Every night feels likes a lifetime

[ThursdayLastWeek]

DS is nearly 7mo and his lack of sleep is getting me down.

I feel like I have troubleshot everything, but nothing works.

Dummy worked for a while - no longer.
In cot/co sleeps - still wakes frequently.
BF or FF - wakes frequently.
In the last week I started to put him down on his front which worked for two nights (well he still woke twice for feeds, but that's good for him) but now that's stopped working too.

I'm really at the end of my tether. He's currently rolling around my bed, chewing the dummy and squealing. And I keep thinking 'I hate him' - and then of course I hate myself

I know people will say it will get better he won't be like this forever, but every single night feels like a lifetime right now. And I can't cope.

We had such an issue with him getting feet and arms stick we bought cot bumpers (I know I know...)
They did really help with the issue. They fit very tightly between the mattress and the bars so there's no way he can roll under them.

I'd report that pm to be honest, it's so cruel to target people with snake oil when they are clearly desperate for a solution.
How is everyone today? Baby bear is having his immunisations today so expecting a roughy night

God, sorry folks. It kept telling me it had failed to post. Oops .
I think I'll just ignore it. I was a bit unsure to start with, as I know there are a few people without names, who are still User....whatever on here.
For some reason I couldn't sleep till gone 12 last night, despite being shattered. Baby VeryTired was on his usual wake ups.
Good luck with the jabs AverageBear. You can't help feeling guilty, despite knowing they are for the best. Nice big dose of Calpol for baby Bear. Oh and for you.

Hubble we had the same issue so he sleeps in a travel cot most of the time. It also prevents escape missions!

One thing I've started to do is try nap time in the playpen (which is massive, I can lie in it full length.)

It means if he does drop off I can sneak off and Get Shit Done.

I'll report the pm.

It's been deleted... the wording a was so spammy I just didn't want to click the link. Wonder what it was? Porn probably ...

'Try this one weird trick to get your baby sleeping!'

Sigh.

Load of rubbish, probably, but you don't want to be clicking links and sending porn to all your contacts speaks from bitter experience!
Hubble i have an image of you curling up to sleep in the playpen while your Dc runs wild in the room beyond! I used to joke that I would hide in ours. Have you managed to get him to sleep in there?

We joke about that too!

Yeah I have. Only half an hour max but it's better than nothing. Once (once) he even woke up, started to panic then saw me sitting on the sofa and dropped back off!
I think separation angst is a big thing with him.

Ah, well done for reporting. I just sort of skim read it and didn't do anything

Good solution Hubble.
Better night here - bed 7:30, up 12, up for day 5! .
Mind you I said that Saturday and then he got up millions of times the following night.

Nope - every 2-3 hours last night. Aaaaaaatrrrrgghhhh!

We've had a couple of better nights here. Waking but not demanding milk, which has meant I haven't then struggled to get back to sleep. Last night he woke at 1.00, came into bed with me, dh went into the spare room and we were up for the day at 6.30 which is pretty good. He is already irritable though, jabs yesterday so today he's going to be fighting things off I suppose, so Calpol is the order of the day!

It's the hopethat kills you isn't it user?

DS has settled into a pattern of sorts - bed approx 7, wake up approx 10,30, wake up between 3/4, awake for day approx 7. Feeds on every wake up. Most nights settle fairly easily though not easily enough for me to relax and go back to sleep myself!

It's far behind ideal, but doable with DH on board.

DS sleeps better after jabs...I'm wondering how many diseases I can get him vaccinated against??

We seem to have regressed from bad sleep to even worse sleep. The longest stretch we've had in the last 4 nights has been an hour. Then DS cries and squirms almost in his sleep, and wakes properly unless I pick him up and put him on me to sleep. I'm back to work in a month and have no idea how I'm going to cope.

He's 9 months and still needs 3 naps because he's so exhausted from not sleeping at night. I know they say that the better they nap the better they sleep at night, but anyone think its worth trying to drop to 2 naps to see if that helps at night?

It's tough isn't it Rebecca because the last thing you want after a tough night is a day with a tired grouchy baby!? So they have their naps but then aren't so tired at night ....repeat ad infinitum......

Hope it continues to get better Thursday. The unpredictability here is killing me - I know he can sleep through - he did it for 6 glorious weeks - it is so frustrating. He likes sleeping on his side which is an issue - he then rolls and wakes himself up. He can roll himself back, but doesnt, just shouts and wakes himself up more.

Rebecca so sorry to hear about your sleep issues - sounds like hell! I am back to work in December and dreading his sleep being the same. What is he waking for? Have you tried PUPD? How long are his naps? I would be tempted to keep them as they are if he needs them, but if your son is using them to catch up on sleep instead of at night and leading to a late difficult bedtime i would be tempted to try and change them.

all round.

Yet again, I slept in 1/2 hr to 1 hr chunks from 12 to 4.30. I can't have got more than 3 hours sleep. I'm kicking myself now, I made the stupid bloody mistake of trying to settle him again rather than just take him in bed to sleep on me. So of course he woke himself up and was wide awake at 5. OH said he'd take him this morning so I got up and fed/ entertained small person till 6.30 then took him in to OH who had of course slept 'terribly' last night and went back to sleep. I could try to have a nap myself, now he's up but I just can't bring myself to sleep now and throw my whole day out.
I just want to sleep at night time. I wouldn't even mind early nights early mornings if the bugger would just let me sleep for more than an hour in a row. The most he does is 2 hours and that's from about 6.30 to 8.30. I just can't sleep quite that early!
Rant over. Sorry, feeling pissed off and sorry for myself.

Ds is definitely starting to transition to one nap - so I'm hoping that will help. He is, shock horror asleep in the playpen and has been for whispers a whole hour.
Dh took him into the spare room from 12-6 last night (he is fabulous) and I feel about ten years younger. Hoping that will break the dependence on milk at night but still give him some comfort. Dh says he wakes a lot, panics, reaches out a paw to check he's there then goes back down.
Really hoping that when he's fully on one nap a day and can toddle by himself he will sleep better.
I took ds into the office yesterday to drop something off and it was interesting to hear people's opinions on sleep... some had perfect sleepers, some terrible ones. And there's always one with the veiled implication that if you just left them to cry they'd be ok...

It's a shame we can't all get together and take turns watching everyone's babies for one night a week isn't it?

You're allowed to feel pissed off imso... it's really tough being this knackered. We understand

Aww Hubble, thanks. You are all such lovely people on here and it helps so much to be able to vent and to hear your stories.
I hope your little boy has a good sleep in his playpen Hubble. Mine was napping in the pram after a walk. Which is all very well but he now has to stay awake for 4 hours till bedtime or have another nap later on which will push bedtime back later.
It's because Daddy is home and doesn't try to stick to any sort of routine.
Gah.

He naps for 40 mins ish morning and late afternoon, and I try and keep him down for 90 mins at lunch, but it varies so much. Do you think that's too much?
He's only had 2 short naps today because we've been out and about so will see how that affects tonight.
User have you tried putting a rolled up towel or something behind him to keep him on his side? So infuriating that you know he can sleep through!!
Hubbles your DH sounds fab!! Mine tried to give me a few hours rest last night but after half an hour of DS crying on him, I gave up and took over again. He's very similar sounding to yours - reaches out a wee hand in his sleep to check I'm there. Definitely a separation thing!

How did everyone do last night? I had the usual, although I managed to get him back off a bit quicker a couple of times. Unfortunately he was up at 4.40 and refused to go back off again so we were up for the day just after 5.
I was planning on trying to have a nap with him now but going back to bed at this time will, I think, just make me feel a bit more lethargic.
On the plus side I made a couple of lasagnas for dinner, while the baby played with toys in the high chair and listened to music. He was a good boy, bless him. We shall see if the mood continues when I attempt to put him outside in his baby gym later, so I can attempt some , much overdue, pruning in the garden. Wish me luck.

Not great. Bad night and only had a 20 min nap at late morning

Currently screaming his head off for the third consecutive hour.

I have a headache. I feel very very low. The house is a mess. We have guests coming this weekend (very critical ones too) and I have no time to shop, cook or clean.
I feel like such a failure, which is not going to helped by the arrival of my mil who has already suggested we get 'a team of cleaners in.' (To clarify, the house isn't that bad - the kitchen and bathrooms get done daily and I'm constantly clearing up after our little darling. ) It's just a bit messy, I reckon an afternoon by myself would sort it. It's just that I never get any time.,,

Not a great night - 4 wake ups, got up at 6 though (usually it's 5). Twice in the night he just needed to be rolled over and tucked back in, but it's the constant anxiety of when he will be up next that's getting to me.
On the plus side I have a load of kit days next month as I go back to work in December and thus have had to start paying our childminder every week until then to keep the place (retainer of 1 day a week's fees). This has meant that since 9 and until probably half 4ish I have been child free (will pick eldest up from school at 3)
It's been lovely. I have deep cleaned the house top to bottom, made proper coffee and actually eaten lunch that hasn't needed to be wolfed down. Wish I could help you out on that front Hubble - I've done more in the last 4.5 hours of cleaning than I've been able to do in weeks.
Will be interesting to see how he's napped with childminder and how he sleeps tonight. Hope tonight is better.