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HashtagTired · 09/11/2017 14:26

Part 2 ... everyone welcome Smile

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AMagdalena · 14/11/2017 10:59

I do ironing occasionally with DD busy on the play mat, but I didn't lift a finger to do any housework in the first 8 weeks.
I only iron DD's clothes though.

We have actually been out to do a spot of shopping. I nearly talked myself out of it because I am tired (when aren't I?!).
I normally come downstairs around 10.30am after DD's nap.

Jellybabie3 · 14/11/2017 11:02

I'm glad its not just me.

The other worry is xmas shopping Confused

Jellybabie3 · 14/11/2017 11:03

Tbf most of the ironing is dh work shirts...

AMagdalena · 14/11/2017 11:05

I am doing all my Xmas shopping online this year Grin

theotherendofthesockportal · 14/11/2017 11:11

@WhoAteAllthePercyPigs I’m having the same argument with my DH, it’s been on going since the day I got back from the hospital. I had an emergency section, in still a bit traumatised and probably do more stuff in the house than I should.

DH moans at me that he is tired from working all day and then having to do the housework. I keep reminding him that when I was at work I did exactly that. And although I look well on the outside I’m recovering from surgery!

Jellybabie3 · 14/11/2017 11:11

Yeah thats where i am headed... Thank god for amazon prime.

Whatya getting? Lol. I'm sat here googling stocking fillers for the grandparents Confused why oh why did i think stockings were a good idea

Toonewtobehaving2 · 14/11/2017 11:41

I had another C-sec too. Had an emergency one with my DD and an 'elected' (although not really given much choice) this time around. I just say though that this time I've healed so much quicker. I was up and about that afternoon! And genuinely felt ok after the first week and that was with a large hematoma on the scar. DS is four weeks old today and I'm back to driving (legally speaking there is no time frame. It's whether or not you can do an emergency stop safely, which I've practiced and it's fine) and carrying my DD around.
But after the first one I couldn't do anything for weeks and weeks. I think it has a lot to do with blood loss. I lost 2ltrs with DD and knot 400ml with DS.

I have to be up for 7am with DD (from tomo) so that means getting my lazy butt out of bed with DS even though this morning we had a lovely laying down feed at 0545 and nth drifted back off to sleep until 0800! No more of that from tomo! Whaaaaaaa!!! I'm dreading having to function that early again and take care of two! I might need a hand hold!

NinaMarieP · 14/11/2017 11:44

@Toonewtobehaving2 I give it about ten minutes that’s the minimum I can get away with, unless he’s squirmy or noisy then I wait til he’s quiet. If the move goes tits up the funny rescues is 99% of the time.

@londonloves we’ve all been in the master bedroom about three nights in 13 weeks. The first two nights we got home and one night last weekend. We spent a couple of weeks sleeping on the sofa, and taking turns in bed. Now my OH sleeps in the single bed in the nursery and I’ve got the big bed & snuzpod arrangement to myself. Sometimes he takes over with a bottle of ebm and I get the single bed. You just have to do what works to get the most sleep!

@HashtagTired I take a box of crackers, cereal bars, dried fruit and a cheese string to bed every night. I’m always starving. I also have a big bottle of diluting juice. Some nights I drain it, other nights it’s hardly touched.

I love your basket idea. The outgrown Moses basket is down the other side of my bed and at the moment it holds my nursing pillow and a towel for night feeds. I should so add the nappy stuff, breast pads and a top. Anything to save me getting out of bed!

@mummarosie1 If he’s awake he comes into the bathroom in his vibrating chair. If he’s asleep I leave him in his pram/bed and pin the bathroom door open. Then it’s a super fast wash and dash to check on him.

@WhoAteAllthePercyPigs I swear by the swaddle! Stops arms flailing and disturbing him.

@Jellybabie3 don’t iron!! As Hashtag says, weddings and funerals (and maybe job interviews) only. Our ironing board got dug out for the first time since before the birth yesterday and it was for a funeral. Nothing less would have been worth it.

@AMagdalena Thank god for online shopping. I’ve picked up a few supermarket bits so far but the rest will probably come from amazon.

theotherendofthesockportal · 14/11/2017 12:06

@Jellybabie3 my suggestion for stocking fillers for grandparents is a selection of posh jams. They normally do them in Boots. A good alternative to chocolates.

I have done all my shopping but now want to cry over the mountains of wrapping.

HashtagTired · 14/11/2017 14:39

Yes thank goodness for amazon prime. And for PayPal for those other purchases. But my goodness I buy some crap in the middle of the night!! It seems such a good idea at the time but in the cold light of day when the dispatch notifications come through, not so much!

I’m sort of nesting again at home! I’ve been buying things for around the house that we’ve needed for years. I have a list of things that need doing in each room. Things like a new set of drawers here, door hooks there, painting etc. I’ve never spent so much time at home before and I hate the clutter, so I’m sorting stuff out and chucking loads of stuff. I’ve ordered some new wallpaper for the feature wall in the lounge. Loads of frames and going to display them all differently. Storage solutions for the bathroom. I’m loving it!
It keeps my mind busy.
Before ds I worked full time and came hone to eat and sleep. Didn’t really enjoy the house as a home. So it’s nice to appreciate it - we spend enough in the mortgage after all!!

In the mornings I have a routine now in the weekdays. Up no later than 7:15 (dh and ds are already up and dressed). Dh leaves for work at 7:30 and I’m downstairs with dd and ds. I put in a load for the tumble dryer (the washing I put on overnight, almost everything gets tumbled!), out on another washing load. Empty the dishwasher, put a new load on. Clean down the kitchen. Then nappy change ds and dress, feed, put in sling and walk dd to school (only 5 mins, but 10 minutes with dd who stops to look at the leaves 🍁) then walk home and ds and I are then set for the day.
Cook tea. Walk to school to pick up dd. Attend after school stuff as needed (swimming etc). Eat tea. Bed.

And repeat.

The routine helps me so much. Whatever I need to do, by whenever time, a routine is the backbone to my day. I might do different things but the plan is important. I might deviate from the plan but it’s a starting point.

The only way I can function in the day is by:

  1. Having my guaranteed sleep between 8pm and 12 midnight.
  2. Having a fairly easy going ds who just goes with the flow, providing he’s fed and clean.
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Jellybabie3 · 14/11/2017 14:53

Thats impressive hashtag how do you do it all? Is ds not clingy? So he will nap alone?

I have no idea how i would do washing/ironing with ds but maybe thats new mum syndrome.

HashtagTired · 14/11/2017 15:00

A lot of it is because I have a dd5 who entertains him if he’s awake. He’s not that clingy. I am blessed with that at least. As long as he’s fed and dry then he’s normally ok. (My dd was a completely different story!!)
He gets more fidgety in the evening so the morning is the best time to get it done.

If I am out and about, he’s quite happy in his sling or pushchair. This morning I did a mummy’s and buggy’s fit class in a local park and he was awake and just looking around for that. My dd would NEVER have tolerated that.

So yes, I am blessed with a less clingy ds. And to some extent, even if he was clingy, I’d still have to do the school runs etc so he would just have to get on with it. But I’d get much less (if any) housework done.

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AMagdalena · 14/11/2017 15:07

No way would I be able to do as much as you, Hashtag!

DD alowed me to put her down for one her 30 min power naps. Result Grin She's been really good today which probably means I am getting no.fecking.sleep.tonight Hmm

As for Christmas presents, I have bought ONE so far Grin
I have cancelled Amazon Prime subscription because I had been buying too much rubbish at night!

What are you all getting for your LO's?
I wanted to get a Tula carrier for DD, but now I have been slighlty put off as i have read that only children who can sit by themselves should go in one...which is not the advice of a carrying expert in my city (who's a GP), but I am still having secind thoughts..

AMagdalena · 14/11/2017 15:07

Lovely spelling in the above post!

HashtagTired · 14/11/2017 15:22

@AMagdalena find your nearest sling library. Not only will they be able to give you advice but you can hire ones so you try before you buy. They are all very different. You could try wrapping too.
I use a connecta. It’s awesome and ds loves it. It wasn’t my choice, I actually won t in a raffle almost 4 years ago and it was only because my friend reminded me that I tried it, and I love it! So does ds. It’s so quick and easy to use and comes with a newborn adjustment strap so can be used from then. It’s quite a personal thing though, so deffo try before you buy.

I’ve got ds a few bath toys, a light projector thing (like the one in the JL advert) but not much really. Most attention on dd.

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theotherendofthesockportal · 14/11/2017 15:31

For Christmas I’ve bought DD; a my first Christmas teddy, a copy of the night before Christmas, a toy hammock and some ducks for the bath. The ducks for the bath were a stupid middle of the night purchase. Whilst a good idea in theory, in reality they are too small and dangerous. I obviously didn’t read the properly in the middle of the night.

Lovingtyrells · 14/11/2017 15:32

@HashtagTired
It does help thanks ! Especially since this is my first. People have told me about multiple children being difficult. Mine has never wanted to go down at all where as I think some are better from day one. Only think I worry about is spoiling by letting to sleep on me and in the carrier but otherwise I would have no life and I need to Carry on for my own sanity!

@AMagdelena hope your DD and DS sort them selves out soonish ! I do hope it is a phase for me and you both :)

I managed to get DS to sleep in the cot with my arm around him last night but as soon as I moved he wriggled as wasn’t wedged against me and woke up !! Slept today in the sling for a bit as I went out food shopping. Also not convinced by real hunger at night as seems to want the boob for comfort maybe 50% of the time. Did try a dummie and he’s not stupid and spat it!

HashtagTired · 14/11/2017 16:16

I agree Lovingtyrells I think some babies are just born more chilled than others.

As for being concerned about making a rod for your own back, it depends on their age. For me, Ds is 10 weeks old and I choose to do whatever I can to get him to sleep. Feed or cuddle or whatever. I’ll tackle any dependency issues no later than 6 months. Right now I just think he’s too young to mound and learn like that. Call me soft!! It’s a parents choice though and some parents believe early routine and kicking bad habits early on is essential.

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Toonewtobehaving2 · 14/11/2017 16:20

I'm getting more and more nervous as the day goes on about my impending three days alone with DD and DS. Why oh why did I think two under two was a good idea! Why oh why did DH have to have his training when DS is only 4 weeks old.

I really struggle to settle him in the day. He DOES NOT sleep through DD's noise like everyone said he would and takes a good half hour to settle. I'm trying to keep the 'napnin tour Moses basket' routine up and don't really want to wear him in the sling. He has awful trapped wind still and cries about 85% of the time he's awake. Although it's down from actually crying 100% of the time he was awake so that's something.
I've pestered the Gp before anyone asks as well, we have meds for colic and reflux, but nothing seems to help. I've also cut out dairy and onions from my diet. I just think I have a baby that gets bad trapped wind and cries a lot with it. 🙄😧😫😴

Toonewtobehaving2 · 14/11/2017 16:21

' Nap in your Moses basket' - sausage fingers trying to type round DS's head while he Feeds!

AMagdalena · 14/11/2017 16:44

DD had another 45min nap in the pram. Has someone swapped my child or what?!

Jellybabie3 · 14/11/2017 16:59

Well done Magdalena. My ds is asleep on me. Has been for two hours now. This is after 3x failed attempts to put him down. This is what i get for boasting yesterday.

Now i need a wee Confused

HashtagTired · 14/11/2017 17:22

Ds has started cluster feeding a little earlier tonight which is a little inconvenient given it’s tea time and dh is running a bit late. Dd will just have to wait a little bit longer 😬

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Lovingtyrells · 14/11/2017 17:27

@HashtagTired DD11 weeks and I have decided the same re sorting out dependency issues. I did spend first 7ish weeks trying to put down but I got nothing done and was more tierd. Now atleast I know I can get maybe 4/5 hours (broken) sleep with him in my bed with me which is enough to live my life while not at work.

Housework - I do two loads of washing a day and two tumble dryers some cooking and a bit of washing up. I go in shower with the baby monitor weather asleep or awake ! Sometimes have to endure 5 mins crying while I quickly get dressed

Ohb0llocks · 14/11/2017 18:20

@HashtagTired I agree, I feel so much better when I have a bit of routine. DS gets up at 7:45 so I would like to start getting me and DS2 up and ready earlier instead of lounging till he gets up! Going to buy a sling tomorrow so that will help, be nice for walks with DS too so I’ll have both hands free for him.

DS2 still feeding every 2 hours or so. He’s still faffing at the boob a bit though. Latching on and off. Im a bit concerned my let down is too fast because it bloody pours out.

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