Still awake with newborn

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Part 2 ... everyone welcome

@Ohb0llocks I felt like I could constantly cry, and I still get days when I am like this. For me, it’s normally fuelled by tiredness and then all the self doubt comes creeping in.

If you switch to ff, in part or in whole, don’t feel bad about it. You are providing the very best care for your dc and doing it the best way you can. Read my pp about combi feeding.

Just feel confident in your choices and stick to it. Don’t doubt yourself. I’ve been there. I still go there but I kick myself out of it.

I’m a practical person, so I think what is my aim? Are my children alive at the end of the day? Yes? Hurrah! Don’t overthink it!

I know what you mean @ohbollocks. When we've already been through so much it feels like it's just another bloody challenge to overcome! Because I'm recovering from a section, I feel like im not getting the best chance to recover. Honestly your little one will be absolutely fine should you switch to formula. It's hard to see past the guilt, I know, but a healthy happy mum makes for a healthy happy baby.

DS was hyper in the grin bag, not unhappy but like it is okay time. I’m still not convinced at almost 12 weeks he knows the difference between night and day!
Breastfeeding is really hard work as you are like a prisoner. Not sure I can keep it up for the recommended one year.

Dont feel bad about crying. I'm a mess every bad night and usually take it out in DH as he sleeps through, apologise...repeat. Lack of sleep is awful and stops all rational thought. Thankfully the non stop bad nights in a row have eased for me so I can usually recoop but theres no doubt I will hit a wall at the next growth spurt which thanks to wonder weeks i know is due

I do sorry to hear that so many of you ladies feel like your mental health is suffering. I feel the same, having a baby is hard! I keep saying it’s the only time in your life that your will have major trauma to your body/ operation and then be expected to work harder than you ever have before.

I’m just about to message my DH to tell him I am about to lose my mind through tiredness, last night was a terrible night for me. I want him to be prepared for when he gets home from work!

It's hard, ladies, and no point pretending it isn't.
Even the most textbook pregnancies are unkind to the female body and mind and then you have labour and sleep deprivation to contend with.
And let's be honest. Everything changes for us. No one can replace a mum, so we carry the most responsibility no matter how much partners get involved.
And BF is extra tough and I wouldn't give look down on anyone who gave it up. I was there. I had these thoughts, but there is so much pressure on us to be the perfect mothers, to hide 'failure' and the hardship. I persevered and it's going ok, but honestly, every mum needs to do what is right for their family.
My HV once told me that as long as the baby is fed, she is happy. It really doesn't matter how.

On a lighter note...I bought 1 Xmas present and a load of tat I don't need Didn't even need to get my boob out in public.
DD is now asleep on me. Obvs.

I only lasted 3 days with BF. I was unwell and admitted on the postnatal ward and my daughter was constantly back and first to special care baby unit for treatment. On the first day of her life we struggled so much with the technicality of BF and because she had to go for a lumbar puncture that she went 9 hours without any milk, and that set the tone for the next few days before I finally admitted defeat. I felt really bad for stopping- I had been so so keen to BF not FF, but it wasn’t feesible for us.
I look back in hindsight and can appreciate that a fed baby is the only thing that really matters, and a happy mum (whether BF or FF) is the key.
So I understand the guilt from those struggling with BF and considering FF, but really it’s not that bad on this side of the fence, I promise .... and I think that there is a bit more sleep too!

There's a lot of honesty here, I have felt the same as the rest of you, so I think it's pretty normal. Having a baby is such a massive lifestyle change, I don't think anything or anyone could ever prepare you for it!

Well done with the shopping AMagdalena! Love that your bought more tat than Xmas pressies, good work!

We have been looking at houses today. As if we need more stress 🙈😂

Ds is sleeping in my arms and I don’t want to put him down, he looks so peaceful 😍

Do I fed DS as soon as we got back from the shops as don’t want a repeat of last night. He’s been awake ever since and now feeding again just two hours after last one. Feels like he might be gearing up for more cluster feeding. Or he’s needing more boob time as I’ve not topped him up with a bottle yet. Hmmmm... he was awake between feeds so hoping that will counteract some of the extra sleep from the trip to the shops.

Ds is 6 weeks old today. Cant believe how much hes grown and developed 💕 cant keep up with the changes.

This also means my apps are warning me of another growth spurt. Tell me ladies.....how bad is this one???

I also bought loads of tat today! Plus junk food to cheer myself up! DS screamed in pram 95% of the time but no one really looked today :)

I don’t experience any growth spurts or changes as it’s like one constant “bad phase” :o

Jellybabie Sorry, I found 6-8 weeks to be the worst time, but DD was like a different baby. Then again, she's needy full stop.

I meant she was a different bany afterwards. Very content and slept better until the next growth spurt

Difficult day here. I'm more tired than I've been all week, and this cold is getting worse. My parents have arrived to help, but I'm finding it very hard having so many people here. Tried to sleep but DS woke and wanted feeding, he's cluster feeding like a mutha today.

This thread is such amazing support! It helps to know I'm not alone...

I agree Percy on any bad night this makes me feel human

I’ve just eaten a whole packet of cookies, screw weight watchers. I’ve now retired to bed with DD and praying for sleep for both of us.

I have a constipated DD. No poo today. Not a good sign for tonight. Pass me the cake 🙈

I'm having pizza 🍕 wish i could have g&t

Yeah, I'd like a G&T, too. Or my absolute fave. Grass vodka+ aplle juice+ lims.

DD is asleep on me and the cat is goimg spare because her dinnertime was 26 mons ago...

😂 sorry shouldnt laugh at your comment about your cat but I feel this sums us all up atm. I have been sat on couch with baby on me for two hours whilst DH asks me what people want for Xmas. He keeps asking me to look at something on the pc. For the 100th time I CANNOT MOVE. Just chop my arms off as I am fecking useless. If its not within the 1m radius of my arse I cannot do it, see it or deal with it. End of.

Sigh.

That said I am bloody warm and comfy

What baby apps are folks using? Feel like I could do with having half a clue as to what to expect / do.

The cat has been fed. Phew.

GingerHanna I use Wonder Weeks. It's ok, but only gives you an idea of what to expect.