Still awake with a (not so) newborn - the further adventures of EBLL...

[Jellybean2017]

Hope everyone finds the new thread 😂 and new chatterboxes are welcome to join us and battle through the night feeds together (with or without the assistance of EBLL [Ewan's back left leg!) 🐏

Shit night here! She just will not settle in the crib, will only sleep on me. So frustrating! She's even doing it now, when she's usually fine by this time. And I have to be a functioning adult today as the health visitor is coming and then we need to register the birth. All in approx 1 hour sleep

Pretty crap night here too.

Very restless baby, I had trouble getting back to sleep after his feeds and he woke at 6.30 (half an hour after he went down) and did his "sleep for three minutes, cry, sleep for three minutes, thrash about and cry," on repeat until I gave up and put him back on the boob around 7.30.

Does any else feel like the fourth trimester is an utter crock of shit? Because we are well past it now and still having to cosleep at times etc. It hasn't made any real difference to his sleeping anyway.

I had hoped he would go to sleep again after this feed but he's just starting pooing oh joy. 💩💩💩

@Jellybean2017 thanjs for the link. That might be agood option as ds likes to be swaddled and when I tried putting the blanket on him in accordance to health visitor's recommendations his upper body felt really cold when he woke for a feed.

Just got up for another feed and
I've lost count 3rd or 4th?

Going to get ds's name registered today

@Sakura03 I had exactly the same dilemma, I ignored HV and swaddled (with miracle blanket on amazon, which is amazing) until 5 weeks and have just swapped onto grobag now that DDs startle reflex has relaxed. Would recommend both!

Well my smugness of the night before last was short lived, I got a 2 1/2 hour sleep window after midnight last night but my brain wouldn't switch off, after 2 hours of me being wide awake our toddler woke up crying (she was in our room on an air bed as she wouldn't settle in her own room) so she woke the little one up too so I then had to feed him and then ever hour or 2 thereafter!!! Smugness over. Our little one is 21 weeks today and he's still waking like a newborn!! He's a big boy though on the 90th centile so he probably needs to to maintain his chunky thighs .

Gimble my 6 week check consisted of 2 questions and a lecture about contraception. After our first child I didn't even have one, he checked the baby and never even asked about me, I was quite surprised he bothered to ask me second time around.

Happy mini break Hashtag! Even if you don't sleep, I hope it's fun.

At my six week check with D'S I was in and out, she didn't even take my BP. This time I'm going to insist on a check because of my section. Can I ask what people are doing about contraception? We are very much done now, i think a third sleep thief might kill.me ideally I'd like DH to get the snip but he's not keen and no way am.i wanting to have surgery again. I'm 38 so don't want to keep taking the pill for ages, but we need something. Does anyone have a positive experience of the implant? Or coil?

Fell asleep there for an hour...whilst holding DS he's fine thank god but I feel horribly guilty. Kept trying to resettle him in his cot but no joy. I have a feeling we'll end up co sleeping once he's bigger. I did that with DD and it wasn't too bad, I sometimes miss it!

Agh sorry for typos, should say DD check up not DS!

Mirena coil worked amazingly for me, no periods at all :)

We are just using condoms. I was on the pill for about 15 years on off until we had our first child. I never went back on it as I breastfed and wasn't keen on the idea of having hormones in my body. I did get pregnant still breastfeeding a 9 month old, we were dicing steering clear of the fertile window but I ovulated 2 weeks late, thought my period was due so just went for it thinking we were "safe".

If we we really didn't want another we would have been careful but I think we left it to chance. We want a 3rd but I'm having a couple of years off being pregnant so there's going to be no dicing! Having a toddler and small baby is pretty good contraception in itself, we are down to once or twice a month, sorry tmi!

Ha @halfbrew I can't remember the last time me and DH DTD thanks to late pregnancy! I'm not even sure how long you're meant to wait after a section? He won't be getting lucky any time soon!

We definitely don't want any accidents, so I think the coil or implant might be best.

I'd consider coil or implant if I wasn't so soft, a couple of my best mates have the copper coil (no hormones) and love it. They were chatting about it very openly and both said they don't have any side effects. Another close friend got the implant and had a constant period for 6 months, she definitely didn't get pregnant though as a result! I think I'd consider the coil once we're done having kids, I'm sure if I can push babies out having a coil fitted isn't all that .

@WhoAteAllthePercyPigs I’m also pondering contraception. I think I will go back on the pill as I can stop the pill if I have any negative side effects. I had the implant s few years ago, I piled on 2 and a half stones and it made me a very stressed person. That’s just my experience of it, other people may have had a better experience. And, I am far too squeamish for a coil!

DS is contraception enough given that one of us has to be holding him at all times 🙈🙈🙈 so don't think I will be worrying about that for a while 😂

Have a lovely holiday @Hashtagtired 😊

@Jellybean I am with you on that one 😂

Discussion on another page about how to occupy a 2-moth-old. Apparently children sleep all the time at that stage. Well, mine didn't 😂
DD is definitely special in this regard

@Jellybean2017 I also agree about the baby being a contraceptive! DH has raised the question of eventually having another. I shall not repeat my response here.

@theotherend I'd tell my DH he'd be a single dad if that happened now 😂
I don't think he's that keen on having another atm.

My 6 week check on Monday was a BP check and a lecture about contraception. My gp actually asked if i was planning another....as my ds screamed in his pram. I said I am good for a while....so he went on to tell me I could have a jab but it can take two years to become fertile again. Me nor Dh wanted that either just in case! So he gave me the mini pill but dh said hes not keen on me being pumped with hormones again so also no to implant and coil. I was on the pill for 12 year's and it wasnt til I came off that I realised what it had done to moods etc. So we are opting for condoms. We have only dtd for the first time since Ds arrived in the last week and I forgot how much I dont like the feel of them....so no idea what to do now!!

Tbh it's so darn difficult to find time and be in any mood for it, its not very high on my priorities but appears to be for DH

@Jellybabie3 I’m looking forward to to DTD with my DH again, but not until birth control is in place. I love my DD but I’m happy with her being my only one, at least for now.

Stuck under DD again...

DD is taking an ounce of her bottle, sleeping for 30 mins then repeating the cycle. I don’t feel like I can do anything!

Do we need contraception if EBF? I started the pill at 10 weeks but I hadn’t had a period by then anyway.
Did lots of Black Friday shipping today, DS slept in the sling the whole time , sure tonight will be fun.

How’s everyone doing this evening?

DS is sleeping on me but haven’t attempted to cot transfer yet. He’s out of routine as we had a funeral to go to so his Gran looked after him and then I couldn’t get him to sleep this evening. 5 hours of awake time!

Not looking forward to tonight at all. only had 3 broken hours of sleep last night as well. I’ve got no where to be tomorrow so I’ve got that in my favour!