Still awake with newborn

[HashtagTired]

Part 2 ... everyone welcome

Back left leg is the only one we use. I don’t know if it’s a fave here. He fell asleep to it once so I just kept it the same. I think it’s the heartbeat womb one.

And same time again Hashtag! 😂

Haha Jellybean! That’s quite funny!

Although I’m not laughing much.
The 5am feed I find is the hardest. I am the most tired having done two feeds already and he’s the most restless afterwards and harder to settle.

My eyelids are sooooo heavy!

How are you feeling JB?

Tired! I want to wake DH but equally need DS to sleep more and I'm worried he will get into worse habits if he keeps being moved. He didn't go to sleep til about 1020 so hasn't had anywhere near enough sleep. Plus he fights naps all day. Don't know.how to break overtired cycle!

When ds was clearly overtired from snots and cold and just wouldn’t settle I cancelled my plans the next day and spent the entire day (but for the school runs) with him asleep on my chest. It’s the only place he would properly settle and deep sleep at the time. He slept the entire time and consequently was more settled that night. Sleep breads sleep.

what time does everyone put their little one down to sleeo for bed?
I have found my 6 week old has wanted to feed lots in evening so typically hasn't wanted to go to bed before 10- 11pm but I wonder whether this is too late for him?
last night he oddly decided that 8pm was his bedtime and so we were both asleep by 8.30.

Sleepycat we didn’t start putting little one down for a set time until about 11 weeks. Before that, he gradually seemed to settle for the night a bit earlier over time. So going from midnight to about 10, then 9 etc. He used to stay downstairs with us until he’d fallen asleep then we’d chance moving him upstairs to bed.

Another rough night here. At least the wake ups and night feeds were short and we both got back to sleep quickly. According to the Wonder Weeks app we’re in a stormy week and I’d agree with that! Going to spend today really working at getting him to nap for longer too. It’s so frustrating when you know he can sleep for a long time (record is 7 hours) but then doesn’t. If baby sleep was a real life rollercoaster, it would be so up and down that everyone riding it would throw up.

3 wake ups.

Now DD is sleeping soundly with arms sprread out taking up most of bed space

Jelly I am afraid I enforce naps even if DD doesn't show signs of tiredness because I know she is constantly overtired. Way too curious!
Takes me a while to put her to sleep, though.

We bathe DD between 7-8pm because that's when she gets ratty, so that's a clear sign it's time for bed.

I go to bed at 8pm and leave ds with dh downstairs. No idea when he puts him down in Moses basket.
Wakes normally around 5/6am and it’s harder to settle him after feed because I think that’s his natural wake up time. Yawn.

Can I join? I think I've found my people...

I have an 8 day old newborn (DS) and DD. DD has never been a great sleeper and her first year (at least) was an exhausted blur. Now 2, she sleeps in her own room but anything can - and frequently does - disrupt her sleeping patterns. So sleep has been an all too precious commodity in our household for a long time now! I actually can't remember the last time DH and I consistently shared a bed...

Still, we went on to have another, foolishly hoping those people who assured us 'you won't get two sleep thiefs!' would be proved right. Too early to tell with DS obviously, and given that he will for now sleep in his next to me and sleepyhead (DD only slept on us for the first few weeks) I'm taking that as a good sign. But it's all coming back to me, how brutal the night feeds are.

DS is breastfed although he had formula in hospital (he was born at 36 weeks and wouldn't latch) and I'm giving him a bottle of formula in the evening (after DD refused to take a bottle, ever). DH is basically on full DD duty and is currently co sleeping with her, as she's been unsurprisingly disrupted due to DS arrival. Poor man is also run ragged round the house as I am recovering from an emergency section! So nights are all on me and we have no family nearby - we knew this would be the situation of course, but the reality is somewhat different from the planning!

So here we are, slightly in shock over the early arrival of DS (I had 3 weeks of mat leave lined up to relax pre due date!) but very much in love with our beautiful children. I'm just putting one foot in front of the other and reminding myself it does get better (whilst trying to block out memories of those godawful sleep regressions to come. And teething. Oh lord, teething).

So good to see so much support on here!

Whew sorry that was long! things you can achieve during a feed

Hi Whoateallthepercypigs! Welcome and congratulations 😊 I have to say this thread has become a bit of a lifeline during night feeds!

AMagdalena I have tried enforcing naps I.e. Starting to try and settle him after he has been awake 45 mins to an hour but he still fights it... What's your trick?! 😊

Whoateallthepercypigs A warm welcome by a mum of a crap sleeper!

Jelly I have started gradually winding her down... So let's say she's playing with toys in her bouncy chair. I will gradually remove toys, turn sound off, then just rock her for a bit and then it's nap time.
My DD gets overstimulised so easily.
The sling works as a last resort, obviously.

Wonder if there is a relationship between alert babies and bad sleep. My son when awake is really alert and hyper and stares at everything so intensely. He is really difficult to get to sleep and is obviously tired but won’t go down during the day. I have to use sling.

Really exhuasted today but have plans late afternoon. Not going doesn’t really help anything so just going to continue !

Lovingtyrells sounds the same as my DD. I wish she would just drift off in her vibrating chair haha.

My LO is the same age as yours @AMagdalena. Until recently he was like clockwork, 1.5 hours after a wake up he got cranky and I knew it was nap time. Sometimes he went down easily other tomes he fought it.

Now we’re getting up to 2/2.25 hours out of him but he hits overtired very quickly. One minutes he’s full of smiles, then he’s grumbly and by the time I’ve got him in my arms with a dummy and a blanket we’ve got a fight on our hands. I don’t know if I should try to “force” naps at 1.5 hours as it’s a shame when he’s in such a good mood to interrupt.

Welcome to the thread @WhoAteaAllthePercyPigs it certainly is a lifeline to a lot of us!
You sound like you’re having a really challenging time. I can’t imagine! But t congratulations on your new arrival. I too have an older dd5 but we are lucky that she’s a decent sleeper these days. The first two years were rough for us though and she was a frequent waker.
Dd is pretty chilled insofar as not screaming (like dd used to) and he’s more chilled. But he feeds little and often. During the day when we are out and about he’d easily go 3-4 hours but at night it’s anything between 1-3 (yawn).

Welcome to the group, though. If nothing else, it just helps ones sanity a little bit!!

Ignore the times between 7pm and midnight ish as that’s when I sleep and I leave ds with dh and I don’t log the feeds.

@Nina My DD only cat naps for 30-40mins, so there is no way she can awake for longer than 1-1,5hrs. If she ever does, it takes me well over an hr to get her to sleep and she has a meltdown, so I do watch the clock.

She also is VERY alert. It's hard sometimes, but she's a real joy as she's already very sociable and inquisitive.

Ooo hashtag wheres that timeline from?? I need that....

JB, it’s called “babyfeed timer” from the AppStore.

Thanks hashtag

We had rubbish night, not due to ds sleep. Dh found blood and mucus in his pooey nappy so we ended up calling nhs direct which led to an out of hours doc. Think ds ks OK but we are keeping an eye on him. Blood has stopped thankfully although we had a few episodes of projectile vomit after the doc ironically.

Can infacol make LO sick? Hes been on it for 48hours now. Obviously not linked to the blood/mucus.

Its been no help with the case of chronic farts....still writhing about this morn in his sleep