 my baby has similar stats to yours and @NinaMarieP - my Health visitor said it was fairly normal for babies to have bigger heads and their bodies will catch up.

Laughing in recognition at some of the Dad rants. My partner does it when I’m in the bath - I love my baby so much but let me have an hour to myself once in a while!

Oh my husband does the 'hes hungry' trick....

Thanks for the reassurance @Lallypopstick and @ NinaMarieP

Bad day here. DD has been constipated and streaks of blood in her poo. Crying outbursts and all GP suggested going dairy free as it sounds like Cow's Milk Allergy. Going there tomorrow to pester for a pead referral.

Just checking in quickly before I get some pre-game sleep. DS is with DP in the lounge after a mammoth on/off feed which has lasted pretty much all evening. He’s usually a 15 minutes feeder so this is out of character. However tomorrow he’s entering leap 2 so thinking the two must be related.
I’m hoping the huge feed will mean lots of delicious sleep for me but I’m not holding my breath.

Sorry you’ve had a bad day @AMagdalena, def pester for the referral. And get your DP to buy you a box of ‘booja booja’ chocolates. They’re bloody expensive but they are the most delicious truffles ever, you won’t even notice that they’re dairy free. And don’t share them with anyone!

I totally agree with the dad's handing the baby back at the first sign of a whimper. I always feed our little boy before I attempt to shower, Sunday I did this, left the baby with my husband and went to have my shower, I hadn't even got undressed and my husband appeared doing the old "hello mummy" trick and "I think he's hungry". "No he isn't he just wants you to hold him, let me shower"!!! If our little boy cries my husband thinks he's hungry (I'm breastfeeding so that means I have to sort him!). drives me mad!!! He is great with our daughter though, he puts her to bed most nights. He just annoys me with the baby!

Call me pathetic but I’m in tears we are on feed #8 today which is two more than usual and for the first time in months I’m up before midnight for our first feed of the night. I’ve barely been asleep an hour as he woke up just as I went to be and needed his dummy then was sucking madly at it for a while.

Feed #1
Dh went out tonight and so my routine of going to bed started an hour later. I thought he would have held on to ds at least a teeny bit longer tonight so I could still have the same amount of sleep, but no, dh brings ds up 20 mins early.
I’m quite annoyed at that really, and I’ve woken up really tired when I normally feel refreshed after the sleep and ready for the night shift. Instead I’m half asleep, annoyed and I’m not ready at all. I think I’m going to feel every minute of awakness tonight. Sigh.

Hope you're ok @ninamariep. Of course you're not pathetic. Just tired! Hope your night gets better.

@AMagdalena I have been dairy free for about 6 weeks. Waiting on dietitian Appointment as well as paediatrician referral. I second the booja booja chocs though! If you are on Facebook there are some good cmpa breastfeeding pages where people swap recipes and ideas of what you can have. I have stopped eating soya as well, as apparently soya intolerance often goes hand in hand with cmpa. It can take a lot of weeks before your body is totally clear of it. I'm not sure giving up dairy and soya has made a difference to my DS but I'm going to keep going a little longer.

First feed here
However he has been in the sling with DH past three hours as he was overtired and wouldn't settle.

Nina it's hard on days like that if you aren't used to so many feeds a day. I've got a hungry boy who eats a lot so I know how you feel, it's hard work! Hope you manage to get a few hours sleep before the next feed

@hashtagtired that's so annoying! Hopefully EBLL will work his magic!